Anybody else hate working in general

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OK so a quick break down I worked full time since leaving school. I went part time after returning to work from matty leave (years ago) and have no intention of ever going full time again. I have hated every single job I have ever had and dread going/logging on to work every time I wake up in the morning because I know what it means, it means going to have to work and will be stuck working for hours. I count down all week till Friday and clock watch all day until I'm finished, get a nice happy buzz feeling Friday when I'm done but by Sunday night the dread is kicking in again.

I'm married with 2 teenagers and have a mortgage, I can't afford not to work as need to help pay the mortgage and bills. The one thing I would hate more than working would be not having money to do anything or have to start really counting the penny's ect. My husband earns enough to pay the mortgage and bills but we would be very tight for cash after that and would be skimping to get by, so not working is not an option for me.

I know some people say you just need to find a job you enjoy. Ive recently changed jobs, thinking this may help so I have changed to some thing I enjoy more, its a good job with decent pay, Monday to Friday and good benefits... but still I hate working. I know I should be thankful that I've managed to get a good job and I could be doing alot worst job's ( I tell myself this aswell to get through the day) but I still hate it. Its not my colleagues, im working from home so its not the office environment, only thing wrong with the new job is not being able to get clear help or advice when stuck. But apart from that it isn't too hard... I just hate working for a living in general 😒

I know some people say they love there jobs. But does anyone actually love there job ? Or working in general ?

Sounds unpleasant, I'd hate to feel dread every evening/morning five days a week.

I enjoy my work. It's not my dream job, but my dream job doesn't really pay the bills. But I really like my job, might even stretch to love.

I got 16 weeks mat leave (that's the legal time off in my country) and I was glad to go back. Being in the house felt claustrophobic by the end and I enjoy having adult interactions (I'm a single parent).

Even if I didn't have to work I think I'd keep working at least part time because I like the structure it gives to my day. If I didn't have work I'd sleep til noon, eat whenever, sleep whenever. Which is fun enough to do on a weekend or a holiday, but probably not healthy to live your whole life like that.

I like my colleagues. I'm good at my job and I like the feeling I get when I got everything done, or managed to do something difficult /challenging. I like the job itself - there's always a new situation to deal with so I never get bored. And it brings a lot of perks (travel, good pay, etc).

I don't really know what to advise if your problem isn't the specific job but working in general. There isn't really a way out aside from winning the lottery. Maybe see it as a challenge to be overcome rather than a thing to be suffered ?

100% why even put the ticket on if you want to keep working 😂

Yeah your probably right about working for the next 25 years. Thinking about it I never really hated working before I had a mortgage and absolutely had to work, to maintain a decent quality lifestyle. One thing I hate more than working was having no money, used to hate adding up everything when shopping before checking out and stuff like that

Well fk It might need to play the I love my job game again and try to fake it till it happens ( it's not gonna happen is it 😂)

I honestly think I could just live very frugally if I didn't work. Can't wait to retire. My needs are very little - I like walking, outdoor stuff, libraries and sitting in cafes.

At the minute it's impossible as the kids are little and the mortgage needs paying!

OP, my aim for my job is to choose something I am good at (without too much effort i.e. plays to my natural strengths), is reasonably interesting and pays the maximum I can get. Then provided my boss and work environment is ok, I just turn up day after day and get the job done without overthinking it. If the job is not right, I change it.

Have done that for 30 years now and worked some pretty long hours as well.

The one thing that gave me purpose at the 13 year mark was my first child dd and then later ds being born. This forced financial hardships which necessitated working harder to fund a bigger house and school fees. So I work to achieve financial goals.

I cannot imagine not working, considering how much investment I put into my education and acquiring professional. The opportunity cost of not working is huge. It just will not make sense. Thankfully, I don't hate it. I could do with more holidays, but work is just the wallpaper of my life.

I don’t love my job. some parts of it frustrate me no end. But I like most of the people I work with and I do get a sense of accomplishment from it. At the end of the day it pays the bills!

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Thats the problem, I've now chosen something I'm good at, opted to work the minimum hours I can. Its a good environment no real stress, work at your own pace. Good hours Monday to Friday within school hours decent pay for my area. On paper there is not much to dislike about my job... but still I hate working, its not a dislike I just can't stand working.

I know I cant stop working as need pay the bills, but I hate it. Hate the fact I have to get up and work between XYZ hours per day, dread Sunday nights as know I have work Monday mornings. While all the time knowing I need to work or everything crumbles down, its shite but what can we do

I feel the same despite having a highly agreeable job. It's not laziness because I readily work extra hours and I'm considered to be someone who goes "above and beyond" to get things done to a high standard. What I resent is that so much of my waking life is captured by work. That wouldn't be necessary if (1) employers hired more people to spread the workload and (2) people were not left totally dependent on work to meet basic needs.

I work FT it pays for the bills, pension & activities outside work

I enjoy my non work time more

What do you do outside work ?

What hobbies ?

Do you plan holidays & days out to look forward to ?

I think the heartbreaking part is when you get newbies. Ones who come in young happy and sweet and you pray they won't change. But they do. You can almost see the light go put in front of your eyes.

