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Anybody else hate working in general

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NameAlreadyTaken16 · 30/07/2022 23:29

OK so a quick break down I worked full time since leaving school. I went part time after returning to work from matty leave (years ago) and have no intention of ever going full time again. I have hated every single job I have ever had and dread going/logging on to work every time I wake up in the morning because I know what it means, it means going to have to work and will be stuck working for hours. I count down all week till Friday and clock watch all day until I'm finished, get a nice happy buzz feeling Friday when I'm done but by Sunday night the dread is kicking in again.

I'm married with 2 teenagers and have a mortgage, I can't afford not to work as need to help pay the mortgage and bills. The one thing I would hate more than working would be not having money to do anything or have to start really counting the penny's ect. My husband earns enough to pay the mortgage and bills but we would be very tight for cash after that and would be skimping to get by, so not working is not an option for me.

I know some people say you just need to find a job you enjoy. Ive recently changed jobs, thinking this may help so I have changed to some thing I enjoy more, its a good job with decent pay, Monday to Friday and good benefits... but still I hate working. I know I should be thankful that I've managed to get a good job and I could be doing alot worst job's ( I tell myself this aswell to get through the day) but I still hate it. Its not my colleagues, im working from home so its not the office environment, only thing wrong with the new job is not being able to get clear help or advice when stuck. But apart from that it isn't too hard... I just hate working for a living in general 😒

I know some people say they love there jobs. But does anyone actually love there job ? Or working in general ?

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sjxoxo · 30/07/2022 23:34

I do really love my job but also not enough to not take a year off after my baby was born haha. I think it’s as close as ‘love’ I’ll ever get to where work is concerned.. unless I open my own company doing the same thing & make a shit ton of money. Im tempted to…
i think most people hate work.. it’s a grim reality that capitalism is wholesome for those at the top who we are all making money for. If you aren’t at the top of the tree, being able to leave your work and work is essential IMO. Otherwise you are doing extra work for free basically. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with working part time if you can afford it! I suppose the ideal thing to do is to work for yourself, or work part time but with a high hourly rate! X

sjxoxo · 30/07/2022 23:35

*leave your work AT work that should say!

SomeoneSomewhere21 · 30/07/2022 23:36

I understand and identify with your frustration as I feel the same. The jobs I want to do pay half the salary I’m on now so it’s just not an option for us right now or maybe never. I do a couple of volunteer jobs when I have time. I’d love to win the lotto and just do my volunteer jobs full time that I love.

BerylBird · 30/07/2022 23:39

Yep. I hate it too. Thankfully have a lot of freedom in my role to work flexibly - and I don't work in school holidays - but I'd still rather not work.

Tania64 · 30/07/2022 23:39

Totally agree.It's a crap existence set up by the wealthy to keep the rest of us in our place. Society needs to change. Work is a living hell.

Singinghollybob · 30/07/2022 23:44

My job is a really nice one to be fair but I still really really hate going to work. I always have done no matter what job I've had!

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NameAlreadyTaken16 · 30/07/2022 23:47

So glad it's not just me LOL I spoke to colleagues at my old job about it and they all looked at me like I was mad and told me they were going back full time as soon as there kids were older. Except from them only really spoke to close friends about it but none of them work or have really worked for any length of time, so they couldn't really relate. My husband doesn't mind work, doesn't love it but doesn't hate. Was really worried if was just me. Not even sure if there is point in moving to another department in work dealing with something else as ill prob still hate it and maybe it will be worst than now. Yip need to win that lotto :)

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dudsville · 30/07/2022 23:49

I don't think your being unreasonable, but focusing on this so frequently is depressing. I don't like work, I focus on two things 1) I'm doing this for my pension and 2) saving hard for early retirement. So rather than thinking all the time about how much i don't like working, i examine my pension plan, probably 3 or 4 times a year, reviewing this helps motivate me. And i focus on the parts of my life that i enjoy. I always know when my next holiday is, we don't travel anymore but have made a nice homelife so this is literally a break from work, and i space my AL out evenly across the year so i have a break every 12 weeks or so. And i totally agree with @Tania64 ,i say this all the time.

