To be pissed off by people playing media from their phone speakers on trains

[CheshireSplat]

Okay, I am a little irritable this morning because the trains have been up the spout, but is it now acceptable to play media from phone speakers rather than through headphones. It is distracting me from work and really annoying me.

YABU - I'm intolerant, need to move with the times and the train carriage isn't your office.
YANBU - Yes it's selfish and a sign of an increasingly selfish society

Absolutely agree OP, I can't remember this being a thing before lock down but god it drives me absolutely mad now. Its so RUDE! Ditto people having loud video calls in pubs, cafes, restaurants.

I agree, they're selfish idiots.

Course YANBU. It blows my mind that people are so thick and/or self-centred that they think this is okay.

If I could choose one superpower it wouldn't he flying or mind-reading or superspeed or anything like that. It would be the ability to control the volume on anyone's phone through the power of my mind.

For those that have the sound leaking out of their headphones I would turn it down. If they turn it back up I'd do it one more time, if they did it again I'd fry the device via my telekinetic electromagnetic pulse. Anyone playing out loud without headphones gets no chances. Device fried instantly. And they'd not know what happened.

I may have fantasised about this on trains a little too much.

I can't believe anyone would think that YABU. I'd love to understand why people feel like they can do this other than pure selfishness.

Oh God, you are not being unreasonable at ALL! It's so fucking rude, self- absorbed and entitled.

Love this!

I don't think you're being intolerant or unreasonable. If I'm on public transport, I want to either hear my own music or be able to speak to someone (I have a mild hearing impairment and struggle with background noise) and actually hear them / my music.

YANBU, why haven’t they got headphones in?!

YADNBU

its so selfish! What kind of arrogance do people have to assume we all want to hear their crap music in a confined public space? Use fucking headphones or keep it on silent.

I always thought it was a “young person” thing to do but was recently sat on a bus where a guy who must’ve been 50+ was blaring his playlist and singing and bopping along. I already wasn’t feeling well, so it really got on my last nerve! what an absolute dick that man was though.

Absolutely agree !

This is my number one gripe from my dh - he constantly opens stuff & watches it with volume while we're watching tv . I pause tv & glare at him each time till he stops

Thankfully wfh so have this less with the public but it's so rude. Last time I was on a train, a man watched a football match with no headphones. How I wasn't done for murder, I don't know lol

I went out for a meal with my elderly mum at the weekend and the group next to us had a phone propped up on their table playing some program with shrieking laughter and music. All loud and tinny and horrible. It was the dining room at a pub so I wasn't expecting silence but this was really annoying. And why go out for meal as a group of you are going to ignore one another to focus on a tiny phone screen?

YANBU. Not at all.

i’d to catch the bus last week instead and some muppet was doing this and none too quietly either.

The bus driver slowed down and she shouted out that they had to turn the volume off or listen to it through headphones. If they didn’t do it, they were going off at the next stop.

Rightly so.

I actually just tell people who do this "get some headphones, no one wants to be subjected to your music".

I don't understand why we feel the need to quietly seethe about this kind of stuff. Granted, if it's a late night journey , and the person being antisocial the only other passenger in your train carriage, then I can see why letting it go might be more appropriate.

However, this normally happens at peak times, when all the other passengers are getting equally irritated by the noise and everyone is being "too polite" to tell the person in question that they are being antisocial.

I often find that as soon as I say something, if the person continues to play their music, it suddenly emboldens the other passengers to chip in and tell them that they are being really bloody annoying. In this situation, unless the person is a total sociopath they will eventually just mutter something under their breath and move carriage.

I absolutely hate it when people do this and I hate it when people let their kids do it too. Earphones exist for a reason. (Before anyone wades in with the obligatory 'what if the child has SEN and they can't wear earphones and their favourite video is the only thing that will stop them having a huge meltdown' comment, I'm not talking about kids and parents in that situation, that is a different thing entirely to what I mean).

The only thing more annoying that this is idiots using the speaker on their phone to talk to someone - just hold the phone as a normal human being, no one wants to listen to your full conversation!!!

YADDDDDNBU

My worst train journey in recent times was in a packed carriage heading towards Manchester where some gig was happening. Three teenage girls in full 'rollers in the hair/flight case of make-up out on the table' mode insisted on blasting out explicit rap from their speaker, and when DH politely asked them to turn it off, not least because there were small kids on the train, they informed him that they were doing A-Level Politics and it was their human right in a democratic society to play whatever they liked. Then they stood up and demanded the rest of the carriage 'voted' for them to turn it off. Everyone in the carriage melted silently into their seats. No sign of the train conductor because the service was so overcrowded he couldn't get down the corridors. Just. Excruciating.

Such entitled behaviour, as if we want to listen to their crap. I once made the mistake of asking someone to turn their music off or use headphones and got yelled at! Honestly, I’d be mortified if people knew what was on my playlist yet these people think it’s ok to subject others to it.

I'll top that this morning... currently sitting on a train woman bleating out her phone but wearing headphones WTAF

Would also love the super power to turn peoples music down!

I’ve started with singing along badly and obviously, or joining in the conversation if it’s a call.

YABU. People who do this are just ridiculously selfish.

And as above, the people who hold their phone up and speak into the bottom of it look and sound like complete and utter twats.

I used to quite enjoy sitting on the train, just taking in the sights, but more and more, humans ruin every simple little thing!

It's selfish, they need to use headphones. What I noticed on holiday recently (sitting around the pool mainly) we're the amount of people of video/ FaceTime calls. So loud!

Any noise emanating from a mobile is irritating and selfish IMO. A group of friends showing each other a short video of something I wouldn't have an issue with, but ongoing sounds, including video calls/speaker phone. There's something really annoying about listening to someone's facetime conversation. Just put some damn headphones in!

Yanbu. It’s so selfish.

YANBU
It's so rude!
I was sitting in the dentist's waiting room the other day, and a woman (in her 40-50's) was watching some stupid videos with the sound on. Like WTAF?