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Tax childless adults

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Acidburn · 04/07/2022 13:41

Hi all

Just saw the below article on LBC news:

www.lbc.co.uk/news/childless-tax-birthrate-uk-cost-of-living-paul-morland/

AIBU to think that this insane?

OP posts:
Threepeonies · 04/07/2022 16:35

OperaStation · 04/07/2022 16:26

I don’t know where you got that impression from. I don’t regret it for a second. But I would be lying if I didn’t say I would be financially much, much better off without them. I would be working full time in a better paying job and I wouldn’t have spent £50k on nursery fees over 3 years.

Do you get how absolutely heartless and unempathetic your comment was to someone who clearly absolutely wanted children and couldn't have them.

Kinsters · 04/07/2022 16:36

hatchyu · 04/07/2022 16:17

The obvious answer is immigration, but of course it’s not necessarily an ‘easy solution’ that is without its own issues.

It's not exactly popular is it?!

I don't understand why immigration isn't more widely accepted as the obvious answer to an aging population. I live in Malaysia and they have a specific visa for domestic workers from specified lower income countries, you can sponsor a domestic worker if you've got young kids or are elderly.

Phrenologistsfinger · 04/07/2022 16:37

Threepeonies · 04/07/2022 14:56

I've already paid over 20k for IVF thanks, unless I get a refund I think I did my bit to try to get pregnant

One of the reasons for the abortion rate shooting up, specifically in the 30+ women who already have children demographic was due to austerity and limiting child benefits to 2 children. The government have specifically driven down the birth rate, not childless/child free people

I already pay taxes for childcare subsidies., maternity fees etc etc. In fact I am likely already taxed more than parents because I will never take time out, work part time etc because of children

I actually have no issue with tax going up to subsidise childcare, I think its ridiculous that parents are placed in a situation where you need two incomes to survive but fill time child care costs as much if not more than one of those incomes in many places, I just don't see why my deformed uterus means I have to pay more for it

My uterus has a congenital abnormality. We could just as easily decide to tax all people with autism higher amounts, because autism can be genetic and their children might need more 121 time at school so the tax could go towards school care. Or blind people could contribute a higher tax towards public transport etc.

But fuck you the people who are saying its not a silver bullet but an idea or not to get emotional about it. I will get as emotional as I fucking want about the fact I am devastated I can't have children and now some prick has decided that means I need to be taxed more.

I'm pretty sure those same people would be up in arms if the article has suggested parents get taxed more because their children cost the state more.

Exactly! We’ve spent £50k on IVF, soon to be £60k. It’s not for want of fvckkng trying that we don’t have kids!

IT’S NOT A CHOICE TO BE CHILDLESS!

Dancingwithhyenas · 04/07/2022 16:39

I think it’s really interesting idea to encourage our society to think very differently about children.

Emotionalsupportviper · 04/07/2022 16:41

Not everyone is childless by choice.

Some people can't have children. Others may have lost their child/ children - this is just cruel.

WeAreTheHeroes · 04/07/2022 16:41

Surely this would disproportionately affect gay couples and is therefore discriminatory?

It's a bonkers idea to penalise those who don't have children, whatever the reason they are childless.

SleepSleepRaveAsleep · 04/07/2022 16:42

I think they need to improve things for working parents, so better maternity/paternity pay, parental leave and of course cheaper childcare. I've no idea where this money would come from though? Taxing people who don't have children isn't the the answer, could you imagine the outcry if someone was gay and paying more tax because they dont have children, can't see it going down well!

Shehasadiamondinthesky · 04/07/2022 16:43

What crap - there are all kinds of reasons why people don't have kids. My DiL has brittle diabetes and is certainly not well enough to get pregnant. So I'll have no grandchildren, to have children for her would be extremely irresponsible.
What about those who cannot have children?

GCRich · 04/07/2022 16:43

Traveller3367 · 04/07/2022 13:45

That article is extreme and I don't agree with the concept but there needs to be an acknowledgement of the importance of having children and a next generation. Having children seems to be viewed as a selfish act. It's as if so many people think they are doing the world a favour by not having kids because of over population and climate change but then what happens when there aren't enough young people to work and pay taxes? Society collapses!
I do think nurturing the future generations should have more importance in the narrative of society

Erm - immigration can be used to fill the gap!

riesenrad · 04/07/2022 16:43

Fluffycloudland77 · 04/07/2022 16:14

Surely if less are born less will live to old age and it’ll even out?

