to think mumsnet would be the one place you wouldnt get pulled down!!

[BroodyBaby]

Ok sorry if this comes out a rant, or a whinge but i am hormonal!!

Today ive posted on a few threads, one about a name, and have been told its Awful and not real, ok yes valid opinions but a simple, i dont like that, thats not for me would have been less aggressive??? i know im probably being a bit precious!!

Also this morning told not welcome on a ttc thread as i am not bding right now as am making financial preparations etc before the act!!

I love this site really i do but why do people have to come accross in such a bullish way!! It really makes you feel like your always wrong, ignore... hormonal...

I agree Kew there are always those in a worse position than you. My point was that there are some people who simply won't listen to anothers point of view simply because they aren't an "opld hand" at the situation, and I think that is belittling and disrespectful. Any way must go get dd from school.

I don't think you've offended anyone .. is anyone offended?

i didnt mean it like that, im a non confrontational person, so i just generally dont react well to conflict of any discription, perhaps coming from a back ground of domestic violence is the reason, I am not crying at all and i didnt mean offence to anyone,or be dramatic. im sorry Kew that you've not been able to have children and have the utmost respect for those who go on to adopt.

not so mildmannered it seems janitor

well as to mn being somewhere that you won't get pulled down. or up.er you probably will be..so your misconception has been righted i guess

I have never been on the ttc threads on mumsnet - because I don't want to add to my obsessiveness about cycles. However, we have been actively ttcing for a year and a half. It is increasingly obvious to us that, in real life, those who have never had fertility problems have no concept of how it feels.

YABU, planning to ttc is not the same as actively ttcing. Like almost anyone who describes themselves a "sensitive person" you have not been particularly sensitive or thoughtful. A better description would be "touchy".

oh don't have any respect for me - I did it for entirely selfish reasons and am every bit as inadequate a parent as any other (thankfully DS doesn't seem to mind)

I don't think you've done anything wrong at all broodybaby, if people want to take the hump thats they're problem. But I don't anyone's taken the hump.

aw tmmj. Hun xxxxx

mild mannered i posted without taking two minutes to stop and see the jokey side of it...

Upwind, have you read the thread broodybaby refers to, it's all very polite and not at all insensitive or have I missed something?

comeoveneer - I agree to an extent, but have found that as far as ttcing goes, the people who think they are experts are the ones who have got pregnant easily. Again, and again you get the same, well meaning, advice.

Actually it is the people who have tried everything who know the most, even if they have never been successful.

rebelmum - I meant it was starting this thread in annoyance that was a bit touchy of the OP!

I honestly used to think the person saff is referring to was a bit out there as well.

But I now see she is always uncompromisingly honest and many times just funny. It is never easy to understand in what context things are said when online. But I would not say she is all bad...great posts if nothing else.

And she usually says the things I wish I had the bravery to say.

ah! there's me thinking i was really thick skinned.

god knows how many insults have passed me by without me realising

Me too.

If everyone hates me, I am glad I don't realise it!!

Must be very tiring feeling insulted all the time. Fortunately, I don't believe that anyone has ever managed to insult me without meaning to

Exasperate and irritate me, oh yes!

Yes YABU. What makes you think you wouldnt get pulled down on MN? Its not full of stepford wifes who are always nice to each other. Its a site with real people of very varied personalities, feelings, hormones, wit and sarcasm. which is what makes it so damn addictive!

I don't understand which post is meant to be insulting on that thread

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for the ttc boards.

I joined one when I was planning for DS. DD wasn't exactly planned, I had never actively ttc before so I plonked myself down, announced when I would be starting and decided to get to know them.

They were lovely and welcoming to me, and were very good and non-arsey when I sodded off a fortnight later to join an antenatal thread

It would never have occurred to me that you had to have been trying for x amount of time to join, just that you want to try for a baby.

flame, no-one ever said you had to have been ttc for a set amount of time before you were allowed on to the ttc boards, but those boards are so diverse that not all threads will be suitable for all that are ttc. for eg there are the general ttc jan/feb/whatever month of the year threads where generally people chat/talk about their experiences/complain that "dh didn't want to do it last night so how will he ever impregnate me", but there are also the more specific topics, and not everyone's circumstances would apply to all of them.

I wouldn't dream of going on the ttc after miscarriage threads for instance, because I've never had a miscarriage so couldn't possibly relate to what they are going through, similarly the chlomid/IVF threads. But I could go on the ttc for for ever threads because we have been ttc for nearly three years now, (although I don't actually go on ttc threads any more), but similarly I wouldn't expect someone who had just started ttc to go on one of those threads because again, they couldn't really relate to how it is to have ttc for years, iyswim?

Ah good point - I was on a "feb baby" one