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7 out of ten children in poverty

188 replies

Gilead · 20/08/2022 09:45

Come from families where at least on parent is employed. 40% of UC claimants are working families BUT Sunak blames those on Welfare for inflation and he wants to cut benefits by at least £1000 per annum.
AIBU to think that the Tories are trying to create a two tier state?

OP posts:
hattie43 · 20/08/2022 23:31

I think when household budgets become more and more squeezed it always opens the discussion about benefits .

Personally I don't think any healthy working age person should be allowed benefits for a prolonged timescale . The welfare state was there to support those in a period of need not be an income replacement for life . The only people who should be on long term benefits are the disabled and pensioners .

GreenLunchBox · 20/08/2022 23:43

Kendodd · 20/08/2022 20:06

£2.25 to feed a family of four!
Can't remember which Tory it was who said you only need 30p per head.

That was 30p Lee 🤪🙄🤔

GreenLunchBox · 20/08/2022 23:45

AndSoFinally · 20/08/2022 20:43

When childcare for a 0-3 year old is some people's entire wage that might be why only one parent is employed.

But that shouldn't be an option. It's not like the cost of childcare is a secret?! It's not on to say working isn't worth my while, so I'll stay home and claim benefits instead. If you can work and pay your own childcare, then that's what you need to do, even if it means you're not left with much 🤷🏻

Oh, ok. Thanks for the words of wisdom 😂

Rosebel · 20/08/2022 23:46

GurningGolfer · 20/08/2022 12:40

They don't needs funds! If you're on benefits you have access to tons of free courses or options to retrain. But you have to be arsed to actually properly look into it all.

I don't think the courses are free but even if they are what are you supposed to do with your children while you train?
People on benefits or where only one person is working can't afford childcare,
It's not as easy as you make ou6

Frequency · 20/08/2022 23:51

You can get free courses if you're on a low income but you still have to be available for f/t work so the courses cannot be more than 16 hours a week. You must leave the course if offered a job that does not work around the course and it's reliant on there being useful courses in your locale as you must be local to get the grant.

There are also free online courses but these really aren't worth the paper they are not written on. They won't help anyone become employable.

And, as another poster pointed out, you can only get funding if you don't already have a level 3 or higher qualification, so that useless GNVQ in Media Studies you did when you were 16 means you cannot retrain.

There is the option of OU but that option is open to everyone not just those on a low income.

Gilead · 21/08/2022 01:23

@jcyclops it’s odd it was definitely about this morning. Check on me, I’ve been around these parts for a good many years and don’t usually balls things up. Always apologise when I do. Also freely admit to being a Labour Party member.

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EilonwyWithRedGoldHair · 21/08/2022 01:25

hattie43 · 20/08/2022 23:31

I think when household budgets become more and more squeezed it always opens the discussion about benefits .

Personally I don't think any healthy working age person should be allowed benefits for a prolonged timescale . The welfare state was there to support those in a period of need not be an income replacement for life . The only people who should be on long term benefits are the disabled and pensioners .

What about carers? If you're caring full time - and full time for some carers is pretty much 24/7 - you can't work plus you're saving the country a lot of money.

Florenz · 21/08/2022 02:15

newfriend05 · 20/08/2022 23:21

I'm sorry but UC is £328 a month !, and that is for food, Electric , Gas , water everything apart from rent unless you pay the bedroom tax which you have to pay as well so how how can that be cut.. Who is their right mind would wanna live on just that is the Tories picking on trying to keep the rich rich again

Nobody should want to live on UC.

DdraigGoch · 21/08/2022 02:29

Maybe the 20 quid a week will stop some smoking or gambling
It won't. Remember that Scotland tried minimum alcohol pricing? Instead of cutting back on drinking, those who were addicted just cut back on other things, even to the detriment of their children.

ilovesooty · 21/08/2022 02:35

If you're working full time and so poorly paid you're having to claim top up benefits when are you going to find time to do extra courses even if you're eligible for them?

ScootyAlan · 21/08/2022 08:53

EilonwyWithRedGoldHair · 21/08/2022 01:25

What about carers? If you're caring full time - and full time for some carers is pretty much 24/7 - you can't work plus you're saving the country a lot of money.

Absolutely! Carers get paid PENCE per hour. PENCE.
They can't strike. The pitiful carers allowance they are given is taxed as a wage, and counted against benefits, when they've usually given up a decent job to care for their charge. Official carers get paid a proper wage. My toryscum MPs response to this? Suck it up buttercup. Proper carers are fully trained. He thinks unpaid carers can't wipe a butt, or change an ng tube? Hoist someone immobile?

whiteroseredrose · 21/08/2022 09:03

Frequency · 20/08/2022 16:23

Low-income families are still entitled to UC/WTC/CTC when both parents are full-time employed.

