To ask visitors to please do this?

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Remove their shoes. I have very pale cream carpets and no one in the household wears shoes in the house. My niece recently called and it was heavily raining, she had cork sole shoes on which sucked up lots of water which she tramped over my carpets. I asked her to take them off as wet soggy prints were being left behind. I do not have to ask some people but feel awkward when I do ask.

Sorry wrong quote it was directed at the person who said

If someone tries to walk into my laminate with shoes I just say “shoes off. Shoes off. Shoes off. Shoes off. Shoes off.Shoes off.Shoes off.”

I dont understand your comment of course its a joke! DangerouslyBored was saying I am too fussy and should not have cream carpets

'I hate ‘shoes off’ rule, it’s unwelcoming.'

Me too, and I'm extremely houseproud, and have cream carpets downstairs. I would only ask people to take shoes off if they were obviously filthy / muddy. We used to have neighbours who would go to take their shoes off when they came round, but I insisted they kept them on! I don't want to look at your feet or holey socks thank you

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Its all south to me lol

Shoes off here too - Teenage kids do it and so do their friends.
I don't want what people have walked in outside coming into my home and on my floors. Hard floors not so bad as they get cleaned but carpets are more difficult. Its not just about dirt you can see.

I grew up with shoes in house, and then lived in a few shoes-off countries, and now I can't go back. Thankfully most of the world is on board with the shoes off. I've literally never had to ask: they see my heap of shoes by the door and understand.

That's just guests though. If someone has come in to work I don't ask them to take their shoes off.

I always leave our shoes at the bottom of the stairs hoping visitors take their shoes off but unfortunately some people don't get the hint! Our baby is just starting to crawl so I don't want people bringing in their germy shoes onto my living room floors.
With my family I just say shoes off!!! And they do it but with my in laws I stare at their feet and if they then don't get it I say can you take your shoes off please! My partners grandfather out right refuses to take his shoes off in anyones home and has even said to me "that's what you gave wooden floors for it's easy to clean" as if that makes any difference? We sarcastically battled each other at his last visit and he hasn't come back in months

It’s completely a matter of choice, but of course visitors should go with the preference of the home owner.

We have wooden floors downstairs so I don’t bother with shoes off personally- unless they are muddy/ visibly dirty. For going upstairs, yes please do take your shoes off.

I don’t think it’s that big of a deal either way!

It’s not really traditional in the UK to require shoes off, but it’s not problem if people want that, and it’s becoming more usual.

I didn’t know people still wore shoes in the house, certainly not other people's houses. First thing I do when I get home, or go to someone’s house, is take off my shoes, it’s automatic,

YANBU. But people should ask; it's basic manners and it doesn't take much to say 'Shoes off?' when you come in.

I'm a shoes off person but never ask anyone too.

If I was I'd be having a supply of clean socks or slippers people could use, and shoe covers for when it's not practical.

I'd stake my car on there not being a singe case if Covid transmitted by shoe.

There must be thousands of threads on this topic and they always get heated.

I'm team shoes on. I think it's incredibly inhospitable and could never ask guests to remove their shoes. Getting floor coverings that can't be walked on seems ridiculous to me. We have pale carpets on our stairs and landing, never ask anyone to take shoes off although we do ourselves for comfort. Never had an issue.

"We don't live somewhere with dirty pavements" 😀

I’m sorry but I find people taking their shoes off without asking disgusting. Feet often smell and harbour all sorts of disgusting viruses . Yuk please just use my doormat unless your shoes are covered in mud.

to the person whose grandfather won’t take shoes off , elderly people often find bending difficult and putting shoes on hard. They also often have foot problems such as I growing toenails and hygiene issues with feet , that’s why chiropodists visit elderly people and care homes. Many older people find it difficult to balance without shoes, falls are much more likely without shoes .

Love how it's apparently unwelcoming and inhospitable to expect guests to remove their shoes, when the people thinking that must live in filthy unwelcoming houses!

I missed this I can't believe you were this rude to your partner's family!

"We don't live somewhere with dirty pavements" 😀

well we don’t , we live in a small village with very few pavements , mostly fields and walking on the roads . I can’t remember the last time I saw fog mess in the few pavements we have lots of bins and people pick things up.

Wood floors and shoes off. I don't know anyone who leave shoes on bar elderly relatives with mobility issues. That's of course fine.

Maybe it's a Scandi thing.

People aren’t mind readers. Ask them to take their shoes off if they don’t do it automatically. Or live with the consequences!

I’ve never really understood the logic that says bare or socked feet are cleaner than feet in shoes tbh and I don’t think it’s rude not to remove shoes as a default.

Bur I am fine to do it if I am asked to. It’s your home, do whatever you want.

I don't ask people to remove their shoes but I would (reluctantly) offer when I go round to someone else's house. I put a lot of thought into my outfits and to have to remove my shoes ruins it. And I feel a right tit being in someone else's house in my stockinged or even worse, bare feet.
We have a cream carpet in our living room and it seems to cope fine with shoes on. We have it professionally cleaned each year which keeps it looking nice.

I don't think it's unreasonable in general, but it makes a lot of assumptions on people's mobility and how easily shoes come on and off if you don't enable people to sit down to do so. I know a lot of UK don't have room for a seat right by the door, I've had a few places like that, but even sitting on the stairs is so much more reasonable than people who want you to flamingo it by the door and don't get how risky that is for some of us.

Blimey what consequences would they be?

I don't do shoes off in mine but if you yours then you have to ask - people won't always know. Country where I grew up no one took their shoes off.