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Original poster

To be pissed off by people playing media from their phone speakers on trains

87 replies

CheshireSplat · 01/08/2022 11:16

Okay, I am a little irritable this morning because the trains have been up the spout, but is it now acceptable to play media from phone speakers rather than through headphones. It is distracting me from work and really annoying me.

YABU - I'm intolerant, need to move with the times and the train carriage isn't your office.
YANBU - Yes it's selfish and a sign of an increasingly selfish society

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Plumtreebob · 01/08/2022 12:23

I sometimes consider buying a bulk lot of cheap headphones and handing them out to people who do this. In the same vein I always make a point to hand people poo bags for theirs dog shit they are about to walk away from and say oh here have one of mine. Normally shames them
into being a decent human being…

WudYouSayItInRealLife · 01/08/2022 12:26

Yadnbu. It's really selfish. It's amazing that some people think it's ok to behave like that.

schnubbins · 01/08/2022 12:29

and there is my poxy neighbour , working from home since the beginning of covid Does his conference calls on loudspeaker in his garden and smokes one cigarette after the other .He is at it now so even at home i am being persecuted .Its not being selfish , people like this are just plain thick.

woodhill · 01/08/2022 12:30

Absolutely hate it yanbu

And endless long winded conversations in front of me on loud speaker

Antarcticant · 01/08/2022 12:34

Agree.

I wonder if these people think they have such good taste in music that everyone else will be grateful to them for providing a memorable soundtrack to the 9:41 Manchester Victoria service.

phishy · 01/08/2022 12:36

I voted YABU because YABU for moaning here rather than telling the perps to stop.

woodhill · 01/08/2022 12:38

Yes fair comment but what if the person becomes aggressive

ChaToilLeam · 01/08/2022 12:41

YANBU. I hate this! Selfish arseholes the lot of them.

torquewench · 01/08/2022 12:44

YADNBU. And WHY do they always have shit taste in music?????

rhowton · 01/08/2022 13:14

Someone sat next to me allowed his child to watch their ipad with full volume on the plane. I asked him nicely if he could turn it down and he refused, telling me to mind my business, so I just put my music as loud as possible right next to his head until he turned his child's tv low. The entitlement is out of hand.

FandP · 01/08/2022 13:25

YANBU. We recently flew 5 hours from Cyprus with a young teen playing loud games on his device in the seat in front. It never ceases to amaze me how some people can lack any sort of awareness or consideration towards others. The mind boggles

HaveringWavering · 01/08/2022 14:58

KenAddams · 01/08/2022 11:52

I'll top that this morning... currently sitting on a train woman bleating out her phone but wearing headphones WTAF

She possibly doesn't realise her headphones have un-paired with her phone. I've done that momentarily before!

KenAddams · 01/08/2022 17:28

@HaveringWavering possibly but this was a good 6 tracks before I got off and she was still listening 😂😂😂 my daughter found this hilarious of course

Abra1d1 · 01/08/2022 17:31

SheldonesqueTheBstard · 01/08/2022 11:36

YANBU. Not at all.

i’d to catch the bus last week instead and some muppet was doing this and none too quietly either.

The bus driver slowed down and she shouted out that they had to turn the volume off or listen to it through headphones. If they didn’t do it, they were going off at the next stop.

Rightly so.

I love this driver.

WudYouSayItInRealLife · 01/08/2022 17:45

KenAddams · 01/08/2022 11:52

I'll top that this morning... currently sitting on a train woman bleating out her phone but wearing headphones WTAF

I did this myself but it was even worse as I was listening to a particularly rude episode of shameless and because the headphones weren't working I had turned the volume right up. I was sitting in airport lounge with my four little kids blissfully unaware of the racket I was making. No one said anything 😅

Original poster
CheshireSplat · 01/08/2022 20:05

I've just braced myself to come back on this thread in case IWBU but it seems pretty safe. To the PP who said I should have challenged her, I was sorely tempted but was worried IWBU. There will be no stopping me next time.... 😁

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Alliswells · 01/08/2022 20:14

It's so fucking rude.

ilovesooty · 01/08/2022 20:21

Fedupandthensome · 01/08/2022 11:38

I actually just tell people who do this "get some headphones, no one wants to be subjected to your music".

I don't understand why we feel the need to quietly seethe about this kind of stuff. Granted, if it's a late night journey , and the person being antisocial the only other passenger in your train carriage, then I can see why letting it go might be more appropriate.

However, this normally happens at peak times, when all the other passengers are getting equally irritated by the noise and everyone is being "too polite" to tell the person in question that they are being antisocial.

I often find that as soon as I say something, if the person continues to play their music, it suddenly emboldens the other passengers to chip in and tell them that they are being really bloody annoying. In this situation, unless the person is a total sociopath they will eventually just mutter something under their breath and move carriage.

Agreed. Someone was playing nursery rhymes for their child without headphones on the crowded train I was on on Saturday. No one said anything - as far as I was aware. I walked down the carriage and asked whoever it was either to put on headphones or turn it off, as that was really anti social behaviour. It seemed to work.

Eslteacher06 · 01/08/2022 20:27

I've actually just come back from a meal in a restaurant...the table behind me playing something really loud. I nearly told them to turn it down but they were leaving.........for another group in their place playing really loud Cocomelon. I actually told them to turn it down (told them that my own children will end up coming over to watch) and they did do it... albeit I got dirty looks the rest of the meal.

But why should I even have to ask???? Why do they think they have the right to do that?????

Teaandscone · 01/08/2022 20:27

Dappledthings, I like your style!

Stopsnowing · 01/08/2022 20:29

How about on planes?

AuntyMabelandPippin · 01/08/2022 20:59

I had one of these on Saturday. I just turned around, looked at her and said, 'Excuse me, could you turn that down please?' She did and apologised.

I did have my teacher voice on...

CallmeMrsPricklepants · 01/08/2022 21:07

Hate this, I regularly have my commute ruined by people watching YouTube videos on full volume. I can't understand it.

Although the worst one was when there were four boys sitting on the table opposite me talking incredibly loudly and explicitly about the sex they were having with each other, comparing penis sizes etc. One boy was leading it all and using it as an opportunity to belittle his followers. It was vile.

secretfreckle · 01/08/2022 22:26

People are so, so rude and entitled. I swear it is worse since COVID, people just think the world is their lounge.
I was on a three hour coach journey recently and a man started up a 45 MINUTE conversation at top volume on his phone.

sdfsdipf9ue · 01/08/2022 22:26

You are not BU a million times over, OP. It drives me insane!