To be annoyed with what this nursery worker said?

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DS is 18 months old and goes to nursery. He had a little bump at the weekend (nothing major, just a little bump just above his eyebrow and a small mark). We had to fill in an existing injury form when he went to nursery as we've done a couple of times when he's had the odd scratch/bruise.

Anyway, when they asked how it had happened, I that I was taking a shower and his brother (12, 13 in a month, he's my step son not that it matters) was watching him for 10 mins and he'd fallen when they were playing. She replied almost aghast that his brother had watched him and said it was "far too young to be responsible for a baby!!"

He's nearly 13 and is very mature and absolutely brilliant with his brother. DS is a normal wobbly toddler so does have falls and scrapes every now and then and it was nothing his brother did wrong. I was upstairs for 10 mins and in the same house! His brother gave him a cuddle and he was fine, I didn't even know it had happened until I came down as he wasn't upset for long.

AIBU to be annoyed by the comment and think it was OTT?

You need to tell that nursery worker to keep her opinions to herself. Kids get lumps, bumps and scratches all the time when playing around.

I was babysitting at 13!! Honestly, I wonder about society today sometimes - you did nothing wrong OP x

Super ignorant and unprofessional of the nursery worker. Who despite working with children doesn't seem to have an actual clue.

*Obviously you are passed at her comment as she was actually right???
Your toddler got injured whilst your 12 yo was "looking after him"

Who puts a 12 yo in charge of a toddler
A teenager. And it's not even his full subling so uh. There couldbe some 'issues' there.

Dont ask your step child (or any other young child) to look after an 18mo*

"Obviously " doing some very heavy lifting here.

What absolute bollox.

Super ignorant and unprofessional of the nursery worker. Who despite working with children doesn't seem to have an actual clue.

*Obviously you are passed at her comment as she was actually right???
Your toddler got injured whilst your 12 yo was "looking after him"

Who puts a 12 yo in charge of a toddler
A teenager. And it's not even his full subling so uh. There couldbe some 'issues' there.

Dont ask your step child (or any other young child) to look after an 18mo*

"Obviously " doing some very heavy lifting here.

What absolute bollox.

Bold fail below.

The middle bit is a quote!

What? My older was 8 when he was "looking after" his toddler brother for a few minutes at a time. When I was 13 I'd look after my BABY (4mnth) sister for entire days when my parents worked.

I agree with you about the responsibility aspect, but of course a 13yr old is not old enough to be a mother. Any sex involving a child that age is rape.

Who puts a 12 yo in charge of a toddler A teenager. And it's not even his full subling so uh. There couldbe some 'issues' there.

Well, it's obvious how you got your username.

Why did you feel the need to explain the circumstances of the injury in such detail OP?

He fell over while playing. That's all they need to know.

"And it's not even his full subling so uh. There couldbe some 'issues' there."

@Marvellousmadness wtf is this supposed to mean?

And where does OP say it's her stepchild?

I think yanbu but tbh, I wouldn’t have mentioned the 12 yo being on duty when it happened to nursery. You know that he’s v responsible and there’s no issue but I can see why they need to mention that it could be a risk.

YANBU. Talk about not living in the real world (her, not you)!

Hang on - “We had to fill in an existing injury form when he went to nursery as we've done a couple of times when he's had the odd scratch/bruise.”
Is this a usual thing now? Mine left nursery three years ago, and this wasn’t a thing in any of the three nurseries all of them went to.

Same! My youngest brother was born when I was 12 - I used to take him to the park on my own all the time. I remember once him having a nappy explosion on a warm day in the middle of the park when I was with my friends and I just wanted to die

Regardless of whether people agree with the nursery worker or not, the point is she should not have said anything to this parent. It isn't her place to tell the parent who should or should not babysit or what age is appropriate or not. It isn’t her decision. It's none of her business.

I agree but it happens 🤷🏻‍♀️

Haha it's like renting a car 🤣🚗
Ridiculous but in these woke times I'm unsurprised

by 13 I was watching other peoples children when they wernt even home. Accidents happen.

My 13 year old son would be absolutely fine looking after a baby/toddler while the parent was in the house. It was an accident and could have happened under anyones care.

The worst injuries my children ever had were while they were at nursery (and as much accidents as any other).

Kids I know have been injured worse at nurseries. Some when being supervised by 16 year olds on work placement. A 16 yo is technically a child.