AIBU quick!

[HappyBinosaur]

I am about to go to a very posh wedding drinks reception. Someone has made a negative comment and now I’m worried! I am wearing a lovely dress with lace top and midi length pleated skirt, bare legs and low heels. It is black and this person says I can’t wear it to a wedding for this reason.

But….. I am the vicar that took the wedding! And it’s the nicest and most formal vicar dress I have to wear with my vicar dog collar. Also everyone knows that vicars often wear black so I thought it would be okay. I am wearing a dog collar so it is obvious that I am the vicar!

AIBU to wear it?

Wear it! Sounds lovely.

Of course you are. You're the vicar!

Of course you are. Even if you weren’t the vicar, it’s perfectly acceptable to wear just about any colour now.

It's absolutely fine - ignore the negative comments.

I think it sounds lovely and whoever made the comment is obviously not very observant if you were the vicar who took the wedding. Take no notice and enjoy the reception ☺️

It’s fine.

Sounds fine to me , vicars wear black it’s normal .

I know the dress you mean- it's lovely and you will look super!

Sorry, I'm not sure what a vicar means. But it sounds like a lovely dress to wear to a wedding.

Loads of people wear black to a wedding these days. And of course being a vicar u can wear black anyway

Where’s it from? 😊

Of course it is fine, but even if it were something that were deemed unsuitable, there wouldn't be anything anyone could do about it as you were about to walk into the Reception.
What a weird thing for anyone to say out loud, even if they were thinking it in their head

Even if you wasn't a vicar, you can wear black to a wedding if you really want

Who criticised your outfit? And have they ever seen a vicar before?

🤣

Sounds lovely. I've been to many a wedding where some of the guests have worn black and they weren't vicars! 🤣
I'd say go for it!

Is it your family member that asked, 'oh are you doing a funeral?' 🤣
Or did you overhear someone saying 'and of course we can't wear black...'?

I think you're fine. Special rules for vicars!

Can you share a link to the dress? It sounds fab, and as a sister in the clergy, I’m very interested!

I’m there and I’ve had lots of positive comments about my dress!!! People hardly ever comment on my clergy clothes so I am happy I made the right choice. I’ll try to find a link for those who want it.
Thanks all! It’s AIBU at its best 😀

I REALLY wanna see a picture of you OP, this outfit sounds fantastic

It was a family member at my house. I wore robes for the service and so didn’t have smart clothes underneath them. I came home to get changed and they literally said ‘are you wearing that? You can’t wear black to a wedding’.
I have seen threads on here saying the same so I had a moment of self doubt, especially as it’s such a formal do at a posh venue.

Thanks again.

Your family member is being silly. I've worn black to plenty of weddings. At mine and DH's wedding, our celebrant wore a black dress. I honestly didn't care what she wore, she gave us a beautiful ceremony, that was the important bit. I'm assuming that you did likewise.

Did some of our guests wear black? Probably, but tbh I didn't notice, I was too busy getting married and then having a wonderful day to even notice what our guests were wearing.

I live in black, including to weddings as long as the actual outfit is appropriate (and I'm not a vicar).

If I post a picture it might be a bit outing so if you know who I am in real life please don’t ever mention any of my MN posts to me!

I hope I’ve chopped my head off ok in this picture!!!