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AIBU in asking for help to find this man

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CMSdividend · 17/08/2022 19:53

I have just had the most movie-like experience of my life. In Tesco of all places.
Absolutely stunning man (in my eyes anyway), a tanned enhanced Heston Blumethal without glasses. I imagine he would be a redhead, had freckly skin. No ring on any fingers. He is holding two bottles of red wine, we are nowhere near the wine aisle. I smile and he smiles back. Cue lots of "meeting" in aisles and smiling at each other. I get to the wine aisle and pick up a bottle. He's re-entering the wine aisle and says to me "I think you look gorgeous by the way". I respond with "I was thinking the same about you" and carried on walking. I'm back near the front of the store grabbing some spring onions, and he appears. Says "I'm not following you, you know" and laughs. I laugh back and go into the scan and shop. Notice he is in the self serve. I go out and as I'm packing away I notice he is looking at me from his car. I take my trolley back and get into my car, reverse out of my space and he is behind me in his car. He waves to me and we part at the mini roundabout.
So, AIBU in plastering this all over facebook or taking an ad out on the roundabout in the hope of finding this man? I was only saying to my friend at the weekend that I think love is going to pass me by now I am single again and this was bloody fireworky-type sparks.
YABU: Leave it and see if you bump into him again, or he can track you down
YANBU: Plaster it over Facebook. Take an ad out on the roundabout saying: Me; blue dress, glasses and flip flops, buying spring onions and driving a Ford. You: Tall, bald and tanned with great teeth, carrying two bottles of red and driving a Nissan. Message me on (new email address set up for this purpose)

OP posts:
GreenClock · 17/08/2022 22:56

Such a shame you didn’t chat more after the initial exchange!

SweetSunflowerBoo · 17/08/2022 22:59

Post on TikTok!! You'd be surprised how often they manage to find the right person! And pplleeeeaaassseeee update!
Talk about meant to be!

CMSdividend · 17/08/2022 23:18

SweetSunflowerBoo · 17/08/2022 22:59

Post on TikTok!! You'd be surprised how often they manage to find the right person! And pplleeeeaaassseeee update!
Talk about meant to be!

I wouldn't even know how to do a TikTok! I'll just see what happens tomorrow.
I'll have to wear my glasses again though and don't usually wear them but contacts wouldn't go in this morning!
I do hope he's there tomorrow. Absolutely not expecting him to be though...

OP posts:
JanglyBeads · 17/08/2022 23:24

Have cousins in that area, I'm forwarding this thread.......

ThirtyThreeTrees · 17/08/2022 23:33

There's a lot of personal info about him in your last post. If the paper's pick it up, it might be embarrassing for both of you.

EmergencyHepNeeded · 17/08/2022 23:35

Isn't that wine about £6 a bottle? #NotGettingThePoint

crackersforcrackers · 17/08/2022 23:44

Rooting for you OP! I hope you guys bump into each other again Wine (And the noodles look so delicious!)

Belle89 · 17/08/2022 23:47

Waiting to see who's home drinking the wine their partner bought home in his 70 plate silver Nissan😂

Now very invested best of luck

Athenajm80 · 17/08/2022 23:47

The Metro newspaper and I think the website used to have a bit in for situations like this. Not sure if it was just London based as I only saw it once or twice. Lots of messages along the lines of your post, "to the good looking Heston with the Castillo Diablo wine. I'd love to make a cake with you, my spring onions, and some snail willies. Get in touch, from the lady with the red jumper" or whatever.

SunnyD44 · 17/08/2022 23:51

Please do not put this on Facebook or any form of SM it’s so desperate and cringey!!!!

Just go back to the shop at the same time and I’m sure you’ll bump into him.

This has happened to me on several occasions and I guarantee he’ll be trying to bump into you by going to the shop the same time he saw you every day.
He may wait until the same day he saw you and then go then do make sure to do your big shop then 😁

StellaGibson2022 · 18/08/2022 00:01

Oh I love this - and I say this as a recently realised mid 40s invisible woman!! However I’m not looking at the moment anyway…

Yes to the supermarket crush… embrace the new shopping routine and yes to the local Facebook!!

