Stupid shit people forgot to mention about parenting

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Mine at the moment is just how many times you can be expected to watch the same fucking movie over and over and over and over.

I want to peel my eyes off.

Anyone?

@MacKenzieMcHale 🤣🤣 Sorry!! Tbf I knew I was going to get that reaction from some and I do understand it perfectly well.

The relentlessness of getting back in after a days' work with small kids - all the demands for snacks, juice etc after you've travelled home then done a round trip to pick up from childcare/school and just want to collapse.

I'm very glad that bit is past - it does pass!

(I certainly didn’t miss every stage at the time! I was very happy with each incremental gain in independence and slightly increased detachment from me as they grew up. But I do miss some of those days very much now, years later, and it becomes bittersweet the longer ago it is - mainly because there is a fair bit I’d like to do differently, and we don’t get another go at life)

You will never have a wee in peace or use the telephone or eat anything on your own. If you have pets or DGC they will take over where your DC left off.

That is becomes more stressful as they reach 16.

that it totally sucks much of the time and your life is never your own again

I stumbled across some self riteous fb group yesterday. Apparently if you read your child a book everyday, by the time they are 5 you will have read them 1800 books ( or somesuch). I did ask if reading Spot 1500 times counted. Alas there was no response

My life is wholly my own again, and I have to say I do like it that way. I was never going to be all about my children forever! However I’m always very happy and content when they come home again for a little while (we live very far away).

That each meal turns into one. By the time you've cleaned up after breakfast they are asking what's for lunch.

and their 30's !!

How awful their friends are. From toddler group to sixth form college, mine picked the worse behaved most entitled little brats to be friends with. Consistantly. There was the odd nice child that came to play, said please and thankyou, didnt break or steal DCs toys, and was generally a delight to have in the house. Needless to say my child soon went off them, and I never saw them again.

Made worse when they get to 491, forget where they were and insist they have to start again.

Mine was the made up games. Sitting there for half an hour whilst the made up rules were explained for a game that lasted less than 10 minutes (and the frustration when you forgot the rules because honestly I zoned out after 60 seconds)

I'll third this! Up thread someone was bemoaning having to produce different meals according to her children's fad that day! I will always recall my father's response when I told Mum that I didn't fancy whatever she was cooking one day, I'd rather have soemthing else, whatever it was. His furious response was This is a home, not a cafe! There were times when we had different things, eg I was the only one who liked liver, but generally you ate what was cooked. We also didn't have constant supply of snacks, there might be biscuits etc but huge drawers of 'snacks' came as a revelation to me in recent years.

Didn't do while pg due to money - but first family holiday we did we had 4,2 and just 1 and it was fun but we picked Butlins - and as don't drive had 4 hour train journey- as we did for a few years- and had low expectations.

We used to come home exhausted but having had a lot of fun.

Bad news, it doesn't even stop then!

I never take anything for granted with my younger children.
My firstborn is an adult now, but in his head he never developed beyond his baby days. I still cry for all those stages he missed out on. He could never feel the excitement of Christmas. He's just turned 23 and he had no idea it was his Birthday. He just looked blankly at his presents.
It has completely changed the way I view life as a parent. I never take anything for granted. The fact my younger children can talk is a miracle in itself.

The insistence on instant fairness between siblings. If one gets a treat, even from someone else, even if it's something the other doesn't like, the other one has to have some kind of treat because otherwise it is completely unfair and my fault! One declares that she doesn't like sweets but will eat them just so it is fair 🙄

I try to make sure these kinds of things balance over time but apparently this isn't good enough.

There is also a lack of acknowledgement that of the age gap between them in this "fairness" calculation. So when the younger one had loads of whole-class parties because that's what kids have in the first few years of primary, it was no good reminding the older one that they had that a few years back when younger one had almost no parties. But also when the older one gets invited to a small but exiting party, this is apparently not fair on the younger one!

At some point they are going to discover that life isn't fair and be very disappointed.

Eating out a bit earlier than usual for dinner and then DC complaining that they haven’t had dinner yet and that they’re still hungry when you get home. Refusing to go to bed until they’ve been given dinner at home and not interested in a quick snack, such as a sandwich, beans and toast, etc.

Re badges, I have always said that the first badge any scout, guide etc earns should be the 'sewing on badges' badge.

I think I took what joy I could from each stage and spent as much time as possible with them - and hung on in back bits - so I've never really felt this.

It's usually people like in Cat's in the Cradle song who were always busy or like MIL who didn't enjoy it and wanted it gone as soon as possible IME who get like this and think everyone should as well.

bad bits - not back bits.

Though my DMum did tell me to enjoy what I could as the days are long but the years are faster and faster.

I'm now 64 (and have no DC) but thought you might enjoy hearing of one my mother told me abojut my older brother and me when we were small and digging in the back garden (hear this is a childish Yorkshire accent): "Muuuum! Tell him, he's pinching my MUCK!"

I find this kind of thing so annoying. It's just obvious maths that if you do something daily for a number of years it adds up. So what?

If I have to tell my DS to put his shoes on 2 times a day from age 2 to age 12, I'll have told him this around 7,300 times. This doesn't mean it's a good thing.

Ha ha ha damn straight!!!

Preteens start at EIGHT... I assumed it was like 11/12 but you will notice the shift from childhood to moody mini wannabe adult around 8.

What no one told me was that baby boys get erections, that was a horrific shock the first time it happened when changing a nappy. People tell you about girls possibly having a little period because of mams hormones and swollen nipples etc... but no one EVER mentioned boys erections too us.

I didn’t know there was a law that if more than two little girls get together they Must Put On A Show.

It has no script, no plot and no fucking end!