Long story but try to get the basics. Single parent, 3 children all now adults and supposedly financially independent - I have left everything in my will to be shared equally. Order of appearance: No.1 son married, no children. No.2 son married and one daughter. No.3 is my daughter, divorced with one daughter. I’ve tried to be fair over time but different needs don’t always make it easy. After daughter’s bank account suddenly frozen (never given reason) over 14 years ago I set up a joint account but was constantly topping it up when I got overdraft notices as affects my credit, last time I checked I’d spent over £18k to cover her debts. Daughter and SIL moved in for a year as in financial difficulties, it was hell! After my father died I gave each child £50k to get on property ladder and kept the same for myself to supplement my pension. Daughter needed a car as old one failed, pressure from her led to me offering a loan from my savings which ended up at just over £7k. Soon after she was very distressed as maxed out 3 credit cards. I loaned her £8k to pay off one. Daughter expected me to look after g’child several days a week and overnight but when lockdown came I refused as I’m CEV. She lost it, cut me off on social media, sent nasty messages and has made no attempt to repay a penny or keep in touch. Thinking of changing will to give her less with regard to the loans but by then I will be gone so will it make relations between my children very bad?