To be annoyed with what this nursery worker said?

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DS is 18 months old and goes to nursery. He had a little bump at the weekend (nothing major, just a little bump just above his eyebrow and a small mark). We had to fill in an existing injury form when he went to nursery as we've done a couple of times when he's had the odd scratch/bruise.

Anyway, when they asked how it had happened, I that I was taking a shower and his brother (12, 13 in a month, he's my step son not that it matters) was watching him for 10 mins and he'd fallen when they were playing. She replied almost aghast that his brother had watched him and said it was "far too young to be responsible for a baby!!"

He's nearly 13 and is very mature and absolutely brilliant with his brother. DS is a normal wobbly toddler so does have falls and scrapes every now and then and it was nothing his brother did wrong. I was upstairs for 10 mins and in the same house! His brother gave him a cuddle and he was fine, I didn't even know it had happened until I came down as he wasn't upset for long.

AIBU to be annoyed by the comment and think it was OTT?

Oh dear, I dred my 3 year starting preschool this month. He is basically one big bruise and scrape😅 a very lively rough play sort of boy, completely fearless! I did try to wrap him in bubble wrap but he didn't like it 😕
13 year old is perfectly fine. You were in the same house for God's sake! Take no note of the silly woman.

Sorry, but you're being ridiculous. We aren't talking about the OP going out and leaving them....she was in the house!

You haven't a clue, you are embarrassing yourself

bring them into the bathroom with you along with their favourite toy.

Have you ever had an 18 month old?! He's far more likely to hurt himself in a wet bathroom!(he's not just going to sit quietly with a toy - I wish 😂)

DSS wasn’t “responsible” for the toddler, he was playing with him while OP showered. Had there been a problem she’d have gone to her child.

The nursery worker was being daft. You were on the premises the whole time and could have been with him in a moment.

I was babysitting the neighbour’s 4 children aged between 1 and 8 when I was 14, I am certain a sensible 13 year old is able to watch a single toddler for 10 minutes with mum in the house!

I am surprised the nursery worker made that comment, I worked in Early Years for over a decade and an accident can happen with little ones so easily whoever is looking after them.

Years and years ago the manager at my now 11 year olds nursery was so malicious and unpleasant and judgemental that when ds had an accident and had quite a big bruise I actually kept him off for a whole week ‘unwell’ as she had form for making malicious referrals to SS so I said he had norovirus and sent him back when the bruise had gone

OP ignore nursery worker, she's being ridiculous. Of course older siblings get left watching younger ones at various points. Kids hurt themselves whether someone is watching or not 🤷🏼‍♀️ my DD tripped and whacked her head on our lounge table when i was sat right there. Sounds like your DSS handled it well and toddler was fine

i have a shower while my daughter (16 months) wanders round with no babysitter ffs! I leave the door open and close living room and bedroom doors and she just toddles round her own room, hall & bathroom

I'm quick - and most of the time she hangs out in the bathroom

I mean surely leaving with a 13 year old is better than what I do haha

I'd take no notice of her. Most 13 y/o's would be fine for 5-10 mins in the same house where they could shout for help. Most wouldn't be ok to be left in sole charge.

She's BU of course, children that age are always bumping into things and falling over, could happen as easily with an adult watching him

I always did the same 🙈 but my DD has never been a child who launches themselves off things, she just sits anf plays with something

He wasn't babysitting.
Mum was in the shower - it was a few moments of siblings playing together. A very normal daily occurrence in thousands of households daily.

Toddlers fall. It's pretty normal and fairly common thing for them to do, often frequently, sometimes almost daily when at the wobbly walking stage.

No. Toddler could just have easily fallen when mum or dad were there, or even at nursery under their care.

Toddlers fall over, regularly, sometimes almost daily when at the toddling stage. It's normal.

He's not babysitting. He's watching the kid for 10 mins while their mum is upstairs in the shower.

If someone told me their 13-year-old couldn't be trusted to watch their baby brother for 10 minutes while their parent had a shower upstairs, I would have some concerns about the 13-year-old because to me that would suggest the 13-year-old was very delayed in their development or had a fairly significant undiagnosed neurodiversity.

Toddlers are, by nature, very clumsy and wobbly on their feet and get bumps and scrapes all the time, regardless of who's watching them. The OP's toddler could just as easily have got a bump while she was watching him; it's got nothing to do with the fact that he was being watched by his brother.

😂😂😂

In that case, it'd be best not leave me alone with my 2 year old DS either!

Many kids in our neighbourhood start babysitting when they’re 12 - as in, parents gone from the house for a few hours, not mum upstairs in the shower for a few minutes. Many of them take a course at school when they’re 11 to be able to do just that. It’s an expectation that they’ll be old enough and mature enough (at least in most cases, within reason) to look after a toddler or two for a couple of hours.

I have a 12-year-old neighbour who comes over sometimes to be an extra pair of hands. He’ll take my older two to the park, or he’ll play with all three in the backyard while I’m cooking or chatting with a friend. I don’t go out of the house and leave all three of them with him yet, but I could see that happening in a year or two.

I started babysitting my own younger brother and sister at 10, and babysitting for other families at 12. By 14 I was looking after 3 boys aged 6, 3 and 18 months. And this was circa 2005, not the 1800s, before anyone asks. 😂

YANBU.

I wouldn’t have even told her how it happened. Why does she/the nursery need to know? Absolutely ridiculous to be questioning how it happened and incredibly rude and unprofessional to comment on your decisions.

Whether you should or shouldn't have let this happen, is absolutely fuck all to do with this person.

Oh calm your tits down. It was for 10minutes, she hardly flew to the other side of the World.

Thats ridiculous. He wasn't even 'babysitting' he was playing with his little brother while you took a shower.
I despair sometimes.
Just ignore her.

God these people would have hated to be around in the 80’/90’s. A year between each of my 2 brothers and me and my eldest DB was in charge of us from about aged 10 in the summer holidays!

I know, isn’t it embarrassing when posters go so OTT