Sadness over my embryos

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Please be kind, I might not be able to articulate my feeling properly on here but will try. I need some advice and support as I have no one I can discuss this with. Family don’t know I had IVF and DH doesn’t care his responses has been “they’re not babies they’re just cells”.

I had IVF in 2014 at a private clinic so all paid by myself. It failed and I had 6 frozen embryos left. I got pregnant naturally so didn’t go for the frozen cycle obviously. Time has passed and the clinic have tried to get in touch with me regarding my frozen embryos. They’re still in storage to this day. I can’t get myself to even make a decision, I’m really sad about my potential babies being there in storage it makes me really upset thinking about them and the life they could have had.

we are not having any more children so IVF is out of the question. What do I do?

💐I completely understand how you're feeling. I faced something similar but we had to make a decision because the clinic was closing. We had one embryo left and having another child was not possible so we couldn't really transfer to another clinic. Had we been able to I would have continued to pay the storage fee. I made DH deal with everything, I couldn't do it.

@Dinoteeth @lookingformeavain now you have me in tears. Sleeping next to my frozen baby right now. A chilly embryo for over two years and now a little hot bot stealing my bed. Sadly her twin didn't make it 😢

I find that pretty hard to believe that some embryos donated to research don’t get used. Scientists need to use them, fertility is still so under-researched.

Some embryos might not be suitable for what a specific research project is studying, but those embryos wouldn’t be accepted as donations in the first place? UK project examples: www.hfea.gov.uk/donation/donors/donating-to-research/embryo-research-project-summaries/

Yep I love the idea that my children were once frozen little bundles and are now the complex and beautiful creatures that fill my days. The whole process was mind-blowing and I can't believe there are people out there going about their daily lives making this happen for people. If I won the Euromillions I'd give a sizeable chunk to our clinic (it was an NHS one).

After 2 successful frozen embryo transfers I had a very unexpected natural 3rd pregnancy! That was really the decider for the 2 frozen ones I have left - I can't risk having 4/5 children or I'll actually lose what little grasp on sanity I have left 😃

Going against the grain I think I could and would consider donating embryos. I know how desperate we were for a baby and it was sheer luck and good fortune that meant we made good embryos that then stuck. I think I could manage to get my head around passing those little bundles of luck to someone. I know how grateful we'd be in that position. I also like the idea of giving the embryos a shot at life, if it was meant to be. DH isn't on board though, he doesn't like the idea of it.