To never want to speak to ex again, especially after him saying this?

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At the end of an almost five-year relationship he told me he'd never been in love with me and he'd always known I was more into him than he was into me. He was also critical of my home, cooking, interests, etc, he used to make me feel a bit inferior to him sometimes. I've told my friend I never want anything to do with him again, but she thinks I'll come around eventually. Is it stubborn to not want anything to do with him?

Unless you have children together I don't see why you'd ever want or need to speak to him again.

No, no children. I've avoided a social circle since breakup but would rather miss out on that than have anything to do with him.

He sounds like a raging Thundercunt to be honest. Don't give him a second's thought.

Sounds like a nasty tosser

What a revolting man.

Wtf should you be expected to 'come round'?

I don't understand the question. You broke up, you don't have any children so no need to have anything to do with him. That's kinda how the whole breaking up thing works is it not?

Nothing wrong with being 'stubborn' in resisting pressure to have anything to do with him again. You have every right to be assertive in this situation, and not let this friend undermine you.

I've told my friend I never want anything to do with him again, but she thinks I'll come around eventually why is your friend encouraging you?! She should be supporting you.

I’d be glad I had a lucky escape. He’s not fit to lick the shit off the bottom of your shoe.

Do you have form for breaking up with this vile specimen and going back to him? Because otherwise I can't understand why your friend would say that?

You have no children together, so I don't see why you would talk still anyway.

So he wasn't in love with you? My answer to that would have been "Who, out of the two of us is the biggest loser, the one who spent 5 years with someone they never loved, or the one who didn't?!"

Surely to God he's not expecting you to be pals after he threw that shit at you?

I've told my friend I never want anything to do with him again, but she thinks I'll come around eventually.

What? Why?

I ended all my relationships with my exes on good terms, and I still don’t have anything to do with them because they belong in the past, and aren’t part of my life now.

I’m really confused by your friend’s comment - why would you ‘come around’?

Tell your friend you think she likes you more than you like her, you never really thought of her as a friend anyway and actually her home is shit, her cooking is horrible and all her hobbies are a waste of time and you consider yourself a lot better than her. And then see if she wants to go to the pub with you tomorrow.

I dont know why she is pushing this, not many people would be able to just move past that level of nastiness

is she a "forgiving everything" type?

Did you dump him and this is a defence mechanism?

@IncompleteSenten Surely to God he's not expecting you to be pals after he threw that shit at you?

Well, this breakup happened a few months ago now, but he did say I could contact him any time. I said I'd never be contacting him again, that I felt used and discarded.

I think my friend feels I'm missing out on this social group we were in and letting him 'win'. I don't care about winning... I'm happy to lose if it means not seeing him

He’s your ex. If there’s no kids involved why would you ever speak to him again?

You must not be over him to feel this way
if you were you would realise what a tragic individual he is who makes himself feel better by behaving in this despicable manner and you wouldn’t be over analysing his pathetic hurtful antics

focus on reframing him not as the one who made you feel like this and hurt you but the massive cockwomble he is that you had a lucky escape from

and NEVER have anything more to do with him

Well, if you're fine with not attending, I don't know what she's on about

if you feel like going in future, then you will and you can just keep out of his way.

there's often people we want to avoid in groups, not just our exes!

@Whiskeypowers You must not be over him to feel this way

I am over him now, although it took time. It's just how cold and heartless he was at the end that still gets me sometimes.

Do the rest of the social group know what he said to you or how it ended? Are they his friends or joint?

@AFineBalance Do the rest of the social group know what he said to you or how it ended? Are they his friends or joint?

No, I didn't really want to go into it with them. All kind of mutual friends we knew as part of a hobby. I occasionally see one or two I was friendly with separately.