Yes it will. There may be a couple of messy decades where we have more elderly than young, but with the climate emergency we are going to have that anyway.

tillytown · 04/07/2022 16:43

None of my group of friends have kids, not because they can't or don't want them, its because none of us can afford our own homes, none of us earn enough, and none of us have jobs that would let us be able to actually parent a child. And most importantly, they know that if they broke up with the childs father they would be completely fucked over with child support and wouldn't be able to feed the kid. Fix housing, fix the cost of living, fix the work until you die culture, and fix how you support single parents, and then you'll get more babies.

HesterShaw1 · 04/07/2022 16:45

Do you get how absolutely heartless and unempathetic your comment was to someone who clearly absolutely wanted children and couldn't have them.

I have been where you are. It's easy and natural to take every last utterance people with children make completely personally. But there was nothing that the poster you quoted said that isn't true - having children costs a fortune. People who say "all they need is love" are wrong.

Phrenologistsfinger · 04/07/2022 16:45

@Dancingwithhyenas and would taxing disabled people more also not be an ‘interesting idea’? They cost society. The elderly have assets (as a class) are expensive and economically useless, let’s tax them too. Do need an ‘interesting rethink’ about our elderly as they are at the other end of our demographic bulge?

FGS, it is terrifying that anyone is taking this even remotely seriously.

Threepeonies · 04/07/2022 16:47

Dancingwithhyenas · 04/07/2022 16:39

I think it’s really interesting idea to encourage our society to think very differently about children.

Would you also think it was an interesting idea to ban abortion to raise child birth rates

Would you also think it was an interesting idea to enforce arranged marriages to raise child birth rates

Would you also think it was an interesting idea to stop women from working to raise child birth rates

Would you also think it was an interesting idea to ban contraception to raise child birth rates

Would you also think it was an interesting idea to ban homosexuality to raise child birth rates (plenty of children before have been born to women who would not otherwise have had them because they had no choice but to marry)

Would you also think it was an interesting idea if parents were forced to adopt children who were abandoned because of some of the above practices?

Would you think it was an interesting idea if fertile poor women were forced to become surrogates for rich childless couples to avoid this tax?

Or is it just when it only impacts childless people and not the rest of the population its an interesting idea?

AllTheDancers · 04/07/2022 16:48

Kinsters · 04/07/2022 16:36

I don't understand why immigration isn't more widely accepted as the obvious answer to an aging population. I live in Malaysia and they have a specific visa for domestic workers from specified lower income countries, you can sponsor a domestic worker if you've got young kids or are elderly.

Possibly because we don't want to exploit people from low income countries and try to control immigration by ensuring its for legitimate reasons?

EL8888 · 04/07/2022 16:49

@Ducksinthebath quite. People with no children don’t use lots of services but still end up paying for them indirectly

I have had 2 failed rounds of IVF so would l get discount, as l have tried quite hard to have children?!

Threepeonies · 04/07/2022 16:50

HesterShaw1 · 04/07/2022 16:45

Do you get how absolutely heartless and unempathetic your comment was to someone who clearly absolutely wanted children and couldn't have them.

I have been where you are. It's easy and natural to take every last utterance people with children make completely personally. But there was nothing that the poster you quoted said that isn't true - having children costs a fortune. People who say "all they need is love" are wrong.

That reply to that comment was horrific.

That comment was personal. It was a comment to a poster who said they were desperately sad they couldn't have children. To which another poster replied to them specifically and personally that at least they would be richer.

If it had been a general comment on the thread then that's one thing. But to a person directly, no thats heartless and unempathetic and very very personal.

onthefencesitter · 04/07/2022 16:52

tillytown · 04/07/2022 16:43

None of my group of friends have kids, not because they can't or don't want them, its because none of us can afford our own homes, none of us earn enough, and none of us have jobs that would let us be able to actually parent a child. And most importantly, they know that if they broke up with the childs father they would be completely fucked over with child support and wouldn't be able to feed the kid. Fix housing, fix the cost of living, fix the work until you die culture, and fix how you support single parents, and then you'll get more babies.

my SIL in Israel is renting and she is pregnant with her first DC. Indeed the housing crisis in Israel is even more serious than in the UK (it is much more expensive and private renting is also precarious; you need a 30% deposit to buy in israel etc). Indeed the birth rate in israel is the highest in the OECD; its quite common for secular israeli women with careers to have children. Childcare provision is much better and the child benefits are better, but life is still expensive so I would not say that it is child friendly esp from a finances perspective.

my DH and I live in London and own our flat and probably on a higher household income, but we are still waiting despite being happily married for 8 years (I am 30 this year) cos I plan to upgrade in the next few years and want to do so without a child being factored in the affordability criteria.

I think the reason why my SIL is pregnant and I am not has less to do with our individual financial situations. Its because Israel is a much more tribal society and they celebrate families and children. The UK is much more individualistic and this influences our decisions.

