Big house = classless

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I don't know if we've just been unlucky, but I've found in the last few places I've lived (mix of streets and relatively new estates) it's always the people in the bigger, more expensive homes who seem to have f*ck all class and show no consideration for neighbours?

Case in point - on one side I have a row of affordable housing - smaller terrace houses with gardens. On the other larger plots - 3x the price. Both inhabited by families. All the racket comes from these bigger houses. Dogs left barking all day. Loud music. Screaming kids. The constant crack-crack-crack of a fly zapper on the new pergola. Obnoxious new Porsche being revved next door.

AIBU to think money doesn't buy you class and often indicates extreme levels of entitlement?

I'm sorry if I've hit a nerve BTW

Size of house and behaviour are not related as well you know. You can get rude people in any size of house.

Well we're in an affluent market town with some pockets of deprivation but nothing like some parts of the UK. The mix of affordable:market housing is probably lower than the places you're referring to, and the social rented mix of that affordable housing part is also relatively low. We have maybe one loud family in the housing association terraces who are regularly noisy but I know one of their kids has SEN as they go to school with my eldest. It's often her I can hear and that doesn't count as arsey behaviour.

On the other side one has three children who come home from school and scream and shout in the communal garden area in the middle of the estate, have been pulled up by other neighbours for
Pulling up planting, leaving rubbish, etc etc. Just crappy behavious

Op , read your posts again, nearly every single post you keep going on about. “People with money” . It’s hugely clear you’ve let your envy get the better of you and started this ill advised thread.

honestly, give it up, there is no hiding it. It’s better to focus on improving your own lot, this seething envy of your neighbours is only hurting you.

Don't know if you're aware but you're not obliged to open, read or respond to threads you don't like. If you've got anything intelligent to contribute then go for it, even if it's to tell me why you think I'm wrong. I can take it. Telling me I'm obsessed, lying, jealous, etc. is really worse than hiding the thread and reading something else

Worse for who,,cmon, just own it.

Just saying how seriously bad it can be in some neighbourhoods. My son and his family live in a large house, but they could afford to choose one thats fairly rural, not too close to others, and its wonderfully peaceful. Most of us have to accept we’ll have neighbours who’ll annoy us, hopefully only occasionally.

Check - woman two doors over with 5 dogs. Kept in kennels outside. Fed at 8.30 every night so barking none stop for 30 mins. They wake everyone barking at 6.30 when they get fed. She occasionally goes outside and yells at them in a sort of loud, growling, threatening voice. Poor bloody dogs

I have no issue with people have Porsches, nice EVs etc. Good for them. It's the guy who moves his Porsche off his drive every morning to get his electric car out to drive to work and has to Rev it before he reverses, then leaves it idling while he prats about with the other car.

Yes, because most council housing estates are known for their peace and quiet. I’m not saying everyone who lives on a C estate behaves without consideration for their neighbours but they are hardly places of calm and tranquility.

All human beings can be inconsiderate. It has v little to do with how much money one might have. Some people are arseholes. Some people are ok 🤷🏻‍♀️

Missing the point I know but I always though ‘classless’ was not someone with low class but someone with undeterminable class - someone who’s class you can’t distinguish.

Ie. A Scot, Welsh or the Irish in England - classless as no one can read their class.
Or a northerner down south as no one in the south can understand the class structure in a different regional accent.

I always considered ‘classlessness’ a positive trait as the classless people I knew were very versatile in work and social as they could move in any group effortlessly.

Besides the point I know

I do understand your point but on the other hand I'm wondering why my experience has been the way I've outlined in my first post. The majority of the nuisance has always tended to come from the bigger, more expensive houses - admittedly it's the acceptable middle class type of nuisance, but it's entirely through ignorance / choice of those people. And they mostly seem to be the big houses!

It's not totally beside the point as it's probably led to a misunderstanding. I don't mean it in the sense you've mentioned above. I'd always assumed it was the opposite of classy, poised, decent, etc. Like having no class. I see I'm probably wrong to use it like that thorough

Rude and entitled people exist in all parts of society

I live in a big house and have never given any neighbour cause to complain. When I lived in a small house, I didn't either.
Obnoxious and inconsiderate people will be the same whatever size house you put them in.

I also live in a large house, as do my neighbours, it’s not an estate. So there isn’t many of us, but none of us are a nuisance, we are not vulgar or Ill mannered as we live in “one of those pricey houses” to quote the op. And we were no a nuisance when we lived In a small house when we were younger, and everything in between and our neighbours then were fine too.

sorry op, you’re not going to get anyone to agree with your rhetoric here, except on one point. You’re right, money doesn’t buy you class. And being skint doesn’t bestow it on you either, clearly. You eithrr have it or you don’t and it’s not about income.

It’s usually the opposite. The ones with “new money” are the absolute worst. I know a few very rich landowners (friends with the Queen sort; aristocracy) and they are absolutely lovely and down to earth.