Is this just me or is this out of order?

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For my fiancé's birthday present I bought a photo studio experience so he could have professionally taken photos of him and his 3 sons. On the day we were going back to the studio to choose the photos his ex wife asked one of their sons to take photos of the pictures on his phone for her to keep. This has upset me because the photos were my present to my fiancé. Fair enough if she wants some professional photos of her sons but I'd rather she had asked for details of the studio so she could purchase the photos from them. I've spoken to my fiance about this and he thinks his ex wife has done nothing wrong and I'm the one in the wrong for having an issue with it. Am I missing something here?

The photographer will almost certainly own the copyright of the photos. No one is allowed to take copies.

“On the whole, the photographer will own the copyright in their photograph for their life plus 70 years …

Where a photographer works by commission, they will own the copyright in the photograph unless they have assigned or sold it to the commissioner.”

You should have made them available to her out of courtesy. They’re her kids.

Laugh about it and let it go.

If she wants a picture of a picture of a photo shoot she can. A child taking it will ensure it's wonky or cropped etc.

Keep the lovely pics in your house and the boys will always remember the special day with their dad. They will also remember their mum having asked them to take it.

If ex still does mother's day gifts/is amenable perhaps buy some little copies and gift to her? Obviously of just the boys not of ex!

There is a chance the children were pleased about pictures and asked her to come inside your house to see and child taking a snap seemed more appropriate.

I doubt it will be a photo she will display, i consider it more like looking at the original than stealing from photographer. Is it the OP annoyed on behalf of the photographer ie if it was not for ex? Or is shs annoyed specifically about ex having it?

Life's too short to get worked up about this type of stuff

What a big pile of nothing

He won't be allowed to take photos of the photos at the studio, but I don't see the problem with him taking photos of the photos to give to her. They won't be nearly as good!

You're annoyed that she's got a bit of something you paid for. Like if you bought him a box of chocolates and she ate the strawberry cream.
You only care because its her, and her existence riles you a bit. You need to rein these feelings in, as there will be plenty more situations where she puts your nose out of joint over the years, just by virtue of who she is.

It's fine but also ask partner to ask ex if she would like copies and give her price list

I wouldn't be upset by that. Its something most people would do.

And mine.

Honestly, lighten up. What harm!

I'd be pissed off as the photographer but not in your shoes OP. Let it go.

Op is clearly not bothered about the copyright issues as she didn’t mention it AND she would actually be more annoyed at her dp as he was the one who did it.

tbh, what the op is actually bothered about (along with the poster angry at her exsil) is unbelievably petty imo.

Kill with kindness OP.
You did a nice thing.
If the photos all have DP on, I can appreciate it being weird and/or cheeky pending how you feel about the photographer fee.
However, if there is a chance of getting a photo of the dc only (either you have one already or you could ask photographer to do one by erasing) and you could have a reprint done cheaply (either photographer or your own if cropping) then I would be all smiles and get her a proper one.
Either for her birthday, Xmas or mother's day on behalf of her kids.
If you have the actual download, I would send her the nicest of her kids only or get her a mug.
Why?
Because it is a kind and generous thing to do. Because her kids will appreciate the gesture.
Because sharing the joy is a nice thing - it will have cost you, I know, but maybe she cannot afford it and would be really appreciative.
Because your D P will also think you are the bigger, better person and the gift was for him.

I assume your issue is that she shouldn't be able to get professional photos of her children that you have paid for? I would probably be narked but it wouldnt be something that would bother me too much tbh.

As for the photographer - having just been fleeced eleven pounds for one school class photo, their original mark up would be enough to quell the
whataboutery. (A friend of mine is well aware that clients make copies of copies and allows for this in her price setting, just as long as one original is bought at full cost then she is set and the protective watermarking means she usually sells the original. All the rest digitally cost her time but not materials...Even when she used to run lots of prints off at the zoo, the actual price of what she sold offset the prints she threw).

What so divorced parents must cough up on demand to each other holiday pics and so forth?

Ridiculous comment.

I wouldn’t be bothered by this though, OP. And they’ll be good quality pictures by the time she sees them anyway.

Am I? It would be hard to prove as it comes under intellectual property. I doubt any court would keep a serious face if this came before it.

Oh give over.

If DH wants to share them with his ex after he receives them, that's his choice.

It's not up to OP to bnefit the ex.