Retail ruins you fir anyone and everything else.

I hate working full time YES!!! Also have teens

But luckily I can afford to work part time so I have a good work life balance and enjoy my job now.

I like a break from house kids dh and my colleagues are fun

I love working and would find not working much more stressful. That said I would like to work fewer hours.

I get you OP. I retired three years ago after the best part of 40 years of full time work without breaks. No regrets. I didn’t hate my job, it just didn’t feel like where I wanted to be anymore.

Make work work for you.i did a job I hated but it allowed me to go travelling, buy a house and retire early. We are all most likely have to work unless you win the lottery and that is unlikely to happen for us so no point wisfully thinking that.

Don't take work home and don't take home to work was the best advise my DF gave me plus get a good pension going early if you don't like working. Which is what I did, started work at 16 and a pension at 18. Retired at 50 then got an undemanding part time job for pin money

I don't hate my job, I love it actually, but still wouldn't do it if I won the lottery. That's because I don't love it more than spending time with my family or doing what I want, when I want. But it is necessary to buy the things and the lifestyle I want.

Have you thought of starting your own business? You may be more invested, and therefore enjoy it more.

I never really wanted to work, it feels like such a waste of a short time on this earth but I loved my previous job, got a feeling of pride in believing in what I did. Got screwed over by a new manager and I quit. I won't make the same mistake again of thinking I remotely mattered.

I've got a new job, don't hate it but I do my hours, start and leave on the dot and forget about it as soon as I leave. Its not well paid, they clearly don't value staff to pay even a living wage so I will do my job and no more.

I hate working though and if I could afford it I'd much rather not. When I read of/meet someone who says they would work regardless I think they clearly lack imagination.

I’m with you. So many other things I’d rather do than work. I pay extra into my pension & overpay the mortgage so I can retire mid 50’s.

I used to hate working so much I wished the bus would crash on my way in. The people I worked with were usually really nice but I hated having to be bored stiff for 35 hours a week. Now I have a more challenging job that I enjoy, work from home full time, and also have a toddler so work seems like a nice break 😆 I would still rather not work but this situation suits me a lot better. It feels like work is part of my life rather than it stopping me doing what I really want to do.

I like your dad

I’m on the cusp of starting my own business. But I quite like working - I need a routine. I like people. But my current role is soul sapping.

i think people like the OP are those that don’t want a routine and should be artists or similar.

I’m a primary school teacher and I love my job. I’m lucky to work in a village school with a strong community feel, so maybe that’s it - the sense of belonging and purpose. I genuinely care for all the children I teach.

I could, however, easily do without the three hours of work after the children are in bed each night, or the dragging small people into school over the holidays while I’ve got things to catch up on.

I do think you can enjoy work IF it’s something you enjoy AND it doesn’t put an unreasonable strain on your family life. I wonder if there’s a job out there like that? If anyone has one please let us know.

Yanbu...for me it's not the work itself...it's the workplace politics. I was bullied at school and have been bullied at work so i guess i have target written on my back!

A certain type seem to thrive in management in my sector. I will say no more.

What is it that you hate about working so much?
The hours, the actual work, your colleagues, the management, having to get up early, the commute/WFH? Is it not interesting or challenging enough? Do you not feel appreciated or valued?

Not what you want to hear, but I love my job. I work part time - 3 days WFH and one day at the office. I find my job interesting and challenging, get on really well with my workmates, have a lovely boss and brilliant HOD. I feel appreciated and valued at work, and I think I have my work life balance exactly as I want it.

I really like work.

I think I'm good at completing tasks and I find people interesting but from a bit of a distance so I like the human interaction element, when I'm off work I tend to be a bit more solitary so it's great to go to work and be with people I like and find interesting without the pressure of friendship / expectations on either side.

I'm very family orientated and I love my weekends and holidays but, equally, I wouldn't want to be with DC all the time so work provides a break.

I'm very motivated by earning money so I like that side of it too and have risen to the top of my department so I have a bit more autonomy around my hours (although also more pressure).

Generally I like work and having a break from it and ditto free time.

Reading this thread I realise how lucky I am because I absolutely have to work for the money. Thank goodness I also enjoy it.

YES!!!!! Hate working, not just my job as it's actually ok, but I absolutely hate doing it.

I genuinely love my job. But I've had plenty of jobs I've hated in the past so I can sympathise, OP. I have wondered in the past if I was someone who would never enjoy working, and moved around a lot, but it turns out I just hadn't found my niche yet.

For me the key to enjoying work has always been the following

1. Finding a job that is socially useful, where I know I am making a difference.
2. A role where every day is different, because I am someone who gets bored easily.
3. Hours that offer a good work/life balance. I don't intend to work FT ever again, but I know I'm lucky to have that option.
4. Autonomy. Being trusted to make decisions, manage my own diary and prioritise my own workload is really important to me.

If any of the above are lacking, I get fed up at work really quickly. It's taken me a while to find something that was the right fit but I can now honestly say I love the job I've been doing for the past few years. I'm really passionate about it and intend to keep doing it for as long as I can. I do think only being in work 3 days a week helps massively though, its easy to fall out of love with any job when you're over-worked and knackered all the time.