AIBU to be a bit annoyed at DH for this. Anyone else got one like him?

[MsFrog]

When I am ill, to the point where I'm out of action or can't do much (and I'm not a wimp, I get on with it as much as I can), it's like DH gets instantly stressed and goes in a bad mood. He's great practically, I can't fault him, but his stressy, moody attitude makes it so much harder. I don't get much sympathy, which is reasonable I guess if he's picking up a lot of the slack, but I get this weird vibe and tone of annoyance from him. E.g. I have obvious pain - "why don't you just go upstairs and lie down?", but said in an irritated manner.

I've asked him about it, and he says he's stressed by the situation. But his inability to just suck it up a bit, the way he makes it so, so obvious just how stressed be is.. it just makes it so much harder when I'm already ill.

Anyone got a DH like this? Does it drive you up the wall?

Opposite. I think my dh quite likes me being Ill. He likes being a caregiver. Says it feels good to be needed and help. He’s a weirdo 😂

My partner was working, he couldn't take time off. I asked my parents to come and help. Until then, I did things I had to and tried to keep the house running. I wouldn't say I was being a martyr. I asked for the help I needed. I am quite ill, but I'm not at death's door. I don't expect heaps of praise or endless sympathy. I just hate his moodiness about it all. It's not just this time. He's been like this in the past,after my section and when I've had horrendous vomitting bugs, when I really couldn't do anything. So it's not my cracking in that's his problem

I’m so confused.

because sometimes you’re unwell but not enough to warrant taking to your bed and you have to get on with things which need doing. Doesn’t make you a martyr just means there are levels of being unwell.

People who put on a poorly voice and take to their bed because they’ve got a bit of a headache annoy me. Just get on with it!

He sounds so awful.

Even after a section?

Mother of God have a hard look at the nasty prick you have ended up with.

You deserve better.

I would be so pissed off if you were my daughter married to such a waster.

Thanks @billy1966 and others - I do think his behaviour really isn't ok, even though I have a better understanding of why it might be like this from what done PPs have said. Will have having a chat about it soon

He sees you as his mummy.

A man who is grumpy at being impacted by his wife for having the audacity to have shingles, birth his child via a c-section, and being floored by vomiting and diarrhoea, is a selfish prick.

Erroneous ‘for’ in there.