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am annoyed with hubby as he has manflu and has decamped to his mothers????

91 replies

rosturra · 16/01/2008 22:13

My husband got a cold on Sunday(you would think it was the plague) and as his mother lives 5 mins away he felt it would be okay to go to hers and he has been there since tucked up in bed with all his meals served to him, cups of tea etc....full nights sleep... While I am at home with our son who has a cold,is not in playschool as a result, is cranky and clingy and Im trying to run the whole show here. He says I am being unreasonable as he gets no sympathy from me and at least his mother will look after him....and boy does she, he is waited on hand and foot.. He is 31 years old by the way not twelve....

OP posts:
DaddyJ · 17/01/2008 17:33

Some wild speculation on my part -
I do apologise!

Probably feeling a bit jealous, has clouded my judgement

sugarmatches · 17/01/2008 17:35

Spend his money!!

loopylou6 · 17/01/2008 17:47

i can honestly say if this was my dh he wouldnt be coming back home, i really cannot believe that u are allowing this ridiculous behaviour, get a grip of him and tell him to get home now or he will find his clothes outside and the locks changed

flyingmum · 17/01/2008 18:08

You need to phone. Do lots of coughing, spluttering etc. Build it up slowly. When DH finally returns back from the arms of mummy you need to do woman flu. Big serious woman flu. If other things can be faked surely flu is a mere trifle . Produce an Oscar winning performance which means that you now need to go to stay with your family (or Champneys) to get better. He can't possibly argue - he's just done it.

For a finishing touch you could phone today and say you've had to go to the doctor then tomorrow say the doctor told you that you are SERIOUSLY run down and suffering from exhaustion and need TOTAL rest!!! If MIL is 1950s woman then a Drs word will be GOD.

Of course this is all more trouble than its worth but it's fun imagining what you would do if you only had the balls (which unfortunatly your DH seems to be in posession of) and the lack of responsibility (also which your husband has). He owes you big time - store it up in the credit bank of to be brought out with a glossy brochure to a health farm.

clam · 17/01/2008 18:48

My friend accused her DH of man-flu and refused to be the slightest bit sympathetic ....... the next day he was admitted to hospital with pneumonia. How bad did she feel?

NappiesGalore · 17/01/2008 18:50

yanbu. hes a shit.

lucy5 · 17/01/2008 18:52

Sorry but my initial reaction was to snigger. Poor you, what a git!

becaroo · 17/01/2008 19:49

oh

my

god

What an arsehole.

happycherrycake · 17/01/2008 20:25

This is quite unbelievable, but then again I can imagine many MILs doing the same to their precious babies, as only they can tend to the properly...
But! It doesn't say much for the kind of bloke who would just lie down and accept all that pampering...

Please tell me that one day us mothers with sons won't be doing such things??!!!

happycherrycake · 17/01/2008 20:25

This is quite unbelievable, but then again I can imagine many MILs doing the same to their precious babies, as only they can tend to the properly...
But! It doesn't say much for the kind of bloke who would just lie down and accept all that pampering...

Please tell me that one day us mothers with sons won't be doing such things??!!!

happycherrycake · 17/01/2008 20:28

Why did that happen?!

Troutpout · 17/01/2008 20:38

Holy christ..you must be kidding surely

Change the farking locks

NappiesGalore · 17/01/2008 21:56

my dp, who says i quote 'now im selfish so i understand selfish' says you should tell him, and his mother, to fuck right off!

actually im paraphrasing the last bit, but truly, a mans pov on this is just the same as last few posters (havnt read rest).

dilbertina · 17/01/2008 22:35

have had sudden unexplained feeling of suspicion that whilst I'm at home alone with teething cold-ridden ds and adenoids out grommets in 2 days ago dd, is dh really doing complicated un-get-outable work stuff that requires him to stay away tonight or is he just getting a good nights sleep?! hmmmm

expatinscotland · 17/01/2008 22:36

'I feel like hotfooting it back to Ireland!!!!'

I wouldn't have just felt it, I'd have driven to the next ferry, bags in the boot and child in the car.

Sorry, but 'we had to put him to bed'.

He's got a cold.

My libido would be in the toilet if a man behaved like that. Eeewww, NOT attractive.

kittywise · 18/01/2008 07:21

Well, perhaps he is really ill and you are very unsympathetic ?

Have you noticed that there are more really ill men than women?

Has this behaviour suprised you or did you always have an inkling that he was a mummy's boy?

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