AIBU in asking for help to find this man

[CMSdividend]

I have just had the most movie-like experience of my life. In Tesco of all places.
Absolutely stunning man (in my eyes anyway), a tanned enhanced Heston Blumethal without glasses. I imagine he would be a redhead, had freckly skin. No ring on any fingers. He is holding two bottles of red wine, we are nowhere near the wine aisle. I smile and he smiles back. Cue lots of "meeting" in aisles and smiling at each other. I get to the wine aisle and pick up a bottle. He's re-entering the wine aisle and says to me "I think you look gorgeous by the way". I respond with "I was thinking the same about you" and carried on walking. I'm back near the front of the store grabbing some spring onions, and he appears. Says "I'm not following you, you know" and laughs. I laugh back and go into the scan and shop. Notice he is in the self serve. I go out and as I'm packing away I notice he is looking at me from his car. I take my trolley back and get into my car, reverse out of my space and he is behind me in his car. He waves to me and we part at the mini roundabout.
So, AIBU in plastering this all over facebook or taking an ad out on the roundabout in the hope of finding this man? I was only saying to my friend at the weekend that I think love is going to pass me by now I am single again and this was bloody fireworky-type sparks.
YABU: Leave it and see if you bump into him again, or he can track you down
YANBU: Plaster it over Facebook. Take an ad out on the roundabout saying: Me; blue dress, glasses and flip flops, buying spring onions and driving a Ford. You: Tall, bald and tanned with great teeth, carrying two bottles of red and driving a Nissan. Message me on (new email address set up for this purpose)

Morning all,
The store is my local store anyway and if you know it you'll know it's a rare occurrence to see someone that catches your eye.
Plan is to pop there same time, which I usually do anyway, and if he's there then he's there. Will bite the bullet myself and first ask if there's anyone who thinks they are in a relationship with him. And see what happens depending on his answer.
If he's not then I'll leave it up to fate.

This all sounds very juvenile.

Bit embarrassed for you if you are an adult woman OP.

OP's meet-cute and and pre-destined love match is quite possibly random guy's 'stalked up and down the supermarket aisles, around the car park, and all across the internet, with digital posse in tow.'

😂😂

And I didn't ask him for his number as I was continually moving, so we kind of danced around each other. And also because mid-forties me went into a bit of a tizz.
I don't doubt he may do this all the time, but it was nice, and he may be genuine as he seemed just as hesitate as I did. He definitely wasn't expecting me to say that back. He may swipe right on all the apps too in the hope that one swipes right back. Who knows? But I can say for certain I have never felt that connection before speaking to someone ever.

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Just as a counterbalance to the 'he's a married creep' posts...

I met my OH in a very similar way. Spoke briefly. Didn't exchange numbers.

Turned out we were both trying to figure out a way of engineering a second fortuitous meeting. Which did happen.

Now married twenty-one years.

@CMSdividend don't you think it's a bit much that you posted so much detail about him here including the make model and colour of his car and half his registration number?

Hang tight OP , carry on life as normal with your usual Tesco shop and see if you bump into him again. No FB or roundabout plastering :-D

Now that's really something

It's weird to ask if there's anyone who thinks they're in a relationship with him before actually making any kind of move towards suggesting a drink

Honestly he sounds creepy and stalkerish... but your response to be creepy and stalkerish back might make you the perfect boundrieless couple.

I love those moments of obvious mutual attraction with a stranger. It's happened a couple of times in my life and I remember the occasions vividly, so for that reason I hope you meet this man again and have a happy outcome.

That said, I'd imagine it's fairly unusual for a man to be bold enough to tell a complete stranger that he thinks they're gorgeous, but to not ask for their number/name, if he was in any way available or looking for love.

It's weird to ask if there's anyone who thinks they're in a relationship with him before actually making any kind of move towards suggesting a drink

I agree.

OP if you see him, instead of asking the staff, just talk to him.

Do some flirting like ‘oh we must stop meeting like this’ as you pass him in the aisle and then ask him if he’s from around here etc.

Then just bite the bullet and ask him out - if you were going to plaster it all over Facebook with thousands of people knowing, then you should be brave enough to just ask him face to face.

Have a pen and paper in your handbag also as I always feel uncomfortable getting my phone out and taking down each other’s numbers in front of everyone.
I feel like a teenager again and then I get all flustered and can’t remember how to add a new contact etc.
So if someone asks for my number I say here I’ll write my number down and tell them to text me theirs.

Anyone who thinks they're in a relationship with him? OP, I'm not being funny, but are you ok? This just gets weirder.

It's another way of asking if you're single but with another layer. Lots of men will say they're single despite women thinking they are in a relationship with said man.

Ow I'm confused: are you asking MN or (planning, if you meet again, to ask) him?

Another "layer" is one way of putting it....

Place marking as I am now a bit invested in this story

God, don’t ask him that!

He’ll run a mile!

What?
So you won't ask if he's single because you don't anticipate him being truthful, so you're going to see if anyone else will admit to being his other half?
You need to just stop this nonsense, it's seriously fucked up

@Johnnysgirl and all very childish.

Simper, simper, bats eyelashes.

Will bite the bullet myself and first ask if there's anyone who thinks they are in a relationship with him

That sounds seriously ridiculous, but I've also no idea why you'd think he'll be more truthful being asked this rather, than just asked if he's single.

Maybe he was telling the wine it looked gorgeous?

That's a distinct possibility. I've often thought it myself.

At my local Tesco Extra there is a café at the back of the store on a mezzanine floor. You can see the whole of the store including the entrance doors when sitting drinking a coffee.

@CMSdividend is there such a café in your store? You could effectively move yourself in and stalk keep an eye out for him 24/7 if you wished. Wi-Fi is good, you could wfh (or wfTesco), food is provided and the toilets are on the same level. You'd have to get someone to keep watch for you if you needed to go though! 😐