How to tell sports coach that my son is leaving?

[cheesecakeandtrifle]

My son (aged 5) has been a member of a sports group for the last 18 months or so.
Never any issues until recently when a new boy joined and started causing endless bother for most of the other boys... Not sure what the situation is with the new boys (whether he's possibly neurodivergent or has special needs) but he's a damn nuisance tbh. Constant name-calling to the other boys, pushing them and generally making a show of himself.
I'm aware that at least 2 other parents have complained to the coach about him.
For the last couple of weeks my son has said he wants to leave the group because of this boy.
My son isn't physically scared of the boy (my son excels at karate and isn't shy about defending himself against bullies if necessary), but he just seems to find the boy draining and a damn nuisance.
He's asked me to tell the coach that he wants to leave, but how can I word my email in a diplomatic way? Obviously the coach is aware of this boy being a nuisance (due to 2 previous complaints), but I don't want to come accross nasty, although I do think it's important to leave the coach know the true reason for my son leaving (instead of making excuses like being too busy/tired etc to attend).
Any idea on how to word the email?

Your 5 year old excels at karate and is happy to use it against other 5 year olds?!

If necessary, yes. He would use it against anyone who ever tries to hurt him or bully him.

You do come across as a bit precious OP, sorry, a 5 year old exelling at karate!

Just say "Hi coach, karate kid is leaving the club mostly due to annoying boy. Thanks for the time and effort you've put in and the work you continue to do. Cheesecake"

dear coach,
my son is leaving. His last attendance will be xxx/he will not be returning to the club delete which does not apply.
sincerely cheesecakeand trifle

Hi Coach,

Unfortunately Dilbert won't be returning next term as he's no longer enjoying his time at the club. Thanks for all you've done for him, he's made some great memories.

Karate Mom.

It’s a club for 5 year olds, they will be used to high turnover and won’t think much of it.

Or are you really asking how to put pressure on the coach to make the “damn nuisance x2” kid leave instead?

Yes I'll have you know he does excel at karate... He's a blue belt already and I'm very proud of his achievement. He's well know in our town, has been in local press quite a bit regarding his karate achievements... Been doing it since just before he turned 4. Now almost 6. Not many kids of his age are so advanced in karate...All other local karate clubs know about him too :) pround mum

Why is it so important to tell the coach why you are leaving , is it so he can say please don’t go I will tell the new kid to leave . YABU . No doubt your child is going to come up against many annoying children perhaps you should teach a bit of resilience .

Ps - I'm equally proud of his brother who was a black belt by age 13.

Christ almighty 😂. Another one on the windup. Is there a full moon tonight?

Just say that he's leaving because he doesn't want to come anymore because of said child and he's gutted but if anything changed let you know and he would love to rejoin

Just settling in with my popcorn. Love a good karate show.

Don't tell his karate coach that, sure fire way to get kicked out of karate club!

I think will.use it of bullied is a very concerning sentence for a 5 year old.

Previous posters message is fine.

This is outing op. Get it taken down.

I instantly knew who you were, not many five year olds as talented as yours. And as for the 13 year old? Jackie Chan, watch your back!

I’ll have you know….
The coach won’t care.
Just send a message saying thanks for what coach has done and he will be leaving. End of.
Maybe coach won’t be all that sorry. 😆

I'm all for resilience... My kids are raised to be resilient but the real issue here is the annoying kid appearing to hijack almost every lesson at this sports group. Most of the coach's time is spent dealing with the the disruptive kid and his antics rather than delivering the actual tuition and coaching that other parents have paid good money for.
Parents stay to watch, myself included. I've seen this disruptive kid in action for the last 4 weeks. Every lesson seems to be spent dealing with him. Hardly fair on the other 10 or 12 kids in the group, is it?

Hi

Wonder geet is leaving. Good luck finding another geet as amazing as mine to join your club.

Signed
Wonder geets ma.

You could ask the coach if he teaches any other sessions elsewhere

If you are there watching why do you need to email anything just speak to the coach after the lesson and say that mini cheesecake isn’t enjoying it anymore because of the disruption .

Don't you want to continue to nurture this innate talent?

Find a new coach and tell old coach.

Dear Coach,

Thanks for all you do supporting Karate's Kid's Karate journey.

We have decided to move to a smaller/more focused/Olympic standard training group.

Karate kid's final session will be xxx

Thanks again,

Karate kid's mum

OK. I think you should let the coach know through the media of modern interpretative dance.
I'm sure you can find some melodic folky music with wailing women and beating drums to accompany your sad tale.
Ribbons, leg warmers will only enhance the experience, do go for it.

Karate coach encourages his pupils to defend themselves against any physical attack by bullies.... Whole idea why most of the learners are there! Put it this way, I did karate throughout my childhood into my early adult years and never had any trouble with bullies IYSWIM :) Karate is a fantastic means of self-defence, discipline and character-building. I'm really glad all 4 of my kids enjoy it so much. Long may they continue <3

Ds did karate for several years and some of the key principles are discipline, control, patience and acceptance/support of others who are are different stages of learming. If this child has behaviour issues I would expect they will be working on it. If your ds cannot be patient or supportive while this is happening maybe karate isnt for him.

As he excels in karate he should also know not to use karate outside of class. He can defend himself if physically attacked and unable to walk away but not use it against anyone. Any child using karate outside of our club would have had a stern talking to and/or asked to leave.

Just stop going . Sorted .