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I just want some peace in the garden!

119 replies

jmh740 · 10/07/2022 17:51

It's a glorious day and I just want to sit in my garden and relax, we have a corner plot and there's about 5 houses that back onto ours, one house has the radio on really loud and next door recently got a trampoline they have 6 kids and there is always someone on it and it squeaks like mad,
I know I might be a bit unreasonable and everyone has a right to enjoy their gardens but I just wish people would enjoy them a bit more quietly

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SpinningTheSeedsOfLove · 10/07/2022 18:49

We endured over an hour and a half of unbelievably loud drum and bass from a garden a street away just as the Wimbledon men's final started. I could hear it pounding even with all our windows shut.

It then stopped very suddenly mid-drum, which is the point at which I'm guessing someone who had located the exact address of the noise went full Kyrgios on them.

VioletCharlotte · 10/07/2022 18:50

Barton10 · 10/07/2022 18:43

My neighbour has been using what sounds like an industrial sander yesterday and today. He has been doing this on weekends and evenings for a year and it is unbearable. He has headphones on so he is aware of the noise being made but clearly couldn't care less about the impact on everyone else. We had to sit on with the windows and doors shut and could still hear him.

Do you live in my road? Exactly the same here, it's horrendous. This morning I just wanted to sit out and enjoy my coffee in the garden. No chance with that going on.

I've been on Rightmove all day searching for properties in the middle of nowhere!

MintJulia · 10/07/2022 18:50

Buy a house with a bigger garden or fewer neighbours

Greensleeves · 10/07/2022 18:50

It's annoying, but it's part of living in a built-up area and having neighbours. Trampolines, dogs, babies, kids shrieking in paddling pools, music from the odd party/BBQ, smoke from occasional firepits and BBQs...the level of moaning about these on MN fascinates me. It's just the sounds and smells of other people living their lives.

My next door neighbours are actually unusually noisy Grin they have two very loud and feisty children who very often have friends round, two very yappy little dogs, she's a fairly vocal mum (not shouty in a horrible way, but she makes a fair bit of noise), and they have huge parties almost every weekend. Oh, and he's a welder who works from home, in a purpose-built workshop in the garden. It's only ever the welding that gets up my nose, really - the rest is just inevitable people noise, albeit quite a lot of it - but OMG do some of our other neighbours get wound up about it. I can't be arsed being miserable and resentful all the time. If I need to sleep and their latest party is spilling out into the street I use earplugs. I like hearing kids play and the sounds of families existing.

Nw22 · 10/07/2022 18:51

We have children next door and behind us, the noise can be awful. And it’s never laughing. They scream like they are in pain. We are planning a move somewhere with less families as it seems like people with children have no consideration for anyone else.

Mwnci123 · 10/07/2022 18:52

YAB a bit U about the kids but not about the radio. I can turn my radio down/off (and do) out of consideration for my neighbours, but I am failing hard at getting my kids to stop being noisily happy in the sun. It's what they do, and reminders to stop squawking are soon forgotten in their excitement. It's not an ideal solution but maybe the noise cancelling headphones are the only realistic answer. Depending on your relationship with your neighbours I would consider mentioning the squeaky trampoline in case it could be oiled or something.

cigiwi · 10/07/2022 18:53

I can stand children noise, conversation, laughter ... all the aspects of humanity out enjoying the sunshine in their gardens. That's all part of living amongst neighbours. Splashing in the paddling pool, screaming on the trampoline; OK, fine, we can put up with that. That's people; that's what people do. Fine by me.

What I hate, seriously hate, is people who inflict their own choice of music on their neighbours by playing radios loudly enough to be heard in next door's garden (or, in some cases, several gardens along).

I really enjoy music. I spend lots of time listening to music. Yesterday I was at a wonderful concert ... I listen to recorded music for hours every day. But I never impose my choice of music on my neighbours. Why? - Because they may not share my taste, and anyway may not wish to listen just now.

It is the height of selfishness and unthinking boorishness to impose your taste in music (or anything else, for that matter) on neighbours (or others - the same goes for those awful excuses for humans who play their music on trains etc.)

If you want to listen to music outdoors, use headphones. (Not expensive, easy enough.) Of course people who play their radios in their garden are not often interested in the music ... they just want a kind of noisy ambiance; perhaps because they lack ordinary conversational skills, or can't stand their own company? I dunno.

It's not up to me to block your music that I don't like with earplugs or headphones, either, as some pp have suggested. Ever thought I might want to listen to the birdsong you're blocking out with your inane choice of banal pop music? Don't I have the right to do that in my own garden?

No. Sorry about the rant. But, please, think of other people before you forcibly inflict your choice of music on them. Please!

itsgettingweird · 10/07/2022 18:53

Loud music is unreasonable.

You'll need to get over kids in a trampoline.

I live opposite a park. There's times I really wish the kids didn't go out there at 8pm when it cools down - but I realise that my issue and not there's Grin

RebOrHon · 10/07/2022 18:55

No problem with the neighbours enjoying their gardens but screaming silently at the continuous bloody planes overhead. Seems Manchester airport has changed its routes and forgotten to consult anyone. Waking up every morning to 80 decibels inside the house is wearing me out.

UrsulaPandress · 10/07/2022 18:57

Our neighbours got a dog a few months ago and it yaps all the bloody time. Every time we go to our cars or walk down the drive, it yaps. It yaps at 6.30am. It was tapping when I went to bed last night at 23.45.

