To find it funny when DH is furious?

[BlameTheDog]

to find it funny when DH is furious?

I don’t know what it is, but the crosser he gets the more it makes me laugh.
Take yesterday: DH and I went to the garden centre and DD2 (not a child - home from uni) stayed at home and was given strict instructions to supervise the unruly vandal that is our 18 month old (not) working cocker spaniel, in particular to make sure he didn’t destroy the garden.

When we got home I went up the garden (long and narrow) to pick some lettuce and carrots. I immediately saw a big hole, really big, in the middle of the lawn. I quietly returned to the kitchen and busied myself scraping the carrots. I watched through the window as DH went up the garden and swerved right as he saw the hole. I called DD and said “DD unruly dog has dug a huge hole and Dad has just seen it, he’s going to be furious”. She came and peered out of the window before rushing upstairs to her bedroom.

DH stormed in cursing the dog and DD, demanded she come downstairs to inspect the damage.
She came down, swearing she had been watching the dog, I carried on scraping carrots, bent double over the sink, my shoulders shaking, so he went back up the garden to have a rant at the neighbour who is a sympathetic sort. DD and I collapsed laughing, we were crying with laughter, I don’t know why I find it so funny when he’s angry but I do, and so does DD.

So basically what you’re saying is that your rude and disrespectful to your partner and undermine him in front of his daughter?

And not only that but you’ve brought your daughter up to be rude and disrespectful too.

*you’re

Yes you're being unreasonable, how would you feel if you were pissed off about something and your DH just stood and laughed at you?

Why would you find this damage funny? Extremely twattish behaviour. Are you not a regular mum but a cool mum who is down with the kids and with them against boring old dad?

You’re an arsehole. I hope he laughs at you when you’re furious

Really?

How old are you? You sound about 12 years old.

And you've trained your daughter to treat her father in the same way? Lovely.

I find it hard to believe this is true but if it is you sound like a total peach.

YABU and really mean.

Sorry but I am totally with OP here. I would have probably weed my pants too. I so love having a good laugh. It's what keeps us sane :)

*sorry did I write peach? That should be bitch.

Bang out of order. I'd be really cross if that had happened to my lawn.

I laugh too (sometimes) when my chap gets cross! I don’t know why but I find it hilarious.

I think it might be that I can remain detached so what I observe is borne out of that. The crosser he gets, the more I laugh. It’s very strange.

Wow.

I would be pretty pissed of if DP did this to me especially in front of the kids. I think YABU

I’d be so hurt if my husband laughed at me while I was angry or upset about something. You are so horrible.

Perhaps he should piss himself laughing at you when you're upset/annoyed in front of your kids.

Something seriously wrong with you. Maybe as a one off over a funny incident but all the time? I’m quite embarrassed for you.

You sound horrible.
I don’t know why anyone getting genuinely cross is funny, never mind someone you’re supposed to love. Bizarre.

@Gaveitall really? Since doubt op will come back, what is it about the person you apparently love and care about being upset and distressed you find so hilarious?

You sound awful. Poor DH.

I can't work out whether you're a 10 year old child or an abusive adult.

I would laugh too...how can you get angry over a dog digging a hole in the garden?? Your husband needs to get a grip lol

If it was that he was getting upset that his peas were too green or he didn't like days ending in the letter 'Y' or something I'd say you were reasonable.

But he was annoyed about something understandable and you find that hilarious - and apparently this is whenever he's angry - which kind of says that you don't really respect his feelings or what matters to him.

So Y(and your daughter)ABU.

Imagine how invalidating it'd be if every time you communicated an emotion, he laughed at you?

It could be a fear based reaction. Was your father abusive? Sometimes if we are in uncomfortable situations we try to diffuse the situation, humour is a natural reaction. I have it when I attend funerals, I can’t stop giggling - it’s absolutely awful and I feel terrible. We can’t help how we react 🤷‍♀️

My ex used to laugh at me too when I was angry or sad. It felt so dehumanising to be so disrespected when I could’ve done with his support or understanding.

Just one of the many things that led to the demise of our relationship.

If it was fear based I doubt the OP would be on here crowing about it.

Plus that doesn't explain why her daughter also 'collapsed' and started 'crying' with laughter 🙄