Abuse????

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My partner of 5yrs this morning has thrown a pot of yoghurt at me which exploded all over me and the floor then opened a bag of salad and tipped it over my head all infront of my 4yr old because i said i didn't like natural yoghurt. What would you all make of that and what would you do? Based on this info alone without a back story

That's very degrading in front of your child. I would leave. These things just tend to escalate. It's not that it was just harmless yogurt or salad, it's the way he poured it all over you and did it in front of your child. And throwing things at you??I would leave, please leave.
If he can do that to you now, what will he be doing when he's even angrier over something that's not so minor as you saying you don't like natural yoghurt?

I think you know the answer to your question. Call a domestic violence helpline to discuss a plan for leaving, it all depends on whether you wish to press charges (he's actually assaulted you), if he's on the tenancy, joint accounts etc. They'll talk you through it all. There's always a way out. Your child should never see this and think it's OK. It's only going to get worse.

Unclear whether it’s a man or woman doing this. Either way it’s fucked up. Don’t let your child grow up around this kind of behaviour. Document it, every time, and if you split up be very very careful to protect your child from this type of behaviour if that parent gets contact. If they do it to you, DC will be in the firing line next. Maybe not now but in a few years

This is how it starts if you let him stay you're giving him the green light to do it again
You don't want your DS in the firing line thinking this is normal
Get out now and go to a friend or relative Do not tolerate this
You and your DC deserve better

Abusive

With the sole purpose of wanting you to feel humiliated, belittled and confused to make you compliant in future. And all in front of your child.

This would simply never, ever happen in a healthy relationship.

Your son doesn't deserve to be exposed to an abusive relationship.

Let this fuel you to leave.

Ps if it’s a man doing it you should be worried about escalating physical violence and leave. If it’s a woman and you aren’t worried about being physically harmed you still need that person to be frankly horrified at their behaviour and get it addressed via therapy etc before you can agree to any kind of future together

Abuse.

The incident you describe is 100% domestic abuse, and because your child has witnessed it that means they too are a victim of emotional abuse. You have presented one incident here, but I would be willing to bet there are other concerning or controlling behaviours your partner is displaying. If you don't leave, his behaviour will get worse and your child will suffer as a result, no matter how hard you try to shield them from it. I have spent my whole adult life working with children and teens who have witnessed DA and the impact on them is huge and often follows them throughout their life.
Start making plans to leave, do it now before you change your mind. If you have family or a close friend you can confide in do not be ashamed to ask for their help.

Gosh that's terrible, please take steps to leave.

Abuse of you and your child!

Poor you and your poor poor 4 yo. I can't even imagine witnessing this at that age 😡.

It is absolutely abuse and it is 100% inexcusable. You need to report this to the police and take steps to remove him from your home. Not just for you, but for your child. This will only escalate.

It's abusive behaviour.

It's abusive. Towards you and towards the 4yo.

Why are you asking?

Are you looking for this to be validated? Is it a reverse? Are you just at the end of a very long string of abuse?

Whichever it is, deep down you must know this isn't ok.

the problem is, when there is a child present, you want to defuse it and not escalate. That's when things can get really out of hand. It's better to be quiet and plan an exit when they're not about. Sad situation - so many horrible abusive men out there.

This is the sort of “prank” couples play on each other in the stupid (I say stupid because I hate them and don’t find them amusing) TikTok and YouTube videos …. Does your partner watch a lot of them?

You mention no other context … was this done as a ‘joke’ ? As in meant to be funny …

I'd get him out or run as far away from him a possible and stay away forever. It will get worse not better. Never acceptable. Get out and away now.

Sorry meant to start new thread!! 🙄

has thrown a pot of yoghurt at me which exploded all over me and the floor then opened a bag of salad and tipped it over my head all infront of my 4yr old because i said i didn't like natural yoghurt.

What the fuck? What kind of joke would this be?

Outrageous unless of course you threw something first.

It may not sound like a big deal, some yoghurt & salad not really something expect to hurt a person. However it's a totally disproportionate reaction to situation with such a quick leap to anger, it's abuse that they feel it's ok to throw things and want to hurt & humiliate someone they claim to love and don't even care that their behaviour may scare their child.

If someone isn't even allowed to voice opinion that they don't like natural yoghurt without fear that's a very unsafe position to live in. Even if this was truely a one off random thing which I doubt, I'd be questioning relationship. You deserve to be treated with respect and not live with anxiety or start altering how you behave to try manage situation.

Bin the bully,what an arsewipe