This is an excerpt from an article:

onthefencesitter · 04/07/2022 16:52

onthefencesitter · 04/07/2022 16:52

my SIL in Israel is renting and she is pregnant with her first DC. Indeed the housing crisis in Israel is even more serious than in the UK (it is much more expensive and private renting is also precarious; you need a 30% deposit to buy in israel etc). Indeed the birth rate in israel is the highest in the OECD; its quite common for secular israeli women with careers to have children. Childcare provision is much better and the child benefits are better, but life is still expensive so I would not say that it is child friendly esp from a finances perspective.

my DH and I live in London and own our flat and probably on a higher household income, but we are still waiting despite being happily married for 8 years (I am 30 this year) cos I plan to upgrade in the next few years and want to do so without a child being factored in the affordability criteria.

I think the reason why my SIL is pregnant and I am not has less to do with our individual financial situations. Its because Israel is a much more tribal society and they celebrate families and children. The UK is much more individualistic and this influences our decisions.

This is an excerpt from an article:

'But while elsewhere in the West, middle-class families might limit the number of children they have because of the cost of raising them, in Israel that rationale is heard less frequently.
Ron Ganot, who was selling collapsible, lightweight wagons for children at the BabyLand event, says he and his wife are expecting their third child. Family is central to his life, he says, and he gets together every week with relatives.
“We definitely need more money, and we have rising expenses,” he says, “but I want a large family and the cost of living won’t stop us.”

carefullycourageous · 04/07/2022 16:52

CraftyGin · 04/07/2022 13:51

Childless adults don't get child benefits, so that a bit like a reverse tax.

Confused childless adults don't have the costs involved in raising a child so don't need the benefit.
Not receiving a benefit is nothing like a 'reverse tax'.

onthefencesitter · 04/07/2022 16:53

*quite common for secular israeli women to have 3 children...

carefullycourageous · 04/07/2022 16:54

riesenrad · 04/07/2022 16:43

Yes it will. There may be a couple of messy decades where we have more elderly than young, but with the climate emergency we are going to have that anyway.

It would take ages and be really very grim until it does.

antelopevalley · 04/07/2022 16:55

So taxing people who are infertile?
Taxing those who know they should not have children and so do not?
Sounds a very poorly thought out idea.

Cornettoninja · 04/07/2022 16:55

riesenrad · 04/07/2022 16:43

Yes it will. There may be a couple of messy decades where we have more elderly than young, but with the climate emergency we are going to have that anyway.

Exactly, if anything we want to discourage birth rates long term (and that’s what’s predicted) because the forecasts are that we don’t have the environment to support this many people at this level of resource consumption. That’s also the reason a childless tax is highly unlikely.

You’ll get short termist politicians trying to prop it up with less overt taxes and policies but if they were after a quick solution to the population burden they’d be looking at reducing the bulge before they hit retirement not the bottom.

MercurialMonday · 04/07/2022 16:55

https://www.newstatesman.com/comment/2022/07/why-the-birth-rate-is-falling

But there’s something more specific to the UK happening, too. For the last few years, the number of women who don’t have kids by their 30th birthday has climbed steadily. But the number who don’t have them by 45 — the point at which the ONS says, in a phrase unnervingly reminiscent of Kazuo Ishiguro’s Never Let Me Go, women “complete childbearing” — has remained fairly flat since the early 2000s. The obvious reading of this data is that women are leaving it later to have children; having fewer kids and a lower national fertility rate are the inevitable results.

Why would they be doing this? This is where we get to the easy question I mentioned: because having a child requires both money and stability, and for more than a decade now the entire world seems to have been conspiring to deny the under-40s either. Since 2007 this country and its economy has rolled from crisis to crisis: the crash, the recession, austerity, the next recession brought about by austerity, Brexit, the pandemic, another recession (a really big one this time) exacerbated by the war in Ukraine. Anyone under 35 has never known the good times.

What they have known, though, is an economy in which wages barely rise, a huge pile of debt if they’re a graduate and a housing market in which the only way to attain secure housing is to buy but the only way of buying is to inherit money, move a long way from the best jobs markets or, preferably, both. Throw in the cost of childcare, often compared to a second mortgage — which, given the size of mortgages these days, is no small deal — and the whole venture seems prohibitively, terrifyingly expensive.

Basically this ^^ and nothing will be done as it's too big and hard.

We're a decade older but got hit badly in 2007 and had been struggling before then due to getting on housing ladder by ourselves no inheritance and having kids relatively young DH was 30. We had our last just before and it was mainly dire and dangerous maternity care that put us off more a lack of job security and housing played a role as well.