Painting 5 year old dds toe nails

[LittleMissEs]

We are off on holiday tomorrow, I painted my daughters toe nails, DH has thrown a tantrum and told me to remove it talking about it being inappropriate etc, I tried to compromise suggesting to change it to clear purple glitter husband is adamant he wants it off before our trip tomorrow. AIBU to refuse to remove it…. Is it such a big deal ? I mean I couldn’t care less if her toes are painted or not, she asked and I obliged.

I paint my 5yos fingers and toes all the time I see nothing wrong, she asks and I oblige! You can get child friendly nail polish that peels off too.

And he is introducing your daughter to the patriarchy and men telling her what she can and can't wear.

If your daughter asked for cute toes I don't see the harm. He should do some feminist reading quickly.

Not at all! I painted my toddlers toe nails with piggy paint, even my sons! It's just fun dress up and they love it.

DS8 loves having his nails painted. He doesn't have them done during term time but I don't see the harm. Nails are nails. If your DD wants pretty nails, what's the problem? It doesn't affect her health and is 100% reversible and removable. It's harmless.

Is your dh usually so controlling and difficult?

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I think removing it is far worse. You've taught her that as women and girls need to adjust our outward appearance to comply with men's ideals (whether they are conservative or sexualised) rather than feeling free to express ourselves in whichever way we please.

I get you don’t want to cause a hassle but you’ve backed down and essentially shown that if he kicks off enough, you will do whatever he says.

He needs to understand that his opinion is not more important than yours. You are both the parent and your say is just as important.

If his views is that it’s teaching her to be vain, you need to say that no, its teaching her something she likes. Besides toe nails can be hidden by socks!!

What about the 100s of other threads where people suggest parents need to present a united front and compromise? The OP says she couldn't care less if they are painted or not...?

When the united front is daddy having a tantrum and mummy rushing to make sure you look just how daddy wants so he doesn’t shout then that’s not a unit front, it’s just dad throwing his weight about and mum making sure he can’t scare everyone by doing exactly what he said.

OP's DH didn't present a united front when he had a tantrum over OP painting her daughters nails.

This is sad. It's not how I feel before I go on holiday. Are there more issues you haven't spelled out here?

When my ID twins were newborn we painted their nails to tell them apart! No big deal. Your DH needs to get a grip