To press ahead with this despite DH opposition

[DancingQueen2018]

We have a 5 bed house 2 doubles 3 singles, we’ve historically always kept the 2nd double as a guest room but it gets used maybe twice a year.

DD1 is now 12 and ideally needs a bigger room, first prize would be to reconfigure the entire upstairs but that isn’t an option right now, so I’m planning to move her into the spare room so she can have a desk for homework and just more room.

DH is vehemently opposed to this and thinks she should just carry on in the small single (despite having a high sleeper she nearly thumps her head on the ceiling in). Mainly it appears As it means getting rid of a perfectly serviceable wardrobe from the current spare room (we’ve had it 15?years, but so huge there’s no way of moving it). I’m going to pay for the whole thing and do all the work myself. Is this massively unreasonable of me???

Oh talk to me. I've had enough of them, seriously!
I'm alone now, raising two sons and the pressure on me to get it right with them is immense. It's my mission to not hurl two more male dickheads into the world.

Nah. If a father came on here and said he was trying to set up a bedroom for one of his children which he or she needed to better suit her age and needs and which would also benefit his other child, and yet their mother was dead set against it because of a wardrobe and some strange idea that guests mattered more than her own children did, I can tell you right now that I’d respond in exactly the same way.

OP is an advocate for her children’s needs and they take priority over keeping her husband happy IMO. I’d never have let anyone stop me from making things as good as possible for my children in their own home!

Yes this. Why isn't he putting his DD first? Is he just chronically lazy and can't be arsed?

So he is effectively providing space for a wardrobe rather than his DD!?🤔

It makes no sense.

Who are the guests you have to stay? If it is his parents then I can get why he is reticent

Well no, I don’t think that’s sufficient to let him off the hook. His parents have a home, with a bed that suits them and their needs. His daughters matters just as much in her own home as they do.