Not to want toddler naked in garden ?

[lucie333]

My sons grandmother thinks I'm being unfair to my 2 year old for "forcing " Him to wear swimming costume in the pool?

My reasons behind this are I was Molested by my neighbour from 5-9 years old. I want to protect my son, he does not need to be naked in my opinion but am I being too over protective?

My other issue is I don't want him in the garden when his papa is cutting the grass because he tries to touch it when it's running and I'd much rather him stay in house and then go out when it's all done but his grandmother ignored me and took him out anyways after I said no and I caught her letting him pull on the string that starts the lawnmower! Please tell me your options am I being too over protective?

I think you are being too paranoid about the nudity. It's nothing to get worked up over. Ans it's nice for toddlers to feel a bit freer

Feel like I’m in the minority but I do agree with you on the nudity due to previous abuse in my family

We've had two horrific lawnmower injuries at work. One resulted in amputation and the other will not have a fully functioning foot.

You need to weigh up the risks v benefit, the reality is little kids love being naked, running round the garden jumping in and out of water, if you think there is a risk from neighbours or family members then quite frankly you likely shouldn’t be there but keeping them covered is a good idea if you do need to.

as for suntan lotion you just do it like any other part of the body, a toddler has no sexual feelings and you put nappy cream on their bums.

My son wears a sunsuit when he's in the pool. Not because I'm especially worried about people seeing him but more for added protection from the sun.
I would have had a massive go at MIL for letting your son go outside when the lawnmower was being used, as for letting him pull the wire WTF?
Tell her she listens when it comes to your son or she doesn't see him. Her choice.

So do you believe women should cover up to stop being looked at, and if they're looked at then it's their fault for wearing revealing clothes?

No, I don't believe it's their fault, there are some sick people out there. All I'm saying is voyeurism can happen and it only happens if there's something to look at, film or record. The victims can be totally oblivious but it doesn't stop them being a victim and I'd hate to think of images of a child being shared regardless of whether anyone ever finds out.

I meant film or photograph 🤦🏻‍♀️

Clothes.
No it won't protect him but obv there's also the thoughts of your neighbour enjoying watching him be naked so I get why your sensitive on this. Is he stripping himself? Mine will pull down trousers and nappy to get in the paddling pool but don't take off their tops so I let them. I wouldn't strip them, least of all because suntan lotioning a whole toddler is a nightmare!

Lawnmower: what was your DH doing? Letting him pull the thing whilst Papa is doing it but making sure he's held, it's not going anywhere is fine. Sneaking over and doing it and trying to push it etc when DH is turned away not Ok

Sorry it just is, same as boys with no shirts on

YANBU OP It's bad manners to run around naked, even in your own home.
By making your children wear swimming trunks, you're teaching them basic decency and respect for themselves.

I have a funny thing about young children running around naked too, and I honestly don't know why! I think maybe like a PP said, I wouldn't go out naked, so I at least have the pants area covered.l, otherwise to me they seem really vulnerable, but I know not everyone feels like this and it's parental choice, so she should have respected that no matter what her views are.

She is an utter moron for letting a young child play with a lawnmower.

so I at least have the pants area covered
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Of my daughter 😂 I'm usually wearing a lot more than that!!
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It's normal to wear a swimming costume in the pool. Just because hes a toddler hes allowed to be naked? Odd! I wouldn't want him naked either

Chavvy? In your own garden? Heard it all now 🤣

The fun is really not reduced by wearing some swimming trunks. Parents can do as they choose but there is no reduction in fun either way.

My kids are always naked in the garden, but I don’t think YABU if you’re not comfortable with it. It is personal preference and your reasoning is completely understandable. Your MIL needs to mind her own business

Nudity, I don’t have an issue but I understand your concern.

Lawnmower, from what you’ve said the mower wasn’t on, I would have thought he was just showing him it and he’s not big enough to pull the chord to start it. Your PIL managed to raise your DP/DH without losing any digits I assume. Again I understand your concern but regarding both things I think you’re being overly sensitive.

I think nakedness is a personal choice and your view should be respected. My garden is very private so I’m happy for the kids to be naked but wouldn’t feel so sure if it was less private. Likewise sounds like you’re being sensible re the lawn mower. What you say as his parent should go.

Nudity - we played out nude to 8 or so, I had no issues with mine doing this. But totally your decision and do not feel pressured to go against your feelings.
Lawn mower - safety first so keep him inside til he understands properly the danger.

Jeez, dh won’t even cut the grass if ds is in the garden and ds is 10! I mean, you just need the space and peace to be able to get on with the tedious task, it’s not a familg activity!
i preferred some kind of clothing on mine when little just because of the sun, although if and when they stripped off they just stayed that way, some things aren’t worth the battle for me.
i can understand your reasoning for wanting to cover him up but clothing doesn’t stop an abuser as you will know.

I'd worry about sun damage. And absolutely no where near the lawnmower

I wouldn't allow them to be naked in the garden... especially if you live in a built up area and are overlooked by other properties. Yanbu

YANBU. His grandmother needs to rein it in a bit.

As someone who was also assaulted a child im with you

Nudity is chavvy and lower class. Only chav men walk around shirtless. Only chav children walk around naked.

YANBU and she should respect your wishes. And she’s an utter idiot letting him start the mower. FFS, it’s a machine with rotating blades that can cut body parts off, not a Fisher-Price toy.