The tattoo is his ex wife and her kids names.
When my fiancé was 19, he married a 30 year old woman who had two kids of her own. As a wedding present to her, he got her and the kids names tattooed on his back. 5 years later they divorced as he wanted kids in the future and she didn’t want anymore.
My fiancé hasn’t seen / spoken to them since the divorce 8 years ago. Last we heard, they had moved abroad. He said he was young and stupid and regrets wasting those years. I’m not jealous or anything, I know he had a life before I came along!
I’ve mentioned the tattoo a couple of times before - he said he’s had it so long, he forgets it’s there / it doesn’t bother him because he can’t see it anyway!
It was a little awkward explaining to my family on holiday last year. I’ve asked him if he ever thought about getting it removed / covered up and he said he would rather spend the money on us, the wedding or a nice holiday. I think he maybe scared of the pain? He hasn’t said this but he is not very good when it comes to pain!
I’m sure if I told him how much it’s bothering me then he would do something about it. I just wanted to check if I was being unreasonable as it is his body so his choice at the end of the day.
what do you think?
AIBU?
AIBU: To ask my fiancé to get a tattoo covered up / removed ?
leopardfish · 23/08/2022 10:25
Am I being unreasonable?
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POLLNamechangetime89 · 23/08/2022 19:10
Not the point - but I feel sad for the children who’s names he got tattooed on his back and then never saw again once the relationship broke down. I don’t think I could be with someone who would do that - let alone the horrid tattoo thing.
Namechangetime89 · 23/08/2022 19:10
Not the point - but I feel sad for the children who’s names he got tattooed on his back and then never saw again once the relationship broke down. I don’t think I could be with someone who would do that - let alone the horrid tattoo thing.
leopardfish · 23/08/2022 10:36
Thank you everyone for your replies!
Obviously I’m not going to force him to cover it up / remove it, I was just wondering if it was too much to ask? I will stay with him either way because I love him. It doesn’t bother me that he was married before, I just can’t help feel a little sad when I’m lying next to him and that’s all I can see. I’m pregnant and already wondering what to explain to little one when they’re old enough to read. Maybe I’m thinking too much into it
EmeraldShamrock1 · 23/08/2022 20:51
Do you both intend to fully erase his DC from his life.
Why isn't he in contact with the DC as someone who wanted more DC.
EmeraldShamrock1 · 23/08/2022 20:51
Do you both intend to fully erase his DC from his life.
Why isn't he in contact with the DC as someone who wanted more DC.
MistyRock · 23/08/2022 18:13
I honestly cannot believe the amount of people that wouldn't be bothered about this! I'm amazed. I'd bloody hate it.
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catinboots123 · 23/08/2022 22:23
You're a weirdo. It's a tattoo.
MistyRock · 23/08/2022 18:13
I honestly cannot believe the amount of people that wouldn't be bothered about this! I'm amazed. I'd bloody hate it.
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