To think some comments on here can be a bit harsh and OTT?

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I quite enjoy looking through the AIBU pages and answering some but some comments on there can be quite harsh. Some people assume things about the OP’s life that OP hasn’t even said. Some comments are very judgemental, I saw one the other day judging someone for having children by different dads.

YABU - It is fine for comments to be rude and OTT on some posts and assume things about others that haven’t even been mentioned by OP.

YANBU - It is OK to give opinions because that’s what AIBU is for right? But they shouldn’t be rude and harsh (unless OP has done something very wrong…)

You jest. 🤣

Harsh, nasty and totally uneducated. I’m done with mn. Far too full of superior knobs who think they are way better than everyone else on mn.

well that's one way of reading the Biker Chick Poster Whose Neighbour Thinks She's A Tart thread

I literally saw a quote a few weeks back about someone’s partner not driving and everyone said leave him because he doesn’t drive and that he’s immature and has issues etc 😂 all because he doesn’t drive a car

It is the pile ons that get me; grown women behaving like play ground bullies.

It’s awful when someone clearly in trouble gets piled on. But I do confess to finding it entertaining when an innocuous topic – what vegetarian option should I offer at Christmas? What’s your favourite M&S food? I quite like autumn. Etc – descends into an unreadable froth of “This post has been deleted for breaking talk guidelines”. A sea of grey anger.

I've been a bit surprised by how many of the "my husband / partner did a crap thing" posts get people replying "DIVORCE HIM, IF YOU STAND FOR THAT YOU HAVE NO SELF RESPECT AND KNOW WHAT TO EXPECT IN THE FUTURE"

Divorce / leaving someone is a big deal, especially if your lives are entangled or you have kids, or if (god forbid) you love them and want to be together in spite of having some gripes that you wanted to vent about and could possible work through with a conversation with your OH.

I think AIBU has always been a bit snippy. Some people are so unhappy that they can't wait to start anonymously being a dick.

If you are genuinely upset, post in a more compassionate board.

Driving threads on here should not be taken too seriously. They are formulaic everyone that can drive gets told that they shouldn't be on the road, everyone that can't gets told they should learn.
Nobody listens to the other side (ie public transport availability and reliability is very variable) and then everyone gets mega defensive with their very specific situation.
MN Bingo at it's finest generally.

I agree
Unless they have cheated on you, hit you etc.
Surely just speaking to them and sorting it out is best?
“My husband is being lazy” and everyone says LEAVE HIM! DIVORCE! BAD DAD!
😂

If you are genuinely upset, post in a more compassionate board

Yes but people always post in AIBU 'for traffic'. Quantity of replies more important than quality it seems.

It's like real life, lots of nasty fuckwits about. But also lots of lovely decent people. You need a thick skin sometimes (which I sadly don't have)

It's a cracker!

This annoys me too. People still have babies when in bad relationships. I don’t know why people are so shocked every time they read about that happening.

Just help her with what she’s asking about or sod off.

lpuda · Today 13:54
GrootsGardener · Today 13:47
I asked a question about my nosey, nasty neighbour. Everyone has been sidetracked by my friendship. I have absolutely zero issues with my best friend nor her husband. Mumsnet has!
Harsh, nasty and totally uneducated. I’m done with mn. Far too full of superior knobs who think they are way better than everyone else on mn.
Very selective reading of the responses there OP.

proof positive, original question answered! Ta Ipuda.

I think the issue is that people are getting tired of the threads that are just ridiculous. Some posters seem to be totally unable to think for themselves and if people get frustrated by the 100th thread saying 'DH beat me and my child what should I do?' Well it's hardly surprising.

I have had a lot of support with my pregnancy loss from woman on mumsnet

Yesterday I commented on a AIBU saying my husband didn’t cheat on me on his stag do and I had someone comment me back saying that I’m being gullible and that he probably did do things he didn’t tell me about. Apparently some stranger online knew about my husband more than me 😂

Proof positive of what?

I get your point on this one. It’s kind of like when your friend tells you her partner has cheated on her like 15 times but keeps forgiving him.

What other advice does OP expect from people other than leave?

There was a spate of non-driver bashing posts on here a couple of months ago. Some of the comments against non-drivers were just crazy!

The steak and chips thread was a corker! Can that be beaten? Somebody is trying desperately hard with the curtain twitcher thread.

What other advice does OP expect from people other than leave?
Perhaps they’re expecting exactly that advice, but they want and need the collective support of many, many voices telling them to do so. Leaving isn’t easy, and it’s scary, and having a thread full of cheerleaders might help.

Oh don’t apologies OP, @ilovesooty just proved the point of your OP.

I hope that was Sooty’s point, being made in a witty and clever way. If not, ‘Duh, Sooty!’

( Just thought I’d prove your point too OP )

They are not expecting advice. They are reaching out for human connection, kindness and caring.

@Frazzledmummy123 as a non-driver I avoid any threads about driving like the plague. I know they will either make me feel shit about myself or full of rage, most likely both.

It's full of sanctimonious, dull, po faced bullies. Yanbu