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Original poster

to think mumsnet would be the one place you wouldnt get pulled down!!

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BroodyBaby · 16/01/2008 14:10

Ok sorry if this comes out a rant, or a whinge but i am hormonal!!

Today ive posted on a few threads, one about a name, and have been told its Awful and not real, ok yes valid opinions but a simple, i dont like that, thats not for me would have been less aggressive??? i know im probably being a bit precious!!

Also this morning told not welcome on a ttc thread as i am not bding right now as am making financial preparations etc before the act!!

I love this site really i do but why do people have to come accross in such a bullish way!! It really makes you feel like your always wrong, ignore... hormonal...

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BoysAreLikeDogs · 16/01/2008 14:12

You do need to develop a thick skin I am afraid.

Plod on

bubblejumping · 16/01/2008 14:13

Some people are bullish. But there are many more very lovely people too.
Next time you are out, buy yourself some flowers to feel a bit better. I am sending you some virtual ones.

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BroodyBaby · 16/01/2008 14:13

Thanks for the reply, im prob being hormonal and sensitive.... sometimes get the feeling some of the ppl on here are those troll thingies who just like argueing

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notalone · 16/01/2008 14:13

Ah hon - most people on here are fantastic. Yes, you will get the odd one who likes to start an argument is who is rude, as you do in real life, but this is a fab place to be honestly! Ignore the meany ones - you should be welcome on any board.

FlllightAttendant · 16/01/2008 14:13

Hang on a mo, wasn't it you having a go at someone on another thread for 'whinging'???!

FioFio · 16/01/2008 14:14

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Fimbo · 16/01/2008 14:15

Haven't seen the other threads you are on about, but guessing the said word would be "babydancing". Non?

Don't like the word myself.

mylittleponey · 16/01/2008 14:16

I was told I'd spelt my name wrong!

BoysAreLikeDogs · 16/01/2008 14:16

Erm notalone I wouldn't dare to venture on to the post-natal threads again. Got into an awful lot of trouble, so I disagree that all are welcome everywhere.

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BroodyBaby · 16/01/2008 14:16

yes thanks flight attendant and i did apologise profusely if yourecall,would of thought this was one place mood swings were accepted without virtual social outcasting!!

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FlllightAttendant · 16/01/2008 14:17

This is why it happens...

Sometimes people are just in a bad mood. Try to ignore it. Usually they will have the good grace to apologise just as you did.

FlllightAttendant · 16/01/2008 14:18

Sorry crossed posts!

notalone · 16/01/2008 14:18

Really Boysarelikedogs (love the name lol)? Not been on there yet. Was just assuming everyone was the same as on the boards I go on

FlllightAttendant · 16/01/2008 14:19

Sorry you got shouted at on the TTC boards. That seems a bit unfair.

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BroodyBaby · 16/01/2008 14:19

no fimbo,think you've misunderstood

i was told that i wasnt "in the right place" on the ttc board because i wasnt actually at it like a rabbit atm so that upset me cos ttc is about a lot more than sex..

and i was told a name i like as an accompliment to a name was "awful" and consonants strung together!! ( actually JAE is a consonant and two vowels HA!) but thanks for post

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wannaBe · 16/01/2008 14:20

were you actually told in as many words that you are not welcome on the ttc thread?

it can be difficult esp on certain threads ie ttc where posters all know each other and discuss their personal circs etc. I know that when I was on the ttc boards some of us started a thread for those that had been ttc for a while as we all felt like outsiders on the other ttc threads and we all knew each other's circumstances etc, and then someone from the other ttc thread came along, namechanged and said how dare we start our own thread.... it honestly can be a bit like the school playground sometimes.

I do agree with fio though in that text does not accurately convey the manner in which a statement is made, and that comments can easily be misconstrewed.

sugarmatches · 16/01/2008 14:22

Um, I have never posted on the ttc board, but I know some of those women have been trying for a baby for a very long time. I really don't know the details of what thread you were on, but I am sure that is one of the boards where emotions run very high. Maybe you just got someone on a bad day.

As far as the name goes...get used to that. There is some serious piss taking sometimes and secretly that is why I love MN.

I have gotten my fair share, but don't take it too personally. It is a virtual community and you can get away with things you can't in rl.

Keep posting, most MNers are such sweeties [cheesy smile emoticon]
!!!!

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lulumama · 16/01/2008 14:22

if you ask for opinions here, you will get full and frank honesty.

the TTC boards.. there are some very close knit communities within the TTC boards, some of whom have been TTC for years, or have suffered multiple miscarriages and other truamas... so for them, someone who is just 'toying' with the idea, is perhaps not welcome on that partic. thread.

there are 100s of threads, you cannot fit into or onto all of them, there are parts of the site i never go on to...... and parts where i am right at home

you need to just chill about it, and switch off the computer if it it bothers you

Kewcumber · 16/01/2008 14:23

people will tend to tell your here if they don;t like something. We're not always very protective of feelings unless it over a very serious matter but certianly IME no punches pulled on the name threads.

Someone being a bit blunt with you is not social outcasting. I don't know the situation with the ttc thread but I can imagine that people are sensitive if they are in the thick of it to someone not currently trying.

Fimbo · 16/01/2008 14:23

Ah sorry. Never ventured on the ttc boards myself.

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BroodyBaby · 16/01/2008 14:24

The thread was called TTC sanctuary and i said you can come and join our thread and the thread starter person said "this is a thread for people who are actually ttc, that thread is for people getting ready"

i do aggree that ive proably just took offence silly me

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lulumama · 16/01/2008 14:25

i think you have blown this out of proportion, you were directed to a more suitable thread...

the sanctuary is for those who have had and are having a very hard time TTC

have a cup of tea and start again !!

rebelmum1 · 16/01/2008 14:25

What do you expect from a site full of mothers