Sister armchair diagnosed DD with autism

[Mancie]

My DD is 2 years old and 2 months. My sister has been saying for a while that DD is “clearly” autistic. Reason being DD does not like most people. There are 3 or 4 people she likes but she’s now decided decided she dislikes her grandma (my mum) who has looked after her weekly since she was a newborn. DD does not play with other children, won’t even talk to them and if they try and talk to her she will turn away or start y to cry. She will not talk to adults either.

She rarely eats. Recently went 2 days without eating a single thing. She can say words (kind of) but does not talk in sentences. She will spend hours playing with “containers” as in putting something in a container and then taking it out again and will sing the same song over and over again for hours and does not get bored of it.

But she had good eye contact. Will point to stuff etc

What do you think? AIbU to say she’s a typical 2 year old??

I'm no expert, but most children at this age are not expected to play with others. They, at most will play alongside others. All children that age have things they obsess over. There are also many who don't speak at this age, especially at the moment as a result of mask wearing.
That said, any concerns can be taken to the GP or the health visitor.

In all honesty I would get a peaditrician to take a good look at your daughters development as from your posts it sounds like she may be struggling. Girls tend to be a bit better than boys at hiding ASD traits, if they have them, by masking and slightly quirky forms of mimicing observed peer social actions so it can be missed till they hit secondary school. Then they can quickly turn into a nightmare to parent and to engage with.

The earlier the extra help such kids need to navigate life and school then the better their chances of being happy and becomming independant adults later. [Have kids with ASD so have the worn ripped t-shirt of expereince]

Some seeming ASD traits may be down to hearing problems, being very shy and introverted or a possible global delay that needs some early extra help. Sometimes, if preterm or a difficult birth, it could even be the start of complex specific learning disabilities that make it a bit harder for a child to make sense of the surrounding world they are trying to navigate.

Whatever is behind this - it is still worth getting this checked out just in case your DD just needs a bit of extra help before they start school.