Neighbours complaining about our children in the garden

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Just a rant really! We have the most miserable neighbours who moan about anything and everything. Today we’ve had a knock on the door to say our children are to loud in the garden and “is there something wrong with them” 😮 I’m outraged. Ended up shutting the door in their face. I make sure my children are in by 7pm and do not allow them to scream or shout in anger when playing outside otherwise I bring them on. They are 5 and 1 and I cannot believe they had the audacity to say it! Yes they are loud, but it’s laughing and playing. They’ve lived here 40 years and have never had this before apparently. We are not the sort of people who sit all day and night drinking, smoking and blasting music until the early hours. From 7pm you don’t hear a peep from us in the garden. They’ve made me feel incredibly awkward although I know we’ve done nothing wrong, what would they prefer my children say inside all day? The kids aren’t even in the garden all day every day as we are out and about most days so it’s literally maybe two hours max most days. I’m tempted to knock the door and see what they suggest I do but there is no reasoning with people like that. Thanks for reading 🫣

But they weren't complaining at 7pm. They were complaining about 1pm.

My neighbour 2 doors down is a childminder. THAT would give your neighbour a heart attack 😂I don't really notice it anymore although she does have one child currently who I've nicknamed "angry baby" as it does nothing but yell. Its a toddler, but it always sounds pissed off lol. The other kids play happily and can be very sweet to listen to.
Our winters are so long and crap, let them enjoy the sun while they can.

Even if your DC were shrieking (not saying they are, just if they were) the neighbours wouldn't have a leg to stand on as it's classed as sounds of living and is not considered a statutory nuisance.

Just ignore them. If they come to the door again tell them that any further complaints on the issue will be considered harassment and reported as such and then shut the door.

Baffled at the idea that 7pm is "late". On what planet!?

Tell them to do one. Your kids are just being kids which is 100 times better than sitting on a phone or ipad all day. If they complain again maybe suggest that a house in the country side would suit their needs better. Ffs.

Tell them to get lost, live your life!

Ignore them and continue to let your children play.

Its a back garden, not a library. So as long as they aren't shrieking and its just normal young children noise then you are doing nothing wrong.

Just ignore the neighbour. If they come back again be polite but firm.

I'm rather fond of a bit of ABBA but this is a rather silly example. Music of any type played full blast every day is anti-social and not comparable.

Not late at all,it'll get later and later though.

The neighbours better enjoy the earlier nights while they can.

They're in by 7, which is more thsn reasonable.

What time are they in the garden from?

Go to the council about excess noise, I wonder what they say (after the stopped laughing).

Depends on the noise they are making. When I was a child my brother and I knew not to scream or yell so as not to bother the neighbours. But the children next door to us one over definitely have not been taught to be respectful of close neighbours and when they are out their screaming and yelling renders our garden unusable. However the ones directly next door play at nice levels, just lovely laughter and chatter, they are well brought up children all round.

The balls on their side of the garden sound very annoying, I'd be miffed if I had balls landing in my flower beds too.

You've tried being reasonable now I'd ignore them, some people are never pleased.

It’s tough shit on them really isn’t it.
if you are out a fair bit and children aren’t making excessive noise or making noice late at night I don’t see it’s that unreasonable.

it’s summer, it’s the school holidays, if they don’t like the sound of children they’d better move to a field or retirement flat. Children exist.

The thing is when the parents (who are usually accustomed to the noise) say Yes they are loud it usually means they are excessively loud. The parents don't care because the kids are outside and not annoying them, but it doesn't mean they aren't annoying everyone else.

Also when you say you do not allow them to scream or shout in anger, what about screaming and shouting not in anger? It's equally unnecessary. You can play without screaming full stop

Maybe yu can come over and tell my neighbours, they literally shout in their garden adn now their toddler is doing the same. To the point I can here them at the furtherest point in my house as though they are right next to me and thats with windows closed.

Imagine if I played my music in the garden as loud as they are - no doubt people would say im being unreasonably but people and kids sshouting in the garden endlessly is annoying too.

Can only take your word that they weren't being loud.

Why are you putting in bold certain words? Do you think people are not able to read and comprehend otherwise?

How on earth do you"not allow" your kids to throw balls over the fence these things happen accidentally...

Why are your 5yo and 1yo outside all the time being loud (your words op)
And you say they dont scream? Nothing is worse then a 1yo... they shriek and make other weird noises lets be honest here...😂

And you say its only(?) Until 7pm
Long day until 7pm op. For a 1yo? Put yourself in their shoes.kids are loud. It could be quite annoying. And you might not find your own kids annoying but thatdoesnt mean they aren't annoying...

Could be worse, OP, one of mine verbally stims in the garden so my neighbours get to hear them chanting their word/phrase/sound of choice over and over in varying tones and volumes

Why are you putting in bold certain words? Do you think people are not able to read and comprehend otherwise? It's a fairly conventional way of quoting people @LOLOLOLOLOLOLOL and because it was specific bits I was quoting it didn't seem necessary to use the quote function to quote OPs entire opening post (which is bad form in itself). Does that answer satisfy the thread police?

I agree with the PP who said that shouting in anger isn't any worse for the person trying to enjoy their garden than shouting or screaming or shrieking in joy. Both are painful to listen to for prolonged periods.

Yes, your children have a right to enjoy their garden, but if even you admit they are "loud", maybe it wouldn't hurt to take a second look at precisely how loud they are and step in when they're too noisy, even if it's not "angry" noise.

There is a hell of a lot worse neighbours than a one year old! Nothing is worse?? Really??

Jesus, you never watched neighbours from hell?

It's just so rude and infantile.

ODFOD

There’s nothing they can do about it. I’m sure everyone prefers to live in silence (apart from their own noise of course). Your neighbours would need to move somewhere remote if they expect silence.