To think 3 chicken nuggets or a burger bun are not enough for dinner let alone lunch and dinner!

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Just a rant really!

During school time ex-DH has our DC (15 &10) after school and gets/cooks them dinner usually chips or a frozen pizza. This is the only day he feeds them, so I don't mind them eating crap one day a week as I cook/make them healthy food the rest of the time (teen cooks one day too).

So now it is the school holidays, he picks them up at 12 and takes them to the fun fair/arcades. Lovely. He brings them home at 6 and then leaves. Turns out they've not had dinner. When I question ex he says they had dinner at lunch time and I should just give them some bread! I reply - they are not ducks! 😂 Anyway, turns out DD had a Happy Meal and DS a cheeseburger without the burger (he is vegetarian) with chips and a drink. So, ok for lunch but I don't think enough for dinner. I tell ex this and he tells me all the money he spent and he can't afford to feed them twice. I just said even if you send them home with a pot noodle, it's fine but make sure they have something. Obviously, they can supplement this themselves at home with fruit and yogurt etc. My teen is good at cooking too so he could just get some cheap ingredients for him to cook even just eggs or something.

Just because it is the holidays and so they need lunch too, I think he should still give them dinner too. AIBU?

My teen is almost 6ft. A bun with a slice of burger cheese in it and fries is really not a main meal for him! 😂

Sandwiches, yogurts and fruit would be great, though. But they got nothing.

He is welcome to have them later.

I know! But my teen didn't even have an adult meal, anyway! And honestly, I'm sure most teen boys actually need 2 main meals a day. Unless the poster is a teen boy then what he/she normally eats isn't of consequence!

Considering op feeds their children the majority of their meals all week, I would assume it is common courtesy just to feed them lunch and dinner for one day.

Feeding kids is a pain in the arse.

Holidays mean kids have more meals at home, of course Ex should be feeding them before bringing them back, if the agreement is they have dinner with him on a Thursday. I gave them dinner at lunch indeed 🙄

Yes, I assumed that too!

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He is being really tight to not bother to make dinner 1 night a week

I know... honestly!

I know, it is one night a week! Is that really too much to ask for?!

What a twonk.

Mine used to not make food for the littlies and expect to feed them from my food. He's still a bit crap at feeding them DD makes the tea when she is there.

As someone said upthread feeding your DC is a basic parenting task!

I'm only on page 2 so far so forgive me if this has already been covered.
So he gets the kids for a few hours a week on a Thursday, he is expected to give them lunch and dinner and have them back to you by 6pm? That doesn't leave much time for him to have any sort of fun with them does it?
When you're are a kid, McDonald's is fun, the arcades are fun. Sitting in his flat/house while he knocks up some beans/eggs on toast for them isn't fun.
If i was in your situation I'd expect to have to feed them when they got home. Yeah, 6pm is an awkward time. 7-8pm, they should be fed, but getting dropped off any earlier than that I'd be knocking up some pasta or something.

That makes no sense at all. They had hardly anything from McDonald's and in any case your 'just sandwiches, yogurt and fruit' is not going to be cheaper or lighter than many 'main meals' depending on what's served.

But it doesn't change the fact that their father failed at basic parenting and if money is tight taking them for snacks at McDonald's and then complaining that he can't afford to feed them for the rest of the day makes him look like an idiot.