BurnDownTheDiscoHangTheDJ · 30/07/2022 23:50

As my Dad always says, if work was any good the aristocracy would have kept it all for themselves 😂

Whatwouldscullydo · 30/07/2022 23:51

I hear you!

I'm planning on changing jobs come September or at least changing my hours a bit. I'm.only part time but I do feel it takes up alot if my time even if its just cos its hanging over my head .

Theres nothing about my job I guess thats any more terrible than any where else. I just feel that its just something else that's taken something from me.that I'll never get back. That I've had in order to be able to do it I've had to become colder and darker than I'd like. How else do u survive retail.

I wish I could just take some time to find myself again.

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NameAlreadyTaken16 · 30/07/2022 23:59

Yeah agreed I've tried not to focus on it. Even to the point I tried to convince myself I loved my job and would joke with my husband in the morning how I couldn't wait to get started ( he would look at me like I needed sectioned) LLF when I'm finished work for the day I dont really think about it until night time when I'm thinking about setting an alarm and needing to start the shit show again tomorrow.

But as it was fake it didn't last, I just can't shake how depressing it is having to work. Still got over 30 years till I'm at pension again, so can't focus on that. Currently got about 10 years until my mortgage is paid off after that I might be able to quit. But thats still 10 years of this 😬

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Shellsbelles · 31/07/2022 00:09

What do you enjoy doing? If you get time to yourself, what do you do?

I do miss work if I'm off too long, I have to do work-like things as I'm bored so may as well work and get paid for it.

mrsfollowill · 31/07/2022 00:21

I feel the same- but then DH does too! we'd both like nothing better than to win the lottery and never work again Grin Alas it's not an option so we keep on keeping on. We're early 50's and I will have the option to retire at 55 and take my 'gold plated local authority pension' - he is horrified by the thought (just jealous!) as he needs to keep going to 67.
I'm hoping to work in my current role til I'm 60 ish - take the pension and work 3 days a week in my local Tesco if they will have me.
You are pretty young if you have all those years to go though! I've worked for 32 yrs in a proper job but also worked part time while at school/college for at least 5 years before that. My DS is 20 and has a job he genuinely enjoys -full time proper job loves it. The best advice we ever gave him was try and get a job you love because you will be doing it a long time.

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NameAlreadyTaken16 · 31/07/2022 00:25

Whatwouldscullydo · 30/07/2022 23:51

I hear you!

I'm planning on changing jobs come September or at least changing my hours a bit. I'm.only part time but I do feel it takes up alot if my time even if its just cos its hanging over my head .

Theres nothing about my job I guess thats any more terrible than any where else. I just feel that its just something else that's taken something from me.that I'll never get back. That I've had in order to be able to do it I've had to become colder and darker than I'd like. How else do u survive retail.

I wish I could just take some time to find myself again.

Totally I get what you mean about darker. I used to joke with colleagues at my old job that I was happy go lucky and loved meeting new people when I started.. . after over 10 years in a call centre doing customer service, I was darker and jaded with a constant suspicion of people. I can honestly say the way some people speak to call centre staff is absolutely disgusting.

Moved away from retail completely and customer service thinking this would help but nope 3 jobs later and still hate working 👀

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StolenWillowTree · 31/07/2022 00:36

I love my job. I even love the day job I did while I was trying to 'make it' in my desired career, to the point I still do my old day job on occasional Sundays just for the love of it. I can afford to not work and I don't work all the time because of the nature of my job, but I get incredibly bored and depressed when I'm not working.

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NameAlreadyTaken16 · 31/07/2022 00:37

Shellsbelles · 31/07/2022 00:09

What do you enjoy doing? If you get time to yourself, what do you do?

I do miss work if I'm off too long, I have to do work-like things as I'm bored so may as well work and get paid for it.

