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AIBU?

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Original poster

Lying in on days off.

62 replies

Bestcatmum · 27/08/2022 08:43

I was brought up to get up when I wake up and sieze the day. I work long hours full time in the NHS so like to make the most of my days off not sleep them away.
Is it normal for people in their 40s to stay awake all night playing video games and not get up until 3 or 4 in the afternoon. No kids, admin jobs.
Normally none of my business but I've been asked to collaborate in a project with these people and I've lost count of the times I've sat in my car waiting while they get up. Get washed and dressed and have breakfast and then they look half dead for the rest of the afternoon. No mental illness, no disability they just like to sleep during the day
I decided to pull out of the project because I'm fed up of wasting my time hanging about for the. And now my name is mud. AIBU?

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KangarooKenny · 27/08/2022 08:45

No you’re not.

Immaterialatthispoint · 27/08/2022 08:45

I don’t get it. You know they do not get up until 4pm, so why are you waiting around for them? Do something else until 4.45 or whatever, then go and do the project?

AnneLovesGilbert · 27/08/2022 08:47

Getting up when you wake isn’t inherently more virtuous than having a lie in, even a long one. Sleep is excellent.

AlisonDonut · 27/08/2022 08:48

This is a project in your spare time, not work related?

You are worrying about your name being mud, but you slagged them off by saying they are people in their 40s that can't get dressed on time, so they have every reason to say what they want about you right back.

You know not everyone is like you, right?

LittleBearPad · 27/08/2022 08:49

Why are you hanging around for people who you know won’t be up early. Just organise the ‘project’ later in the day.

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Bestcatmum · 27/08/2022 08:49

They asked me to come over at midday everytime. Anyway I have stuff to do in the afternoon and evenings so they need to meet me halfway.

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CheshireCats · 27/08/2022 08:49

YABU

PepsiMaxandPringleStacks · 27/08/2022 08:50

People can do what they want to do in their spare time, if they want to stay up late then sleep in then let them. Biscuit

If I didn't have my kids I'm sure I would sleep in later than I currently do.

Hugasauras · 27/08/2022 08:50

What time are you organising stuff? Pre-kids I wouldn't generally be up before 10 at a weekend and sometimes later! Sadly a distant memory now ..:

PuttingDownRoots · 27/08/2022 08:51

If they have agreed a certain time, they should be ready.

But there is nothing wrong with a lie in, S long as you have no commitments

Bestcatmum · 27/08/2022 08:52

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Catapultaway · 27/08/2022 08:52

So you "get up when you wake up" but others who wake up at a different time from you should be judged as lazy?

GooglyEyeballs · 27/08/2022 08:53

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That escalated quickly!

TheOrigRights · 27/08/2022 08:53

The only concern for you is they failed to meet a time commitment, and why when you reacted your name becomes mud. Are you saying that they are slagging you off because you won't wait for 4 hours?

mountainsunsets · 27/08/2022 08:54

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Maybe you need some more sleep if you're already being so rude this early in the morning 😂

stopitstopitnow · 27/08/2022 08:55

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I'd go back to bed if I were you, clearly getting up early makes you grumpy.

PhotoDad · 27/08/2022 08:55

YABU to dictate how others spend their free time.
YANBU to expect people to be ready at the time they have agreed to meet you.

TheOrigRights · 27/08/2022 08:56

I find that catching up with my sleep on my days off helps me not kill anyone seize the other days!

Hugasauras · 27/08/2022 08:56

😂😂😂

SmallPrawnEnergy · 27/08/2022 08:57

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Oh pet, if you’re this much of a twat to people IRL I can see why they’re sleeping half the day to avoid you. I wonder why your name is mud? 🤔

Ponoka7 · 27/08/2022 08:57

You choose to do things of a day, a combination of upbringing and rigid thinking. What they want to do is of a night, so that means that they sleep of a day. You can't commit to late afternoon/evenings, so you can't help. If you are making yourself unavailable because you think they should be available during the day, then you are out of order.

abovedecknotbelow · 27/08/2022 09:01

Mannerless troglodytes/ you sound a peach. Go and rub your halo if virtuosity for a bit.

Dadaya · 27/08/2022 09:01

If they have no kids or commitments they can do whatever they want. However, if they’ve signed up for a project with you then that’s a commitment, and it’s rude of them not to get up at the appropriate time to participate. If they don’t want to get up they shouldn’t have signed up for the project.

TheKeatingFive · 27/08/2022 09:01

I can see a lot of you are also mannerless troglodytes.

Gosh I can't think why anyone would avoid hanging out with you 😂

PuttingDownRoots · 27/08/2022 09:02

I think mannerless troglodyte is the second most creative insult I've had this week.