My DS is 5 and very easy going. This year I signed him to a holiday club with his DS, which to be honest was at the top of what I could afford but it had brilliant reviews and lots of activities.
They both enjoyed yesterday but today my ds came out with a large scratch on his face and several on his arms. The lady said that a little girl with additional needs had done it, she was very apologetic and suggested that it was unprovoked. I didn't really think much of it but when we got home my son became very upset at that thought of going next week.
This is very unlike him. He has never even flinched going into school, he went to several nurseries, children's groups etc. I have no doubt that he must have been pushed or pulled around before. We also have a friend who's ds is quite rough and tumble and my son says 'ow that hurts' but rarely says he doesn't want to see him again.
My problem is, looking at the cuts (they're deep!) and thinking that this must have been a shock for DS, am I disregarding his feelings to send him back? I mean I wouldn't like to be attacked unprovoked?
Then there's the cost, I've spent several hundred on this holiday club to last the whole of the holidays, I doubt they will refund me to suit my sons whim? But then saying to Jim 'you're going back, end of' feels wrong too.
I'm also sympathetic as my DD has adhd and I feel that horrible judgement from others who just don't get it. I guess this is what I struggle with, inclusion of all kids means things like this will happen? The alternative is exclusion right? Imagine if they denied this girl a place and then her parents couldn't work? I mean I doubt that 1:1s extend to holiday clubs so if I were the parent I would just book in and hope that they could cope and that she could cope.