That (many/some) people on here are nuts?!

[bluebellsandcustard]

I'm perpetually puzzled about why replies to messages have to be so bitchy! Why though?
I genuinely don't understand why people are not more supportive to those who are clearly in need. Surely that's the point isn't it?
And why so rude??

I genuinely don't understand it. Surely you wouldn't do it or say such things in real life?

I think I'm stuck in the last century......

I reckon it’s worse than it used to be: people are just so ready to jump in to assume the worst of an OP.

100% agreed

I've noticed people trying desperately to make others feel bad about themselves. Seen it on body hair, age to have children, a lot on relationship boundaries, people who don't have many friends... always some person comes along to try and convince others that their lifestyle is better.

I actually don't get it. As in going back and forth arguing why someone's lifestyle is actually lacking... it's ironic.

Excellent posts on P1, by @Brandnewwoman and @RenegadeMatron

This is SO true. If everyone else has posted nasty or snippy replies, you can too.

I encountered a fair bit of nastiness (in some quite long posts, from two or three specific posters) when I posted for the second time about an issue I had become stuck in... The character assassination was off the scale - but my fault in part, due to revealing too much about myself.

It does sometimes seem like a nest of vipers, and there is a fair amount of jumping on the bandwagon. I actually find it quite depressing, and for sure believe that what we (I include myself) post on "social" media may not align with who we really are. Although the saying "Give someone a mask, and they will show you their true self" might apply, and we are definitely braver/more outspoken or judgemental from behind the safety of a mask/screen.

I also manage to put my foot in it, and unintentionally make an unPC comment [like I did yesterday - although maintain it was not worthy of the Report/removal]- and then have my sardonic response removed by MN Police for some other reason.

It's exhausting if you get too invested in it.

Yep it's nuts ,I do think it's getting a bit worse too and some threads are started with the intention of causing all out war .

I like that its bonkers! Thats the whole appeal - its not an echo chamber

Agree. Clearly people capable of the level of nastiness we are talking about are deeply unhappy to go targeting others online like this.

I dunno. I’ve been using the site for about 14 years and can’t say it has changed all that much really, from my perspective. But then I dip in and out and sometimes go months without visiting the site so I probably miss a lot.

The site is clearly much bigger than it used to be, so more users is obviously going to mean a more diverse range of opinions and communication styles. Agree with the PP who said that if you randomly chose 300,000 people from society, you would find a whole range of different characters and viewpoints.

I still love MN, for the most part. It has turned me into a feminist, for one thing, and I’m really grateful for that.

I think some people use it to vent, as some sort of release. Keyboard warriors I guess. You're probably right that most of them wouldn't behave that way in real life (although I'm sure some would!)

I started a thread a while ago. I wasn't really looking for advice as such, I'd just had a hard day with my kids and was wanting to offload. Got some lovely replies of solidarity, some helpful advice....but a couple of posters. Blimey. They hadn't really grasped my situation or what I was saying. Which is the way of it, when you are only provided a few paragraphs of somebodies life. But they were like a dog with a bone, banging on about how awful my kids were and how it's all my fault as I'm a terrible parent

Bizarre how these people get so overinvested, even when they've been told that they are on the wrong track.

Nowt so queer as folk 🤷‍♀️

Yes, I've noticed this too

Wasn't it Rochfoucauld who said "men are indifferent to other men, but to a woman every other woman is an enemy," or something like that. Maybe going a bit far, but basically true.

I reckon people that are doormats in real life use being nasty on here as some sort of therapy.

Also, the acronyms make me cringe. DH? Why not husband? Or just H? Especially when they’re ripping into their husband’s many character flaws.

I don't understand why anyone wanting genuine advice would post in aibu in the first place.

There are so many subforums that probably have more knowledge and experience of that area and everyone knows aibu is a total shitfest.

Sure, more responses but 99% range from unhelpful to abusive to downright dangerous. Total waste of time.

Er, no it’s not.

I like other women.

I, hand on heart, think most people on here are absolutely full of fucking shite

Overall, I agree that there are a lot of horrible posts/posters; I will not use the overused word "vile".
However, some are lovely - I've received practical help from 2 posters with detailed knowledge of problems that I asked about.

I do find it strange that people can be called the nastiest words in the language with impunity, but using the word "normal" is not allowed.

I believe that's just what Napolean said when viewing England from Calais when using one of those new-fangled (as he called them) telescope things.

Same, she was clearly clearly JOKING.

If you post in AIBU you may well get your arse handed to you. If you want support on particular issues then there are LOTS of sections where you will get that but you need to do a little work to find the relevant area. I don't think you'll get slaughtered in Women's Health or Property/DIY etc

Yup why I now avoid any posts connected to Scottish politics and/or the royal family. They will give me nothing but rage

I think a lot of people are just nasty/angry/frustrated I real life and this is a way to be rude to people anonymously. They know they wouldn't get away with it face to face.

"she was clearly clearly JOKING."
There are so many comments that are clearly joking, & people think they are serious.
There was a funny comment about badly-behaved children being put into the hold on an aircraft; that attracted some awful comments.

Don’t forget people who want a world-class, peer-reviewed study before they will ‘allow’ somebody to have a different opinion