‘We knew you would be’

[Wealreadyknew]

Whenever I tell one of my friends happy news, this is what she says. Like her and the rest of my friends have been speculating together about when it would happen.

eg I’m engaged - ‘We knew you would be! We actually all thought he’d propose in XX (last holiday)

or recently I told her I was pregnant and she said ‘We knew it!’

AIBU to find this a bit annoying? And why would say not just say congratulations etc? Even if I don’t know someone very well, I still know to act excited for them about their happy news!

I am quite surprised that so many people think ‘we knew it’ is a normal response and not ‘congratulations’

It's also quite possible that posters saying this are just as irritating as your friend and enjoy pissing on people's chips.

Or we aren't as overly sensitive and let such triviality overtake good news.

Or we aren't as overly sensitive and let such triviality overtake good news

And what would be the problem with saying "I'm so happy for you." Why would you feel the need to say something that indicates "We knew it that you'd get engaged. You have merely confirmed my expectations." Can you not see how rude/minimising that is?

It really isn’t, you’ve missed the point but whatever

Response to @Mississipi71

My FiL did this, on both occasions when I told the parents I was pregnant. Looking all smug...I wanted to punch him for totally zapping our excitement.

I voted YANBU because I'm guilty of saying tihs, and I'm trying to stop as I can see it takes the wind out of someone's sails. When it's a pregnancy announcement I just get excited int he run up and am sorry until I'm invited to celebrate! I hope you can take this with the spirit it's intended, but I do get it takes a little enjoyment away from the announcement.

The irony is that people they’re moaning about probably give very few shits about their lives. And there’s people on this thread acting like others are obsessed and constantly talking about what they’re doing, when it probably barely registers but you have to say something to sound interested

Jesus but some of you are thin skinned! A grandparent-to-be looks happy about an anticipated a grandchildren and they’ve ’zapped your excitement’?! Get a grip!

You’d have hated to be me, who had 3 separate people ask me if it was planned and another ask if I was happy (I was late 20’s and had been married for 3 years). I thought it was odd but didn’t sit getting all po-faced and grumpy about it moaning they’ve ruined my joy (probably because I’m not a child)

If it was a good friend who could take some ribbing I'd just respond "no need for me to share then".

Then next time you have big news - like the birth I'd not tell them for a few days after I'd told everyone else.

If they said anything I'd reply "but you know I would have"

Seriously though I just think some people have weird expressions when given news. And always say the same thing. It doesn't mean anything - it's just them. Is it enough if an issue to end the friendship is always my level for tolerance tbh. If it isn't then I don't let it bother me.

Yeah that “i knew you would be” phrase grates on me tbh. No they didn’t know actually and it’s not a congratulations.

This!

Yeah, agree with that.

Sorry, not sure what you are referring to.

@LydiaBennetsUglyBonnet really? If you hear good news from your friends you have to feign interest? So your best friend tells you she’s having a baby and it ‘barely registers’?

If something good happens to one of my friends, I truly feel happy for them and care.

YANBU
I agree with you, it is not the same as saying congratulations whatsoever.

My Mum is like this. I take it with a pinch of salt.

Just chalk it up to them being a bit socially inept.

Don't take it personally. You've just got a bit more self awareness, empathetic and know how to be polite. They don't!

It is irritating. Because it is making it about her being Psychic Sally but also it's the talking behind you're back element (we all do it but we don't have to share we do it...) But also the one upmanship of it, to take the surprise-y bit out of it a little. It's almost the "I told you so" of congratulations-related things.