I got around £40 p/w UC when I was in two full-time positions and neither was NMW. One was slightly more per hour (£9.50) and one was salaried at £17.5k p/a.

But isn't it awful that two, full time working adults don't bring in enough money to live properly.

Effectively employers can get away with underpaying because the Government will step in.

We've allowed housing prices to become extortionate with daft policies too.

Not many moons ago families could manage on one working income. Why have successive governments allowed things to deteriorate so badly?

mydogisthebest · 21/08/2022 09:16

@Gilead it seems it depends where you live as to whether you get pushed to find work.

When I was 60, not in great health, I found myself out of work and went to claim benefits. The job centre were telling me to apply for jobs that were 2 bus journeys away (I don't drive) and would take over an hour to get to and often quite manual jobs which I would not have been capable of doing.

I only signed on for 2 months and they made me feel lazy and useless. They kept on and on about jobs that I just would not have been able to do. This was when I was living in Essex.

I now live in East Midlands. I have neighbours who have 4 children aged 12 to 3 months. They are both 30, left school at 17. Mum has worked 2 years since leaving school, dad has worked 5. He has not worked for the last 7 years. They can both drive, they have 2 cars so no problems getting to a job.

They tell people that they don't want to work. They think my DH is crazy to still be working at 65. The woman actually said that the reason my DH looks so old is because he has worked too much!

They manage to run 2 cars, feed 4 children plus 2 dogs and 3 cats because he works cash in hand doing delivery driving for a takeaway and doing gardening, decorating and other handyman work during the day.

The job centre don't push him to find work. There is plenty of work where we live.

My next door neighbour recently signed on and because he said he was depressed because his job sacked him they said they won't push him to find a job so not to worry!

Changethesign · 21/08/2022 09:26

mydogisthebest · 21/08/2022 09:16

@Gilead it seems it depends where you live as to whether you get pushed to find work.

When I was 60, not in great health, I found myself out of work and went to claim benefits. The job centre were telling me to apply for jobs that were 2 bus journeys away (I don't drive) and would take over an hour to get to and often quite manual jobs which I would not have been capable of doing.

I only signed on for 2 months and they made me feel lazy and useless. They kept on and on about jobs that I just would not have been able to do. This was when I was living in Essex.

I now live in East Midlands. I have neighbours who have 4 children aged 12 to 3 months. They are both 30, left school at 17. Mum has worked 2 years since leaving school, dad has worked 5. He has not worked for the last 7 years. They can both drive, they have 2 cars so no problems getting to a job.

They tell people that they don't want to work. They think my DH is crazy to still be working at 65. The woman actually said that the reason my DH looks so old is because he has worked too much!

They manage to run 2 cars, feed 4 children plus 2 dogs and 3 cats because he works cash in hand doing delivery driving for a takeaway and doing gardening, decorating and other handyman work during the day.

The job centre don't push him to find work. There is plenty of work where we live.

My next door neighbour recently signed on and because he said he was depressed because his job sacked him they said they won't push him to find a job so not to worry!

I would bet there are factors they aren’t telling you as this isn’t typical if both can work unless one or both is a carer or they have a disability themselves they may just not want to say? Or maybe he is self employed and declaring the cash jobs ?

Seymour5 · 21/08/2022 09:40

@newfriend05 £328 for four weeks is for a single person under state pension age. Unless that person has a disability they aren’t getting benefits for, it should only be a stopgap between jobs. I live in an area where unemployment has traditionally been high, and there are lots of vacancies. Unskilled? Volunteer and get some skills. There is help available from a variety of organisations to complete applications, and for basic qualifications. The charity shop where I volunteer (I’m old) has helped some ‘never worked’ develop the skills and confidence to find paid jobs.

Of course people who have genuine barriers to working should get help, I’d advocate for more generous disability benefits and far more support for carers.

mydogisthebest · 21/08/2022 11:40

Changethesign · 21/08/2022 09:26

I would bet there are factors they aren’t telling you as this isn’t typical if both can work unless one or both is a carer or they have a disability themselves they may just not want to say? Or maybe he is self employed and declaring the cash jobs ?

He is definitely not self employed and declaring the cash.

It seems unlikely either have a disability. He, as I said, is doing manual work and she cleans the house, gardens, walks the dogs, drives to and from the school. Of course she has the excuse of the children as to why she can't or won't work.

