What is an acceptable time to leave a wedding?

[Celp28]

Help and advice needed please 🙏 I am due to attend a wedding today with my husband and 2 young children aged 2 & 6. It is for a school friend who I have grown up with and luckily it is not too far from home (45 minute drive).
I woke up this morning really unwell. Swollen glands, high temperature and raging sore throat. I have the awful limb aching that comes with these things and my head feels like it’s going to explode.
It’s too late to cancel so I know I have to put my big girl pants on and suck it up and attend. However, what is an acceptable time to leave please? I don’t want to be rude and offend the bride and groom, but equally I really don’t know if I can face the entire day/evening. I honestly want to cry!

If someone turned up to my wedding that ill I would be so annoyed with them

why?

As you said, the meals are paid for whether they go or not?

strangely after however long she's been with him, her friend of 30 years isn't considered a family friend... why would he go?

why do YOU think he should go?

I had the same symptoms and had two negative tests (morning and afternoon) and then tested positive later that evening.

if you’re unwell, don’t go. It may not be COVID, but please don’t spread your germs, just in case. There will probably be older family members at a wedding and the couple won’t want to be poorly on their honeymoon, if they’re going soon after.

I hope you sent flowers and told her you would pay for the uneaten meals.

As the bride I'd be annoyed as it prob cost a couple hundred for your family to attend. I'd give generously for gift.

Why would you be annoyed? Would you rather people attended when they were very unwell and likely to spread an infection?

But what if the OP does have covid and her Dh and DC are asymptomatic?

What if every single guest there is asymptomatic and granny dies of covid in a month.

The reasons for her husband and children not to attend are valid. 'We might be asymptomatic' is not

We had 4 people not turn up to our wedding and they didn't tell us (nor apologise afterwards either). One was the adult son of someone who attended and even they didn't bother to give us a heads up their son wasn't actually coming 🤷‍♀️

I wish they had told us so I could get places shuffled and I wouldn't have minded at all if they were poorly. Luckily, our venue was lovely and gave DH more food (since we didn't know they hadn't come until everyone sat down in the wedding breakfast) and then put the money behind the bar for free drinks. A lot of venues wouldn't do this though!

My DH obviously knows my friend well, but she’s very much my friend. In that we meet up and do stuff without DH. DH works very long shifts and on an odd pattern so I tend to see my friend when he’s working. They do get on, but wouldn’t ever spend time together without me.
I did text the bride and explained and I also called her sister. Sister said it’d be best not to go as her grandmother who is 101 was going.