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To ask for this picture to be removed?

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trezzi · 09/07/2022 08:56

My daughter is 7, she went to a school friends birthday party last weekend and I've seen some pictures that the mother of the child has shared on social media from the party.

There is a picture of my daughter and her son along with 2 other children. Her son is stood between my daughter and another child putting both his middle fingers up at the camera. My daughter is smiling next to him.

I don't feel comfortable with this photo being on social media. Im not comfortable with this picture being taken in the first place, never mind putting on social media! I'm not one for swearing or using any type of similar gestures - absolutely not in front of my daughter anyway.

I just want to check that I'm not being petty here and over reacting as I do have a tendency to do so from time to time.

Though I do hope you all tell me I'm not as I'm raging inside! But equally, I'll take it if I'm over reacting!

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Marvellousmadness · 09/07/2022 08:58

Put a request on fb to get it removed. There is an option where you can do that.

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trezzi · 09/07/2022 08:59

Marvellousmadness · 09/07/2022 08:58

Put a request on fb to get it removed. There is an option where you can do that.

Didn't think of that! Thank you!

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chilledbubble · 09/07/2022 09:03

trezzi · 09/07/2022 08:59

Didn't think of that! Thank you!

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I mean she'll likely know that it's you. Could you not just ask her to take your child's pictures down as you don't want her on social media?

BitOutOfPractice · 09/07/2022 09:05

He’s sticking two fingers up like the rude gesture or like this? ✌️

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trezzi · 09/07/2022 09:05

BitOutOfPractice · 09/07/2022 09:05

He’s sticking two fingers up like the rude gesture or like this? ✌️

He's sticking his middle finger up. Doing it with both hands

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trezzi · 09/07/2022 09:06

@chilledbubble I don't mind if she knows it's me. I just want to know I'm not over reacting before I ask it to be removed. Wether I ask her directly or on request or on Facebook.

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DuckBilledPlattyJoobs · 09/07/2022 09:08

raging blimey 🙄

chilledbubble · 09/07/2022 09:08

trezzi · 09/07/2022 09:06

@chilledbubble I don't mind if she knows it's me. I just want to know I'm not over reacting before I ask it to be removed. Wether I ask her directly or on request or on Facebook.

Ah ok, go ahead. I don't think it's appropriate, more for his sake tbh. Poor kid.

Ducksinthebath · 09/07/2022 09:08

Not overreacting to want it taken down, totally overreacting to be “raging”.

Dartmoorcheffy · 09/07/2022 09:09

I would say you are overreacting.

MiniMoosey · 09/07/2022 09:09

Yes you’re over reacting

Electriq · 09/07/2022 09:09

I think your overreacting

Blinkingheckythump · 09/07/2022 09:10

Yes you are over reacting. Do you think that somehow your daughter will start doing it because of a photo she's in? A photo she can't even see?

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trezzi · 09/07/2022 09:10

Ducksinthebath · 09/07/2022 09:08

Not overreacting to want it taken down, totally overreacting to be “raging”.

I just find it inappropriate. If she wants to post pictures of her son doing these things then that's fine but to actually post something like that with other children in is not ok.

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trezzi · 09/07/2022 09:10

Blinkingheckythump · 09/07/2022 09:10

Yes you are over reacting. Do you think that somehow your daughter will start doing it because of a photo she's in? A photo she can't even see?

I just find it inappropriate to post a picture of someone else's child in this context.

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Electriq · 09/07/2022 09:11

Your daughter is not doing it though, and probably didn't even see him do it either because she was looking at he camera.

LampLighter414 · 09/07/2022 09:11

If that’s the kind of behaviour this boy exhibits and his parents proudly display on social media I’d be making sure my daughter keeps away from him at school and wouldn’t be attending future parties

chilledbubble · 09/07/2022 09:16

I mean it's her son who looks like a brat so I wouldn't worry about it too much from your daughters point of view

11Hawkins · 09/07/2022 09:19

I wouldn't worry about it. Her son looks like a brat not yours.
I know how you feel my Youngest dc is friends with kids their age (6) and they swear all the time at their parents and they just laugh it off "kids will be kids."
My 6 year old still thinks "fricken" is a swear word. Blush It's just vile!

MolkosTeenageAngst · 09/07/2022 09:32

If all your DD is doing in the photo is smiling what difference does it make what anyone else is doing in the photo? I don’t see how it’s inappropriate for a parent to share a photo of a group of children when their child is the only one who is being badly represented in the photo. If you don’t like photos of your DC on social media that’s absolutely fair enough and ask for it to be removed, but to be ‘raging’ does sound like an over reaction. It doesn’t sound like a big deal.

Chikapu · 09/07/2022 09:36

Are you genuinely raging inside? That's extreme over a photo on FB.

FriendlyPineapple · 09/07/2022 09:39

I don't get it - you're raging because your child stood next to another child doing the middle finger?! What's that got to do with your daughter?

Floraanddougal · 09/07/2022 09:40

To be honest I’d be uncomfortable with that too, a seven year old doing that it’s not funny and I can’t imagine why she thinks it is something to put on social media. Classy woman.

Luxa · 09/07/2022 09:44

I think you're right OP. It isn't good manners to post photos of other people's children online, even if there isn't a rude gesture to be seen.

WiseRobin · 09/07/2022 09:46

I wouldn’t like it but would probably just let it go.