Good question, I enjoy reading, training/walking the dog, spending time with family and friend's, gaming. Having a spotless house.. dont like tidying but love the feeling of sitting down once its all done and looking at everything is in its place and shiny. God my life sounds sad when I write it down but is what is :)

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FreezyFreezy · 31/07/2022 00:39

I love my job but yes, I hate having to work. I hate that my time isn't my own; I have to get up and go and then have to do something all day before being "allowed" to leave again. I then have to start all over again the following day so my evenings aren't my own either because I have to go to bed early.

DirectionToPerfection · 31/07/2022 00:43

100% with you OP.

It's having no freedom over such a large chunk of my time, and having paltry annual leave to look forward to. I dream of winning the lotto and can't understand people who say they'd carry on working if they won it. What an absolute waste!

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NameAlreadyTaken16 · 31/07/2022 00:47

StolenWillowTree · 31/07/2022 00:36

I love my job. I even love the day job I did while I was trying to 'make it' in my desired career, to the point I still do my old day job on occasional Sundays just for the love of it. I can afford to not work and I don't work all the time because of the nature of my job, but I get incredibly bored and depressed when I'm not working.

I'm honestly jealous, really wish I loved working or at least didn't mind it.

I've never been bored or desperate to get back if I've been off work. If I could still get paid the same for not working I would be so happy it would be like winning the lottery for me 😂

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ilovesooty · 31/07/2022 00:55

I don't see work as a living hell unless you're being bullied or similar.

I loved my last job but now I'm self employed the autonomy is very welcome. I like being able to plan my own schedule.

I can understand people wanting more personal control over their time but some people who whinge about having to go to work are just lazy I think.

GuyMontag · 31/07/2022 01:04

It's a necessary evil. I hate my particular job rn because it's underpaid and the people in charge are micro managing nepotistic twats so I'm completely disillusioned with it and hoping the next one is more bearable.

But I'm not expecting to love it. I have other things I love and if I could do those things all the time and not work I would be more than happy. But I can't. Having a job that I don't actively hate the way I do this current one is the best I can envisage. I've never had a job I loved apart from bar work.

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NameAlreadyTaken16 · 31/07/2022 01:12

Yes I have never understood why people win the lotto and keep working. Fk that 😂

Husband wants us to get a bigger house and to have another child, both of which I love the idea of as have wanted another child for years but our current house is not big enough, but the through of getting another mortgage and having to work for another 25 years is crippling for me. Really wish I liked working but I don't, I thought people loving there jobs were a myth. I don't even think if I was self employed working for my self that I would like it, I just really hate working in general

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icedcoffeeplease · 31/07/2022 01:16

I could have written this. I much prefer the continental ‘work to live’ approach e.g. long lunch hour, frequent comfort breaks, absolutely no discussion of work outside work. I’m not lazy but the work I’m able to get that sustains my life at the moment is mind numbing. I’m actually incapable of concentrating on it and I find it bizarre that my colleagues want to spend free time together after work instead of their own lives. I find that really insidious

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NameAlreadyTaken16 · 31/07/2022 01:22

ilovesooty · 31/07/2022 00:55

I don't see work as a living hell unless you're being bullied or similar.

I loved my last job but now I'm self employed the autonomy is very welcome. I like being able to plan my own schedule.

I can understand people wanting more personal control over their time but some people who whinge about having to go to work are just lazy I think.

Hmm never really considered people who whinge about work as lazy. I do the work, most of the time over well my quota. Its nothing to do with laziness, otherwise the work wouldn't get done 😃, I just hate working in general and having to it and be there for certain number of hours ect

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GuyMontag · 31/07/2022 01:30

Yes I have never understood why people win the lotto and keep working. Fk that 😂

I agree. Those people don't deserve to win the lottery. Give the money to me! I'll show them how to bloody live.

Re another child/bigger house though, just do it. You'll be working another 25 years anyway (sorry). If you can get yourself set up so you enjoy your life apart from work it'll make it more bearable.