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Dazedandconfused0 · 2022-08-17T20:51:42+00:00

I have done loads of work on my boundaries and learned loads - spent two years single to avoid the cycle of missing red flags and ending up being treated like crap. I met a guy on Tinder - 39/M professional - he has some posing pictures at a car and some tattoos. His bio says ‘I am only here to check out your filters’ then a million emojis protraying his hobbies and interests. As he is in the same profession as me as I swiped and we matched. we have had three dates in a week all arranged by him - paid for by him etc. He is texting loads. I went to his flat for the fourth date and noticed a bottle of ‘Femfresh’ the popular feminine hygiene product in the basket of toiletries on full display. He is quite handsy and was kissing me in the taxi on our last date (fine) and then texted me when he got home ‘wish you were here beautiful’. I think he is just after sex - it seems all a bit rehearsed and love bomby. I want a relationship. Its fine if he is looking for casual but I do not get the slow and steady vibe of looking for a relationship. The Femfresh gives me creepy vibes - I do not know why specifically - I suppose its because I know another woman has been specifically washing her voovoo there. He lives himself. AIBU? what else can you expect from T-bomb.

MrsPelligrinoPetrichor · 17/08/2022 21:54

Just slow it right down, he'll stick around if he's in it for the long haul.

LOL@ voovoo 😂

Annabananna1 · 17/08/2022 21:57

Could he be using it on his knob? My DH sometimes uses mine as he doesn't like perfumed shower gels

But yeah.. kinda love bomb vibes... time will tell

MillyWithaY · 17/08/2022 22:00

There are plenty of unperfumed shower gels that aren't designed for a woman's genitals, so that's a bit of a stretch PP. I'd run a mile from this bloke, he sounds like a player.

ComtesseDeSpair · 17/08/2022 22:08

He’s single and has presumably been dating. That doesn’t necessarily make him a “player”. When I met DP he had a basket of “girl things” like hair ties, make up remover, cotton wool pads, hairbrush etc in his bathroom because he thought it was just the polite thing to do if there was a chance he’d have an unplanned female overnight guest who hadn’t brought her own stuff. I had spare toothbrushes and deodorant sticks in the bathroom cabinet for much the same reason.

If something is making you feel off then act on that. I’m just wouldn’t let it be a bottle of Femfresh which decides it.

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Dazedandconfused0 · 17/08/2022 22:33

He said to me during one of our dates

’look, I am going to be honest with you here X. All Men are bastards’.

i felt my stomach flip a little. I was like Okkkkk

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Violettaa · 17/08/2022 22:35

Dazedandconfused0 · 17/08/2022 22:33

He said to me during one of our dates

’look, I am going to be honest with you here X. All Men are bastards’.

i felt my stomach flip a little. I was like Okkkkk

Bleugh. No idea what he's up to with the Femfresh, but he's clearly not a great catch.

MyLifeIsFictional · 17/08/2022 22:51

@ComtesseDeSpair
When I met DP he had a basket of “girl things” like hair ties, make up remover, cotton wool pads, hairbrush etc in his bathroom because he thought it was just the polite thing to do if there was a chance he’d have an unplanned female overnight guest who hadn’t brought her own stuff

Hahaha and you fell for it.

CornishTiger · 17/08/2022 22:57

@ComtesseDeSpair that’s more creepy than the femfresh

ParanoidGynodroid · 17/08/2022 23:03

When I met DP he had a basket of “girl things” like hair ties, make up remover, cotton wool pads, hairbrush etc in his bathroom because he thought it was just the polite thing to do if there was a chance he’d have an unplanned female overnight guest who hadn’t brought her own stuff

That is seriously weird. Imagine him at the supermarket, picking out things for the one night stands he hopes to have.

nocoolnamesleft · 17/08/2022 23:06

Voovoo? Dear lord, are you sure you're old enough to be considering a sexual relationship?

GinnyJelly · 17/08/2022 23:07

Text him and ask, I’d be interested in what is going on… but I think his comment about men all being bastards is a very bad sign. I would ditch him on that basis (but find out about the femfresh first).

LimeTwists · 17/08/2022 23:08

ComtesseDeSpair · 17/08/2022 22:08

He’s single and has presumably been dating. That doesn’t necessarily make him a “player”. When I met DP he had a basket of “girl things” like hair ties, make up remover, cotton wool pads, hairbrush etc in his bathroom because he thought it was just the polite thing to do if there was a chance he’d have an unplanned female overnight guest who hadn’t brought her own stuff. I had spare toothbrushes and deodorant sticks in the bathroom cabinet for much the same reason.

If something is making you feel off then act on that. I’m just wouldn’t let it be a bottle of Femfresh which decides it.

God, he’s not the same guy that’s the Period Dignity Advisor, is he?

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Dazedandconfused0 · 17/08/2022 23:10

GinnyJelly · 17/08/2022 23:07

Text him and ask, I’d be interested in what is going on… but I think his comment about men all being bastards is a very bad sign. I would ditch him on that basis (but find out about the femfresh first).

Yes I get the same vibe

He is already setting the scene that he will infact, be the bastard.

