Thank you to all the people who had kind words on my post.
To clarify, as @BessieFinkNottle said, I did mention women because a) the thread is about mothers and b) because I hate it when women put each other down. There is enough of sexism in the world. That is why I also mentioned the SAHD I know, who also made the choice to be home because they loved it and because it was the right choice for their family.
I was incredibly lucky that we managed to afford me being home with our children. I loved every minute of it. But I know some people don’t enjoy being home with small children and that is ok (DH would have hated it, my mother chose not to). Some people cannot afford it. I wish everyone could, in some other countries it is easier.
I think ultimately, if as a family you make the choice to facilitate for one person to be at home and one person to work, you also need to plan your joint financials so the person at home gets a pension. And it has to be the stay at home parent’s choice, for their own reasons to take a career break.
But I do find it sad when women put each other down. Managing children (often doing more than 50% because…sexism), getting older, menopause, etc. I think the more we stick together and offer each other advice and ideas, the better. And as a pp has pointed out, even SAHDs don’t know what we have been through. They don’t have their body changed and in pain after birth and they don’t nurse all hours. And often they seem to get an easier ride when it comes to housework because…sexism). I have always felt closer to other women than to any man, DH excluded.