Things you consider bad manners that others don’t

[Novasmum]

Inspired by an experience earlier today of having to listen to a man whistle for 10 minutes in GP waiting room.

Not only is it annoying but I do think it’s bad manners but I know other people wouldn’t class whistling as bad manners.

what’s yours?

Putting your feet up on the dashboard. I can't find the actual article I shared but there's a few. One girl lost part of her forehead.

www.ladbible.com/community/inspirational-woman-speaks-out-about-dangers-of-putting-your-feet-on-dashboard-20190330

inews.co.uk/essentials/lifestyle/cars/car-news/horrific-image-shows-why-you-should-never-put-your-feet-up-on-a-car-dashboard-390661

thenewswheel.com/3-reasons-you-should-never-put-your-feet-on-the-dashboard/

@Novasmum I would have lost my nut listening to whistling, absolutely hate it beyond belief. Noise of the devil.

I don't mind builder's/tradesman doing it. My ex is a tradesman . He say's it helps him to concentrate.

I meant blow as in blowing balloons up etc not her nose. It's easier for them to learn to blow with they're mouth first.

Well, traditionally you don’t invite guests and expect them to pay for food and drinks.
In earlier days there often used to be basically one alcoholic drink for the toasts and you drank tea with the wedding breakfast, for example.
I would still be shocked if drinks of some sort weren’t provided after a funeral.

I suppose it depends on the timescale. If your friend rings up in tears because she’s been sacked, dumped or bereaved you could say come round and I’ll make you tea but I’m afraid I don’t have any biscuits.
If, on the other hand, you ask someone to tea in a week’s time and aren’t prepared to buy biscuits before the event then that is a bit of a faux pas, I think.

@SheepingStandingUp

Glottlestops - yes please don't let people with speech impediments out, lock them all away from the decent folk eh

It's not an impediment thing. It's an accent thing. The most common example would be 'Estuary English', the speakers of which tend to drop the t in the middle of words, so that 'water meter' would be pronounced 'wall-uh me-uh'. Most Londoners do it, even quite well-spoken ones. I do, when I'm not using my RP voice.

Incidentally, @MyOwnView, the spelling is 'glottal'. Pronounced 'gloh-awl'.

I wouldn't consider whistling outdoors as bad manners. I would consider doing so in a GP's waiting room as rather bad manners.

A simple please usually helps.

People you've only met once giving you a kiss in greeting or saying goodbye. I find it rude that people assume I want that level of closeness

I think if it's family it's fine, like an aunt you never met before.

OMG you're the first person I've ever encountered who agrees with me on this! Also sniffing often more effective (depending on where in your nose the snot is lodged).

Well I'll be nice but you're still only getting a cup of tea. If you're thirsty afterwards, you can have more. You don't need a whole pot to yourself. You'll be tiddling all afternoon.

I gathered they'd wrote it the wrong was round, I was just being grumpy.

Ah I didn't see the tea thing like you did, re biscuits and sandwiches, I thought they expected a pot. I don't have tea pots. I do have biscuits

Most will put on tea and coffee but you aren't a guest at a funeral in the same was as a wedding
I invite you to my wedding because I want you there. You come to my funeral because you want to be there. It isn't a formal invite, it's a notification of it happening..

@SlowingDownAndDown we'll eat the cakes you'd have had the good manners to bring tho. Who needs cakes AND biscuits.

@WalkingOnTheCracks DS has a Midlands accent, it doesn't contain glottal stops except for his inability to speak "properly". So for him it is, but he'd just be perceived as being "rude" for not talking how someone else expects him to

When the (budget airline) plane lands and everybody stands up at the same time, jostling to get their luggage out of the overhead lockers in the tiny space available. Even more of a panic if their suitcase is further down the plane.

FGS They let people off the plane in row order anyway and there will be queues later on for passport control, luggage return etc. etc.

It’s the epitome of 21st century manners.
Me, me, me.

But to whom? Who is in charge of whether the window is opened or closed? Why should I ask permission to open but not close it? Why do you hold sway over the windows state but I don't?

Old fashioned people who think there is a right and wrong way to hold a fork...

Old fashioned 😂😂

Hilarious isn't it.

Yep.

I can only physically use one hand to eat. So you can carry on judging me for being bad mannered all you want. It's not me being the twat.

I’m young and an artist that works in fine art/fashion

Yes, I know the type...

Similar here; I am not totally unable to use my left hand, but my strength and co-ordination in that hand are quite impaired. Fortunately, most people I know accept my limitations in this matter; but if someone was harsh with me for mainly using my right hand, I would find that really hurtful.