You must keep us updated!

Popsicle33 · 18/08/2022 00:30

Sorry but it would be really funny if his wife was on Mumsnet 🤭😈

SteveHarringtonsChestHair · 18/08/2022 00:51

HotWashCycle · 17/08/2022 21:26

I think you would be trying too hard - never a good look. Let him do the running after. He will find you or you will meet again if it is the right thing - stay cool!.

I’d agree with this. He had the balls to tell you you looked gorgeous so he should have asked for your number, especially when you complimented him back,

FWIW my friend just met a guy loitering in the supermarket aisles - a week later she’s totally loved up, so it could happen to you! But let him find you. Obvs go to Tesco regularly to help him out Wink

Johnnysgirl · 18/08/2022 00:54

CMSdividend · 17/08/2022 20:48

I think that's what he was planning to do but I'd packed the car and got in it.

Why did you, if you thought he was planning to ask for your number? 😂

Foronenightonly22 · 18/08/2022 01:02

Assistanttotheregionalmanager · 17/08/2022 22:17

Why would he be buying two bottles as a single man?

special offer - two for £12 etc??

Johnnysgirl · 18/08/2022 01:09

I think he was going to stop behind my car to prevent me reversing out (in a non-creepy way)
You're doing a lot of thinking of things he was planning to do. Why do you think he actually did none of them?

ozymandiusking · 18/08/2022 01:23

A friend of my sisters was sitting on a train in the station, waiting to set off, and she saw a soldier walking up the platform, and thought, " I'm going to marry that man."
And reader, she did.
Interesting things in life sometimes do happen.

jennyofthenorth · 18/08/2022 01:35

to quote a music group"
"Like two in a million, like once in a life
What are the chances?"

Airfriedpotatowitch · 18/08/2022 01:53

Oh I hope this has a happy ending but I think he's married/in relationship bit too charming perhaps please do update with whether u see him again or not but don't overdo it noone likes a stalker and be careful of men following you Ted bundy was good looking too you know...

PyongyangKipperbang · 18/08/2022 01:56

NRTWT but I got the gist from the first half so I sense I am in a minority here.

I think he sounds like a creep!

Ok so he thinks you are gorgeous, good for him. Why did he feel the need to say it?! I see a lot of men in the street who I think are a nice bit of eye candy but I dont say anything as it would be inappropriate. If I see them again and get to know them then fine but a random stranger saying that would feel really off to me.

fUNNYfACE36 · 18/08/2022 01:58

I would take the SM posts down, itcwill make him run a mile

Stopsnowing · 18/08/2022 02:03

Someone I know saw someone he liked the look of on a bus, followed her off into her place of work and asked her out for a coffee. They ended up married.

HinchcliffeandMurgatroyd · 18/08/2022 02:03

CMSdividend · 17/08/2022 21:24

@SavingsThreads I didn't really give him the chance to ask, as I said my response I carried on, then with the spring onions I also just carried on. I think he was going to stop behind my car to prevent me reversing out (in a non-creepy way).
I caught a bit of his number plate but couldn't memorise the whole lot.
He followed me down the car park so has mine. Maybe he'll track me down 🤷‍♀️

Non-creepy way?

Track yoh down from your number plate?

I was all on board until that post.

Johnnysgirl · 18/08/2022 02:08

Stopsnowing · 18/08/2022 02:03

Someone I know saw someone he liked the look of on a bus, followed her off into her place of work and asked her out for a coffee. They ended up married.

What sort of saddo goes for coffee with a weirdo who follows them off a bus?!

DogFacedWoman · 18/08/2022 02:14

I hope you find him, but I think this could be a case of "you snooze, you lose" If you liked him you should have gone for it. For him, the moment may now be lost.

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