AIBU to be seriously fed up with mansplaining, knowledge flexing partner on holiday

[Woolyminded]

I've just come back off hol with my partner and kids.

He is a terrible mansplainer and correcter. This holiday I've just realised what a smug knowledge flexer he is too.
A few examples- I was telling my DS that mallorca is majorca but the Spanish spelling. DPs ears pricked up, he's almost gleeful when he thinks I've said something wrong, he said 'well actually, mallorca is a different island' and proceeded to show me a map on his phone to prove it. He shows me menorca on a map. I say that's menorca. He then realises hes talking crap and starts telling us about menorca being a separate island.
I've pointed his habit out to him before, he knows its something that really starts to wear me down when I feel like he's constantly poised to disprove things I say. If I say something that he doesn't already know, his first reaction is to query it and Google it to find out if its right. Its incredibly demeaning.
There was a particular moment this holiday when I had a moment of realisation that he gets on my effing tits.
We were at the lunch buffet and I was doing the usual trying to spark up a conversation to involve everyone, my ds and dd, 11 and 14, and dp and his 12 and 15 yr old. DP and his DS starts quizzing everyone on the periodic table. 'What elements make up salt' or something like that.
I said it wasn't a fun conversation, it was just a knowledge flex. He looked surprised and carried on, started asking who knows the characteristics of cells. It just seemed like it was showing off and highlighting how little I've got in common with him. I like a niche random intellectual conversation if its interesting but it felt like I was taking an exam that I hadn't prepared for. Is this normal dinnertable chat and am I weird for not wanting to talk about chemistry? Or be involved in pretentious, dull knowledge flexing? I'd sat through a monologue on the causes of the cold war the previous day.
I know I'm in a bitchy mood cos of holiday tiredness but I found it as irritating as a bad case of thrush.

My whole family, including me, are a right bunch of smartarses who all love quizzes, puzzles, learning etc … and yet every one of us would still think your partner and his son were absolute insufferable bell-ends. I could not be in a relationship with someone like that.

Tom Lehrer. I don't have much time for Daniel Radcliffe, but Tom Lehrer is a genius (and still alive, remarkably).

That is indeed 'the ick'

Thank goodness you don't already live together.

What? I hadn't contributed to this thread before I saw the gratuitous jibe aimed at Softplayhooray. I don't see what you're doing here as being any more pleasant and easy to live with than what the OP describes.

Bloody hell, @GreyTS - no need for that, is there? She was making a really nice, reasonable point in a really polite way.

Loads of people love stuff like the periodic table or whatever and when you’re talking about it in a nice way with people who share your interest, that is perfectly OK!?

The point here is that @Softplayhooray and her kids aren’t dicks and OP’s partner is a dick - because unlike @Softplayhooray, he only talks about this stuff to show off and exclude others. Your comment is really unpleasant.

Ableist. I have a very close relative on the autistic spectrum. No wonder life is tough for people who aren't neurotypical when they're written off as cold and a whole range of other undesirable characteristics on the basis of their diagnosis, by people who know nothing about them. Sheesh.

Sounds like you’ve got some really shitty views about autism.

Tom Lehrer en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Elements_(song)

It sounds unbearable and I couldn't subject my children to it, having him try and mansplain to me and/or them every five minutes. Get rid, he clearly sees himself as superior to you and like he needs to educate you.

Even if it weren't demeaning and disrespectful, men like this bore the absolute tits off me.

His Geography is not up to much though, OP is it? Why not instigate a dinner table quiz about islands of the Med. You could prime the DC first if necessary.

I married someone like this. He thinks people are impressed with his superior knowledge of everything under the sun. They're not. Get out before you regret it as it only gets worse.

I don't think he's on the spectrum. He doesn't have any traits. He has good social skills actually, a large group of friends hes had since his school days, etc. I think he chooses who he's rude to.

Omg I love it.

I'm sorry but I have to defend Daniel Radcliffe! He was asked to do it, it lasted less than a minute, he did say to stop him if it got boring, Graham didn't try to stop him, and you know, he was only 20 🤷🏻‍♀️🤣

OP you could throw him by learning the Tube station song and telling him off for not knowing it?

I had an ex like this OP when I was much younger. I was a teacher (specifically Year 1), and he tried to lecture me on how children learn to read…

He was the same as yours, almost gleeful when I said got something wrong. It didn’t last more than a year!

I agree - and he didn't sing the Tom Lehrer song, he did a sort of rap. It was funny and entertaining, and very short because he'd learnt to say all the words at an incredibly fast pace!

For anyone who hasn't seen it (it starts in roughly the right place and lasts for approx. 1 min)

he chooses who he is rude to? ffs he's sound more and more of a dick with each post

Is he only rude to people he feels superior to...?

I think he must, because he never seems to fall out with friends, colleagues or family. And surely they don't just tolerate it

Another item on my 'Daniel Radcliffe is a cunt' list.

Exactly.
The poster could have said 'my kids like a periodic table quiz but they're ND so they have an excuse'. But she didn't and the poster didn't know when she made her comment. I notice the pile on only came once the ND comment came out.🙄

I read somewhere about manchecking where the guy, after hearing you say something, immediately goes onto Google to doublecheck or basically to prove you wrong.