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Dazedandconfused0 · 17/08/2022 23:11

nocoolnamesleft · 17/08/2022 23:06

Voovoo? Dear lord, are you sure you're old enough to be considering a sexual relationship?

foof

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UWhatNow · 17/08/2022 23:30

“When I met DP he had a basket of “girl things” like hair ties, make up remover, cotton wool pads, hairbrush etc in his bathroom because he thought it was just the polite thing to do if there was a chance he’d have an unplanned female overnight guest who hadn’t brought her own stuff.”

OMFG. What a creep.

crackersforcrackers · 17/08/2022 23:32

Dazedandconfused0 · 17/08/2022 22:33

He said to me during one of our dates

’look, I am going to be honest with you here X. All Men are bastards’.

i felt my stomach flip a little. I was like Okkkkk

Some of the best advice I ever got about men goes along the lines of "When men tell you something, believe them" so when guys say "I'm bad for you/I'll break your heart" etc its actually a truthful warning. I agree with your gut that he's only after one thing.

longcoffeebreak · 17/08/2022 23:59

@Dazedandconfused0 well done for the boundary work 🙂

Zuyi · 18/08/2022 00:03

Dazedandconfused0 · 17/08/2022 22:33

He said to me during one of our dates

’look, I am going to be honest with you here X. All Men are bastards’.

i felt my stomach flip a little. I was like Okkkkk

Men never lie about this kind of thing.

Zuyi · 18/08/2022 00:04

I mean, they never lie in that direction. He's not a good guy masquerading as bad.

Zuyi · 18/08/2022 00:07

UWhatNow · 17/08/2022 23:30

“When I met DP he had a basket of “girl things” like hair ties, make up remover, cotton wool pads, hairbrush etc in his bathroom because he thought it was just the polite thing to do if there was a chance he’d have an unplanned female overnight guest who hadn’t brought her own stuff.”

OMFG. What a creep.

You'd actually hope it was a lie for this one. 😳

SteveHarringtonsChestHair · 18/08/2022 00:44

crackersforcrackers · 17/08/2022 23:32

Some of the best advice I ever got about men goes along the lines of "When men tell you something, believe them" so when guys say "I'm bad for you/I'll break your heart" etc its actually a truthful warning. I agree with your gut that he's only after one thing.

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Was going to say the same thing. He’s telling you that because he and all his friends are bastards. Proceed with caution - or not at all.

I wouldn’t be so bothered by the femfresh thing. I still have XDP’s razor, foam and deodorant in my bathroom even though we split last year. It’s not because I’m expecting men to stay over and need a shave, I just haven’t got round to binning it.

If the rest of his house is immaculate then it might be odd, but if he has some out of date items in his kitchen and unopened mail by the door it’s more likely it’s just an oversight and he hasn’t thrown out his ex GF’s toiletries.

MistyGreenAndBlue · 18/08/2022 01:21

Dazedandconfused0 · 17/08/2022 22:33

He said to me during one of our dates

’look, I am going to be honest with you here X. All Men are bastards’.

i felt my stomach flip a little. I was like Okkkkk

My response to this would probably be something like "I'm sorry you think so. Dont let the door hit you on your way out."

haveiever · 18/08/2022 01:37

ComtesseDeSpair · 17/08/2022 22:08

He’s single and has presumably been dating. That doesn’t necessarily make him a “player”. When I met DP he had a basket of “girl things” like hair ties, make up remover, cotton wool pads, hairbrush etc in his bathroom because he thought it was just the polite thing to do if there was a chance he’d have an unplanned female overnight guest who hadn’t brought her own stuff. I had spare toothbrushes and deodorant sticks in the bathroom cabinet for much the same reason.

If something is making you feel off then act on that. I’m just wouldn’t let it be a bottle of Femfresh which decides it.

seriously? That’s massively given me the ick

QueenCamilla · 18/08/2022 02:06

I'd appreciate if all single blokes would have some "girl" things.

It's horrid to stay over to find out that the only "wash" is Nivea men Hair-Body. No conditioner, no hair dryer, no hair brush, no spare tooth brush... Ugh!
In fact, just thinking about that discomfort makes me pass on sex-outside-relationship these days.

Wonderwoman333 · 18/08/2022 07:52

ComtesseDeSpair · 17/08/2022 22:08

He’s single and has presumably been dating. That doesn’t necessarily make him a “player”. When I met DP he had a basket of “girl things” like hair ties, make up remover, cotton wool pads, hairbrush etc in his bathroom because he thought it was just the polite thing to do if there was a chance he’d have an unplanned female overnight guest who hadn’t brought her own stuff. I had spare toothbrushes and deodorant sticks in the bathroom cabinet for much the same reason.

If something is making you feel off then act on that. I’m just wouldn’t let it be a bottle of Femfresh which decides it.

That's creepy, if I stayed over at someone's house presumably for sex and they had a basket of 'girl things' I would think he was either in a relationship or a player. It would really put me off.

With regards to OP the femfresh makes him look like he has women over regularly. As for him saying all men are bastards he is definitely letting you know that he is one.

Stay away is my advice.