To ask visitors to please do this?

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Remove their shoes. I have very pale cream carpets and no one in the household wears shoes in the house. My niece recently called and it was heavily raining, she had cork sole shoes on which sucked up lots of water which she tramped over my carpets. I asked her to take them off as wet soggy prints were being left behind. I do not have to ask some people but feel awkward when I do ask.

But you don't necessarily know that someone has foot issues and they shouldn't have to disclose it to you either.

Nobody is being belligerent. Most people will offer to take shoes off (then many hosts will politely say ‘oh no keep them on/ or whatever you prefer’). This then avoids all issues. If the odd person doesn’t offer to take them off then you have to suck it up if you prefer shoes off.

But you can’t ask as that is rude.

Oh yes, there's always something. You could just ask:

'do you mind if I keep my shoes on, I struggle doing them/it's painful, you know, after I had an accident'.

'Yes, of course, would you like something to eat/drink?'.

Not the same as being a rude person with no regard for others. Anyone would make an allowance or find an alternative for a disabled person.

It is normal to take your shoes off, especially if it's carpeted. I can't believe people are rude enough to walk in their shoes without asking. Even if it is flooring, it is a pain to have to keep cleaning it because people are rude and lazy.

My father could not manage taking shoes off without great difficulty. He was belligerent because that is the type of person he was. Not all disabled people say meekly they can not take their shoes off. He just refused to.
Part of his belligerence was not wanting to disclose to others the extent of his disabilities.

Even when you say this, people say I would prefer you remove your shoes.
I can tell you are not disabled.

We live in an area with a high volume of Lycra clad Middle Aged cyclists who spit whilst cycling. This is one reason that no one comes into our Lounge with their shoes still on.

You wouldn't know my sister is disabled and most people don't know she has had some toes amputated. She doesn't want to tell people.

This is a massive thread with loads of people saying it’s not normal for them!

“do you mind if I keep my shoes on, I struggle doing them/it's painful, you know, after I had an accident'.”

No of course not- that’s why I have my handy decorators booties- here let me slip them in over your shoes…. You are NOT coming in here with shoes on 🤣

If you say so. That is extremely rare.

@ThePumpkinPatch yes I am perfectly fine thank you for asking as they walk through the door I do look at their feet whilst they have their shoes on so they get the hint to take them off

just after watching sex and the city. it was step episode where carrie went to a friend child's birthday party and was asked to take her shoes off. they were then stolen and her "friend" ended up having to buy her a new pair. this thread automatically came into my mind 🤣🤣

Gosh, imagine that thread: “My friend’s really expensive shoes were stolen from my hallway and she’s furious she had to walk home in Tesco carrier bags. She’s demanding that I replace them. I don’t want to. AIBU?”

How often do people who don't allow shoes in the house clean their floors?

Downstairs is swept every evening in my house (child labour, otherwise it'd probably be less because they don't get so messy but best to keep it as a routine) and everywhere except the basement is vacuumed and mopped once a week.

Hoovered or swept several times a week. Mopped, once a week.

I can imagine people are shit scared of dropping a crumb 😧

I agree and as for calling shoes on people precious? Really. How ironic.

I doubt there are many visitors to drop crumbs.

Indeed, certainly few return visitors.

How often do people who don't allow shoes in the house clean their floors?

Carpeted rooms - hoover 1-2 a week
Tiled/Laminate rooms - sweep with a brush daily. Mopped every few weeks.

So what happens when you go barefoot in the garden and come inside?

You die of plague,

I doubt there are many visitors to drop crumbs.

You don't generally have to mop if someone drops a few crumbs over a plate or on the table. That's not the same at all. A huge number of cultures take shoes off indoors and cope just fine, in fact, they're often a lot more welcoming and community oriented in those places.