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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

To think this is pretty bad of DH?

82 replies

PlantMe · 21/08/2022 15:51

DH went to London on a boozy night out. He doesn't do it often but when he does he really does. I mean 6 times a year.

I've looked after 2DS all weekend (baby and toddler).

He came home this morning at 7am. Think he had 4 hours sleep on a sofa. But he said he was OK

We have no food in the house. I put baby for his afternoon nap and left toddler and DH and went to tesco alone (heaven)

Just come back to find DH fast asleep, the kitchen COVERED in flour, DS1 sitting on top of DH (also covered in flour) and the baby still sleeping (He needed to be woken up about 45 mins ago). Thank god baby was still asleep as if he'd woken up DH wouldn't have heard him crying as no monitor anywhere near sleeping DH.

No harm done but DS1 had free rein on whole house, kitchen (He can climb onto work surfaces etc)

DH slightly apologetic but when I said it was pretty rubbish of him he said I sounded "shrill"

He then apologised again and said "it's kind of funny"

Am I being OTT to feel a little upset than he thinks I should?

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thelittleapple · 21/08/2022 22:39

I’ve never been so hungover that I fell asleep on the kitchen floor while my child sat on me. I’ve been very hungover. This sounds like drunk.

PlantMe · 21/08/2022 22:40

I stay and this is their reality.

I leave and he passes out all day with them.

I don't trust any court. I've seen so many cases of it going wrong

Hes a teacher FFS. He will be more than capable of presenting a good front to any court

I know I need to leave but pls don't presume I'm staying cos I like a nice house and I don't want to rock the boat. I don't care about that. I'm trying to be sensible, pragmatic. Work out how to reduce risk to DC.

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thelittleapple · 21/08/2022 22:42

You sound amazing. Sod him, and work on a solution for you and your children.

thelittleapple · 21/08/2022 22:43

I would start with photographic evidence of his drinking.

BimmyTheMouse · 21/08/2022 22:46

Have you spoken to a solicitor? Might be worth it. You sound like a great mum but it really sounds as if you and the kids need to get out.

Ottersmith · 21/08/2022 22:55

Can't you take them and go to your Mum's for a week or something while you calm down? Might make him see how much of a dick he is?

hotdiggetydog · 21/08/2022 22:59

Pumperthepumper · 21/08/2022 16:12

Flour is really dangerous for them to play with, it can settle in their lungs.

Bet you are fun at parties

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