Things you consider bad manners that others don’t

[Novasmum]

Inspired by an experience earlier today of having to listen to a man whistle for 10 minutes in GP waiting room.

Not only is it annoying but I do think it’s bad manners but I know other people wouldn’t class whistling as bad manners.

what’s yours?

Okay - probably specific to London buses (the ones in my hometown are laid out a bit differently).

Sitting on the aisle seat, leaving the one by the window empty. I get that you don't really want a stranger sitting next to you ... but this bus is going to be full in two stops' time so it just means that they are going to have to get past you to sit in the window seat. Sit in the window seat if it is free. Unless you have absolutely no social skills.

Standing in the space right next to the back door. Looking surprised when the woman with several small children and a bunch of bags can't magically get past you doesn't help. If you stand there you are in the way - to let people off, get off the bus then get back on. Or, if the bus isn't really full, stand (or sit) somewhere else. You might want some extra space but you won't get it if you block the exit.

Totally ignoring the person on the supermarket check out because you're on the phone, so rude. Would it really hurt you to say yes please or no thank you in the right places?

My wonderful Mum brought me up to NEVER eat or shout in the street, very unseemly apparently!

are pets allowed in shoes off houses? How do they clean their feet?

Men pissing in the street

@Teesht

I consider it rude to shoehorn anti American sentiments into random threads where people are clearly talking in general terms.

Singling out specific nationalities for their usage (or accents, etc) goes beyond rude.

Wearing your shoes inside my house, unless you're here to do a job. I don't want dog poo/spit/mud/chewing gum on my floors, thankyou.

Dog walkers taking up the whole road, dog on one side, lead crossing the road and dog on the other.

Dog walkers letting their dogs shi* on grass verges without picking it up because it’s not on a path.

And parents letting their kids using iPads with the volume up in public.

Inflicting your choice of music on others in a public/shared space. I would have thought this was generally accepted as bad manners but have encountered it so many times in the recent warm weather. I live in a relatively rural tourist area and assume that visitors come for the views/walks/peace and quiet- so it baffles me why so many pay for that experience then ruin it for everyone with shite music played from tinny speakers whenever they sit down for 5 minutes

When I was about 20 there was a chap in our group who would light his f*rts. It seemed mildly amusing at the time, although the magistrate said it was inappropriate in a court and he was fined for contempt of court.

That took the wind out of him...!

Kids screaming, just because! Drunken men singing as it sounds really aggressive. People speaking on their mobile phones on public transport, I don't want to know how they had crappy/fantastic sex last night with 2 men and a cucumber while wearing a wet suit...

People/children who don’t send thank you cards.
after a party that dd went to last year the mum sent a WhatsApp to all the parents which said ‘thank you for coming to x’s party. It’s the end of term, and we are all busy so dd won’t be sending thank you cards for her gifts’.

So many, but I’ll kick off with

not putting your knife and fork together on the plate once you’ve finished eating
taking long, loud phone calls on public transport
not checking behind you when you’re going through a door in a public place
selfies - esp those posed selfies that involve a lot of pouting and posing
people who talk VERY LOUDLY
people who don’t say excuse me when they want to get your attention
people who don’t apologise when they knock into you

people generally really

You are my soulmate.

I agree. Did you tell him to shut up? If not, why not?

Talking loudly on public transport

Talking loudly and/or taking or making phone calls in the Quiet coach on trains

Standing at the top of a flight of stairs or an escalator

standing in the archway of the entrance onto a Tube/railway platform

I suppose most of these things aren’t about etiquette-style manners; they’re about people’s lack of awareness of and consideration for others with whom they share public space.

Putting on my flak vest before I type this...chewing gum.

A parent stopping an adult conversation to speak to their child who's interupting.

Children talking over when adults are talkin**g

If you sent your car to a mechanic and they didn't do the job right would you accept it because you're not a toddler and a guest in their garage? Don't be ridiculous.

If you had said people that constantly send food back for the most trivial of things then I would have agreed. I've have sent food back twice in my adult life because it was costly food that was not what I ordered (one being stone cold).

Round here dangly sleeves would be called gravy- catchers 😀

Holding your phone horizontally at mouth level in front of your face whilst having a loud conversation on speaker phone.

Turn the speaker off, hold the earpiece to your ear, the mouthpiece to your mouth and use it properly. It literally how it was fucking designed to be fucking used.

Sorry it makes me irrationally angry.

Eating mash potato with your fingers,
Ignoring someone when they say something to you,
ignoring someone when they ask you a question,
ignoring said question and raising something else,
dipping, taking a bite then refilling your Dorito/carrot/celery into a shared dip pot,

Yep. See also:

Eating smelly or crunchy food on public transport.