AIBU in asking for help to find this man

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I have just had the most movie-like experience of my life. In Tesco of all places.
Absolutely stunning man (in my eyes anyway), a tanned enhanced Heston Blumethal without glasses. I imagine he would be a redhead, had freckly skin. No ring on any fingers. He is holding two bottles of red wine, we are nowhere near the wine aisle. I smile and he smiles back. Cue lots of "meeting" in aisles and smiling at each other. I get to the wine aisle and pick up a bottle. He's re-entering the wine aisle and says to me "I think you look gorgeous by the way". I respond with "I was thinking the same about you" and carried on walking. I'm back near the front of the store grabbing some spring onions, and he appears. Says "I'm not following you, you know" and laughs. I laugh back and go into the scan and shop. Notice he is in the self serve. I go out and as I'm packing away I notice he is looking at me from his car. I take my trolley back and get into my car, reverse out of my space and he is behind me in his car. He waves to me and we part at the mini roundabout.
So, AIBU in plastering this all over facebook or taking an ad out on the roundabout in the hope of finding this man? I was only saying to my friend at the weekend that I think love is going to pass me by now I am single again and this was bloody fireworky-type sparks.
YABU: Leave it and see if you bump into him again, or he can track you down
YANBU: Plaster it over Facebook. Take an ad out on the roundabout saying: Me; blue dress, glasses and flip flops, buying spring onions and driving a Ford. You: Tall, bald and tanned with great teeth, carrying two bottles of red and driving a Nissan. Message me on (new email address set up for this purpose)

Absolutely this. It's not okay to put his details on here and have a Posse of salivating women trying to track him down and egging the op on.

This has fatal attraction written all over it!

It reminds me of the first episode of cold feet where Adam and Rachel see each other in the supermarket only much less romantic and funny.

In the nicest possible way, he’s a serial flirter, whose partner was at home with the kids, he’s never married her as he likes it this way, and was going home where they were both going to down a bottle of red each in the sun, and then have a massive row about him refusing to commit after 15 years and two kids together and she brings up his past affairs.

you dodged a bullet.

I think the OP is genuine if a little naive but yeah, this MN stalker thing could be used by women trying to find an ex etc. No a good idea.

Do you have a dashcam? If so, you’ll have his car reg, and you can get an address from that. Then you can go and hang around his house a lot and ‘bump into’ him again.

True. She sounds as bad as him. Who on earth wants a complete stranger to ‘track them down’? This whole thread should be deleted.

This.

I had a stalker for a couple of years. He only knew where I worked. And he used to hang around outside. The thought that he could've written a post like this and used it to find out my car reg and then track me down is terrifying.

*I just read your post to my 18 year old niece who works in a supermarket.

Her response "if that was my supermarket, I would so text that lady ever time he comes in if she promised to invite me to the wedding!"*

Cringe

This terrifies me. This is so out of order. And so wrong.

Just enjoy it for what it was a bit of heavy flirting and stalking in tesco. He either has a girlfriend at home or else he has a drink problem with 2 bottles of wine. If you bump into him again then he may ask you out but otherwise just leave it or else you sound like a stalker and you are building it up in your mind and really you will just be disappointed by it all. It is nice to get attention but agree with some that he sounds too cocky to be honest.

If he wanted your number he would of asked for it. Particularly after you said you thought the same about him.

My god - some of the replies on here! Absolutely batty. Dashcam footage? Psychotic!

He confidently complimented you but didn't ask for your number... he already has a partner at home.

Go back to the wine aisle same day and time next week

By that logic if she wanted his number she'd ask for it

A drop dead gorgeous man asked me about cat food in Tesco once. It was in the cat food isle. I think it was because I look like I own a cat.

Been back several times but Mr Talldarkandhandsome has not crossed my path.

I think the OP is genuine if a little naive but yeah, this MN stalker thing could be used by women trying to find an ex etc. No a good idea.

I agree.

As someone who has had issues with stalkers in the past then I completely agree!

I have had a man turn up at my work after somehow finding out where I work and someone else got my address by somehow hacking the university system when I was a mature student.

I have never been physically assaulted by them or anything but having someone stand outside your home is the most horrible feeling in the world.
You get paranoid and can’t sleep.

It’s worrying that women are encouraging OP to be a stalker.
Not only does it make her look unhinged but it’s very scary for the victim involved.

I’m not reading through a billion posts but just wanted to say lack of a ring on someone’s finger doesn’t mean they aren’t married. Both DH and I don’t wear our rings.

aisle not isle. Placemarking because I am ever hopeful it might happen to me. I have been chatted up in Tesco but it was by some sleazeball with Pampers in his basket and I have seen him there since with a woman and a toddler.

I think you're being ridiculous! You don't know him at all. I'd be wary of anyone who just tells a stranger in a shop he thinks they're gorgeous, probably does it all the time. I think it's really strange/obsessive to try and track him down.

Not necessarily (and rather sexist). Many years ago I randomly met someone in similar circumstances (not a supermarket). Neither of us did anything but I felt I’d let an opportunity go. Luckily I saw where he (might have) lived (he turned into the gate of a house) and after discussing with friends for a few weeks, I took a deep breath and stuck a note through that door. We ended up dating (though we did eventually split up). His reaction to the note - he was thrilled I sent it. 🤷‍♀️

There's a big difference between doing anything face to face and posting details of someone on here hoping mumsnet will help you track them down.

Yeah. I mean, if he'd bought a case, it would suggest he had a harem.

Seriously, who buys one bottle of wine? It's not a baguette. It doesn't go off if you don't use it that day.

if you would plaster this all over Facebook why didn’t you just talk to him and get his number when you spoke to him. He might be a absolute prick giving women in Tesco’s compliments and then going back to his girlfriend with the wine. Don’t embarrass yourself on Facebook. Keep going back to Tesco’s though