They have said a few times that people that work are mugs and that no way would they work set hours, days etc. He only really works between 10am and 3pm. My DH offered him work a while ago and he turned it down saying he was not prepared to work the hours DH wanted him to or register as self employed

5128gap · 21/08/2022 12:12

GurningGolfer · 20/08/2022 12:33

I've struggled at times with all the huge bills like any normal family, have dipped into savings and then put back in when I can. Worked hard to get promotions and spent money in doing so. Just being a responsible adult I guess, I don't drink or smoke, have sky TV, expensive phones etc it's all about the right priorities. I dont understand why some people plead poverty and 'can't afford to feed their kids' yet have all the above. It needs tackling. Maybe the 20 quid a week will stop some smoking or gambling or wasting money in mcds or Costa etc or maybe it'll be the straw that breaks the camels back and encourages them to retrain . I dont know but something needs doing - people are far too reliant on the state these days and calling for change - make your own change.

People are actually far less reliant on the state these days.
In my life time, I've seen 60 year old women able to retire and rely on the state for a pension.
I've seen elderly people able to rely on the state to provide care, while retaining their assets.
I've seen people able to rely on the state for eye care, prescriptions and dentistry, a GP who will see them without a month wait and ambulances that arrive in time to save their lives.
To rely on the state to provide their children with milk at school. To go to university, relying on the state to pay their fees, and living costs.
To rely on the state to provide an immediate income if they dont work, with top ups on request for unexpected expenses and to provide long term income if they are sick.
Reliance on the state these days is the lowest I can recall, given there's so little left to rely on, and it hasn't done a thing to help or 'motivate' people escape poverty. All its resulted in is a decline in basic quality of life, higher incidences of child poverty and people relying on charity to eat.

ShelfyMcShelfface · 21/08/2022 12:24

Are benefits not going up in line with inflation in April? That's a bigger pay rise than a lot of people in work will get.

ShelfyMcShelfface · 21/08/2022 12:28

The families I work with can’t get appropriate childcare and they are also physically exhausted they need full support it’s heartbreaking.

Why not, don't the poorest get subsidised childcare so they can work?

ShelfyMcShelfface · 21/08/2022 12:33

Many of the women had become mothers very young, been given council housing, been able to claim a decent enough amount of benefits to get by, had had pretty alright lives considering they’d never really had much ambition for anything else. Like I say - not bad people, just human, and with human flaws. But pretending that it wasn’t an active choice for a lot of them is disingenuous.

I know a few of these from school. They often didn't have many other choices though as they were usually the ones who left school with no or few exam passes.

What happens to them when the kids grow up and the benefits and maintenance stop? I know of 2 women who had children in their late teens and then have had another at 40 to keep the child related benefits. They are still going to financially screwed when they hit their late 50s though, when the child they had at 40 grows up and the benefits and maintenance stop again.

Blossomtoes · 21/08/2022 12:35

ShelfyMcShelfface · 21/08/2022 12:24

Are benefits not going up in line with inflation in April? That's a bigger pay rise than a lot of people in work will get.

No it isn’t. Ten percent of fuck all won’t touch the sides.

ShelfyMcShelfface · 21/08/2022 12:43

@Blossomtoes

So benefits are going up by 10% next year?

RunningSME · 21/08/2022 12:49

ShelfyMcShelfface · 21/08/2022 12:33

Many of the women had become mothers very young, been given council housing, been able to claim a decent enough amount of benefits to get by, had had pretty alright lives considering they’d never really had much ambition for anything else. Like I say - not bad people, just human, and with human flaws. But pretending that it wasn’t an active choice for a lot of them is disingenuous.

I know a few of these from school. They often didn't have many other choices though as they were usually the ones who left school with no or few exam passes.

What happens to them when the kids grow up and the benefits and maintenance stop? I know of 2 women who had children in their late teens and then have had another at 40 to keep the child related benefits. They are still going to financially screwed when they hit their late 50s though, when the child they had at 40 grows up and the benefits and maintenance stop again.

They then become carers for their parents so you’ve got emphysema due to a lifetime of bloody smoking at the taxpayers expense.

I mean it’s no life don’t get me wrong I’m not bloody jealous but these people exist

jcyclops · 21/08/2022 12:51

ShelfyMcShelfface · 21/08/2022 12:24

Are benefits not going up in line with inflation in April? That's a bigger pay rise than a lot of people in work will get.

Benefits are expected to increase in April 2023 by at least the inflation (CPI) figure from September 2022. This is expected to be over 10%.

Blossomtoes · 21/08/2022 13:11

ShelfyMcShelfface · 21/08/2022 12:43

@Blossomtoes

So benefits are going up by 10% next year?

If they go up in line with inflation - which is what you said - then yes. Still fuck all.