How to tell sports coach that my son is leaving?

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My son (aged 5) has been a member of a sports group for the last 18 months or so.
Never any issues until recently when a new boy joined and started causing endless bother for most of the other boys... Not sure what the situation is with the new boys (whether he's possibly neurodivergent or has special needs) but he's a damn nuisance tbh. Constant name-calling to the other boys, pushing them and generally making a show of himself.
I'm aware that at least 2 other parents have complained to the coach about him.
For the last couple of weeks my son has said he wants to leave the group because of this boy.
My son isn't physically scared of the boy (my son excels at karate and isn't shy about defending himself against bullies if necessary), but he just seems to find the boy draining and a damn nuisance.
He's asked me to tell the coach that he wants to leave, but how can I word my email in a diplomatic way? Obviously the coach is aware of this boy being a nuisance (due to 2 previous complaints), but I don't want to come accross nasty, although I do think it's important to leave the coach know the true reason for my son leaving (instead of making excuses like being too busy/tired etc to attend).
Any idea on how to word the email?

You just either just stop going or send a message saying he's leaving. Done. 🤷‍♀️

I'd drop a hint to the coach first so he gets a chance to sort this out ('my son is not enjoying classes so much because of X. How much notice do you need?'). As a coach, I'd want to know and get a chance to sort this. If not sorted, just leave.

I do love me a good Fred.

Why do you even need to tell the coach he's leaving.

Just stop going. Job done.

How hard is it to speak to the coach
and say, “Will has enjoyed the classes so far, thank you, but since Harry joined he hasn’t enjoyed it as he gets less of your time as a result, and also gets bullied by Harry. So it’s not working for him any more. I appreciate that’s hard for you to manage, but he’s enjoyed the club until now so I didn’t want to just stop coming.”

"Dear coach

Thanks for a great time in these classes, but they aren't working for us at the moment any more so our last lesson will be on X date.

Thanks

Infuriating Weirdo Mother."

Have some sympathy as I have a block about kids leaving extra curriculars they have done for years. I go ott send a gushing text and send flowers. Dh thinks I’m mad but in some cases they’ve had these tutors for about 7 years and have built relationships seems harsh just ending it but they guess won’t still need a primary maths tutor at 25 so need to get over myself!

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Sorry, as you were.

If someone is the cause of him wanting to leave , I would tell the coach .

OP, was your youngest named after a well known 2 player board game? 🧐

I am giving you notice that X will finish classes at the end of term and will not be returning in the new term. This is unfortunately due to a personality clash with another child which means he no longer enjoys the classes.

Kind regards

Etc

Because it had absolutely nothing to do with the OPs reason for posting and therfore just comes across as bragging. Also comments she had made about her 5 year old using his karate on bullies are very odd and show a very odd understanding of karate as a sport.

He is 5, just move him to another activity. However I would say he is just 5 and all activities will have a mix of abilities and that is the great thing about them. Not all of us are looking for our kids to excel, we just want them to have fun. Many 5 year olds find sporting activities hard and take time to settle in. Be prepared to be frustrated with the other kids at the next activity you try.

'Different stages of learning' means other people less advanced in karate, not kids with major behavioral problems.
I don't know why this thread is full of wet lettuces but the other boy is a bully himself. Whatever BS reason he may have for it name-calling, pushing other kids is NOT acceptable!

Before the ND brigade piles in I have ADHD, DP is autistic. Both of us were bullied by others in school who on hindsight may have had issues themselves. My mother was firm and made sure the school stamped it out, however DP's were 'soft', and ignored the impact it had on HIS progress. Even 'NT' children can be badly affected.

Also OP you're right, you're not paying good money to be a free nurture group. If the boy has issues his parents can pay for one-on-one/small group coaching but it's not fair on the rest of ypu.

Oh my

This ^^ it's not a big drama for a five year old to leave a club.

Wondering what position your son is ever in without adult supervision to need to use karate to defend himself.

Guessing he's your pfb

This is exactly it isn't it? Doesn't give a shit if it's SN or any other challenges the boy may be faces just very rid of him!! Show me that my son is more important to you FFS

Op will you please stop calling him the annoying kid. Did it ever occur to you that the chances are there is a real trauma or special need this boy is experiencing that is causing this behaviour

How many people have physically assaulted your 5 year old that necessitated him using his karate chops on them?
Sounds like it’s a frequent occurrence… I’d be more worried about that

OP, was your youngest named after a well known 2 player board game? 🧐

'Battleships' is a pretty unusual name even for Mumsnet

Oh my. 😂😂

Good evening coach

as you are aware there has been a number of complaints in regard to x child’s behaviour which has now resulted in my son no longer enjoying attending the club and myself not feeling that my child is getting as much from the club as they were previously. therefore my son will be leaving on x date.

“My son excels at karate”. Lol, oh OP, wtf?!

Just tell the coach, we’re not returning as x is disruptive and DS isn’t enjoying the activity anymore because of this. I wouldn’t sugar coat it or overthink it. Whether the coach cares or not isn’t really your concern, you’ve made your decision. Are you hoping he excludes the other kid to keep your ds in the group?

I would however rethink how you talk about your kids, the further boast about ‘my 13 year old is a black belt’ was even more cringe. It is ridiculous, smug, eye rolling and makes you out to be a total loon.

Perfect message!

And I have no idea why the other posters are being so bloody mean!

Must be the heat ... oh no it's mumnset you're not allowed to proud of your kids!

Now this is a game I can get behind!
Chess
Guess who
Snap
Countdown
Backgammon
Battleships
Any of these the dons name?