I’m a cantankerous old bag and shout “Shut the fuck up” out of the window. I’m waiting for them to challenge me. <cracks knuckles>.

And this is an affluent suburb and all houses are detached.

Maisa45 · 10/07/2022 18:57

Totally agree. Music doesn't bother me so much but I can't STAND screeching children. My old neighbour's son used to sit on his swing screaming for no fucking reason and his parents just ignored it. I have a four year old DD and I don't let her screech like that. It's unnecessary and no one wants to hear it. And don't even get me started on trampolines and basketball hoops. God I wish I could afford a house with no neighbours.

DayreeMilk · 10/07/2022 18:58

I live back to back with lots lots of neighbours. Kids, dogs, more kids, more dogs. Gates slamming, bins banging. . I'm quite quiet. Until last night. Sunny day, back garden, a Prosecco and next thing I know I'm out on the decking singing Life is a Cabaret. I'm not even sorry.

Travis1 · 10/07/2022 19:01

Meh I have to smell next doors weed they can listen to my music 🤷🏻‍♀️

SpinningTheSeedsOfLove · 10/07/2022 19:01

I can cope with children, animals, adults having rucks, traffic, BBQs and party laughter, DIY, whooping at sports matches, and people playing ball games.

Festival-level amplified music in a terraced back garden on a Sunday afternoon? Fuck off.

MintyGreenDream · 10/07/2022 19:02

Neighbours have just told us theyre getting a lazy spa.At first i thought ffs but im going to try and be tolerant if it gets noisy.

Imaginary · 10/07/2022 19:04

YANBU
There's a special place in hell for people who blast their shitty music/radio in the garden.
They should use the damn headphones!

I don't really mind kids playing or splashing in the pool.

Dogscanteatonions · 10/07/2022 19:04

Yanbu! Absolutely fed up of next doors dogs incessant barking, her kids awful grime music and her screeching voice. Oh and why must everyone decide to do all the loud gardening when it's glorious?

Cornishclio · 10/07/2022 19:05

I hear you OP and I say that as someone who has their sometimes noisy GC playing in ours. However we try and get them to be considerate so no shouting or screaming. Definitely no music blasting out.

Thethreecs · 10/07/2022 19:07

We haven't been able to use our back garden for YEARS.. We have renters both sides and they're fucking morons.

One lot moved out a few years ago and took their home made creche and 7 night a week bbqs with big fuck off hot tub with them, we were so delighted but a poxy prostitute moved in, I'm not sure which is worse, half naked women sunbathing during the day with men calling up until 4am, making their next appointment on the doorstep late at night right under bedroom window.

The other side is just a scum bag!! Screeching kids all day long, fucking boy zone and aqua on loop with a bit of james blunt thrown in. Her kids whinge for everything, speak with American accents and jump on the trampoline blowing a tin whistle. I thought this year might be a bit better as her kids are getting bigger but they now blast their music that sounds like someone being strangled and she moved her boyfriend in last month and his 2 kids, the little boy just stands there screaming, I mean blood curdling screaming and only stops to cry. It was so bad today that I looked out the window upstairs and she's flat out sunbathing in a thong with the boyfriends kid standing there screaming, it was like a horror movie, I let a roar out, not my finest moment but I couldn't take anymore. I can totally understand how neighbours snap and end up doing something they regret.

I don't mind people enjoying their garden, but there's no fucking need for that high pitched banshee murdering non stop screaming. There's no need to have your music so high that it can be heard at the end of the street or I need to put my tv volume up to 90 to be able to hear it. I'm not wearing headphones to sit in my own garden, not practical with a disabled child. I'm not moving as that's not possible. Some people are just cunts with absolutely no respect, when younger you were told to keep the noise down, think of the neighbours or we were brought out or played out, kids seem to live in their gardens 24/7 bored out of their heads.

fishonabicycle · 10/07/2022 19:08

We used to live near a very popular primary school - there was incessant shrieking and a lot of very middle class competitive parenting (mostly dads). After our son went to university we moved out into the countryside - it's fab - we mostly hear sheep!

Blinky21 · 10/07/2022 19:10

Totally agree, when I was a kid, we played in the garden but my mum would tell us off if we squeeled or screeched, out of consideration for the neighbours

orangetriangle · 10/07/2022 19:10

same here 5 kids next door in a small bungalow but they have built up plus 2 barking dogs. They never shut a door they slam it and with 7 of them you can imagine how often that is . First sign of sun music full volume pool a d hot tub in fall swing plus a triple swing that creaks louder and louder And dont get me started on the hard footballs they continually bounce that come flying over and hit our conservatory roof up and down the stairs thomp thomp thomp all day long final straw was they went out for the day and left the radio on
. Boys over the back continually kicking a ball morning noon and night as well. I'm worn down with it and I like kids but today with the heat and all ive had enough

EltonsSpareGlasses · 10/07/2022 19:11

There is a difference between enjoying your garden and blasting music so loudly it can be heard two streets away.

orangetriangle · 10/07/2022 19:11

oh and they dont talk to each other they shout even when standing next to each other and the boys whose rooms are upstairs shout out their bedroom window down to the garden below

TwoMonthsOff · 10/07/2022 19:12

@jmh740
i hear you !
people saying move to a place with no neighbours - that would be IRO 1.5 million where I live 😢