Please help if I am being unreasonable here. I have a faithful and loving man that I was planning my future with. He was single for a long time before me, 45 no kids and never married and so naturally there will be a social life there and I expected that and welcomed it tbh. He is in real estate and started his retirement by buying a couple homes with friends. As time went on, I have noticed that he seems to have random women friends with whom I feel that he does not set appropriate boundaries with since we have been together. One, lives in a bungalow right in front of his house and seems to have an interest in him. She's always hanging around and I didn't really like our introduction, as she told him where the cleaner was under his sink kind of asserting their closeness. Now she has offered to sell his race car for him which has required constant communication and the other day, she came over, no knock, and walked right in the front door- I was naked. No apology. She did leave though. He has entertained buying a house with her (for her to live in and he'd just be part owner) because her Dad thinks she'd 'need looking after' and my BF thinks he could make a lot of money off it. He almost bought a boat with her too bc it'd be cheaper he said and we'd always have access to the water. Another woman- who he had a one night stand with, is part of his drinking friends group. The night I met her, she was really sexually explicit about her sex life, grossly, she called me 'adorable' and she tried giving us Viagra explaining, it would change our whole sex life!! I also found out they keep their one night stand a secret from her BF, who is always there too. I told him she made me uncomfortable, the secret did too and the fact that they've been intimate kinda made me uneasy and he didn't do anything about it. He also hangs out with that group out of town where he has another house so I am often not there when he is. Another time, at that same house, he told me one of his friends, another woman, was wasted and he offered for her to sleep at his house. I do trust him, but when I voiced that him having women stay the night drunk while I wasn't there made me uncomfortable, he told me I was nuts and insecure. Do then I got really upset he wasn't taking my discomfort into account. They've been platonic friends for 10 years. We had a bad fight yesterday and I've explained that I saw a future with him and I don't believe respectful husbands put themselves in these situations that could potentially compromise our relationship, or even bring up any doubt ever, even if it's just making me feel uncomfortable. I think he needs to set appropriate boundaries with his female friends and maybe say bye to the women he has slept with. The woman he slept with, made me very uneasy mainly because she treated me like little girl and acted inappropriate. I feel like he is embarrassing me and I stated that making decisions that tie him closely to other women, like investments, make me view our relationship in a weaker light and that is not how I envision my possible husband behaving. That it is a matter of respect, not be being controlling. I feel.like someone that loves me would never want to make me feel uncomfortable about or with or in front of other women. He has dug in his heels saying I'm being unreasonable, insecure and controlling. Please tell me your thoughts here